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as some of you might know i have endometriosis, doctors have said it will take me longer to get pregnant, and plenty practising lol and i should be fine, they said on a fertiltly point of view things look good, because my tubes were free of the endometriosis. however i asked one doctor if i could get pregnant, and he said to me, WELL I WOULDNT PUT MONEY ON IT. ive saw about 6 different doctors and he was the only thats said that.
the problem is, everytime i see a pregnant women, my heart bleeds and i feel so depressed and upset and theres been times ive felt suicidal, incase i cant get pregnant. women were put on this earth to conceive and i might not be able to, i feel totally worthless and just a waste of space, and i feel i dont have a purpose to be alive sometimes.i cant even have a job because i cant work because im always in so much pain with the endometriosis. my dream in life is to settle down and have a baby, thats why i get so upset when i see someone pregnant, and if i see a newborn baby i just want to hold him/her, as i may never get the chance. how can i stop feeling like this?? |
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I think before you start getting so upset you should wait until you find out for sure if you can have children or not. I understand its hard to not worry about, because i know I would. Also, if the worst did occur, have you ever thought of adopting?
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i know u probley think this is rong,,,,,,but spend some time with kids that don't mind,,,,,,,hate one another,,,mean stubbern,,,,in other words some real bad kids,,,,,,,that might help,,,,,or try woring with kids,,,,,then u might seeing th clock hit 5 pm to where u can go to a quiet home,,,,,just a thought,,,,,,but i do understand
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debs ..i think you need some councelling and talk to some one love who understands..here isnt a good a place to talk about this i dont think!! its a private thing about you and you need to confide in someone who can help you...i am sorry though ...
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Debbie, what do most of the doctors tell you are the chances?
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Remember doctors don't know everything. You're time will come.
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work with children, volunteer at a hospital, be a child care worker, find an orphanage where you can be of service.....volunteer at a batter womens center or homeless shelter for women...there are many many children that would benefit from the love you have to give...dont withold it just because they didnt come from your womb.
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My daughter has that.They are doing some kind of surgery on her in a week.She is always in pain. Sorry to hear that but don't down yourself for that.
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I think before you start getting so upset you should wait until you find out for sure if you can have children or not. I understand its hard to not worry about, because i know I would. Also, if the worst did occur, have you ever thought of adopting? there is no more they can do for me, ive had lots of surgery and the endometriosis keeps coming back, its even spread and twisted my bowells. also because ive had so much surgery i have lots of scar tissue, which will alsomake it harder to conceive. |
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debs ..i think you need some councelling and talk to some one love who understands..here isnt a good a place to talk about this i dont think!! its a private thing about you and you need to confide in someone who can help you...i am sorry though ... ive tried to talk to people and i cant, i just cant stop crying, and i cry so bad i have a panic attack and end up on the floor. thats why i posted on here, i havnt got to talk to anyone. |
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Deb.. I'm trying to IM you and I also wrote you a quick email.. I have answers for you :)
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My daughter has that.They are doing some kind of surgery on her in a week.She is always in pain. Sorry to hear that but don't down yourself for that. im in pain constantly, and its very bad pain, to the point sometimes i cant walk. ive had loads of surgery and its all failed, its just made things worse because all the operations have caused lots of scar tissue they have said theres no more they can do for me apart from a hysterectomy |
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My daughter will have a fit if she can't make me a grandbaby. Hope she comes out alright. Well good luck!
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first off, i sympathize with you. i have 2 friends...one has endometriosis and cant concieve....the other one can conceive, but cant carry it past 2 months.....they both long for babies..
i also had an aunt who tried for 20 years to conceive...never could. but she was not worthless. she was a beautiful person and a gift to all who knew her. but i think for you to think that you are worthless and a waste of space -as you put it- is just wrong. you have to be happy with who you are. you are a gift from god to your parents. that makes you worth something in its own right....you have wonderful qualities and need to focus on those instead of focusing on the bad. childbearing does not make a person "valued". |
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as some of you might know i have endometriosis, doctors have said it will take me longer to get pregnant, and plenty practising lol and i should be fine, they said on a fertiltly point of view things look good, because my tubes were free of the endometriosis. however i asked one doctor if i could get pregnant, and he said to me, WELL I WOULDNT PUT MONEY ON IT. ive saw about 6 different doctors and he was the only thats said that. the problem is, everytime i see a pregnant women, my heart bleeds and i feel so depressed and upset and theres been times ive felt suicidal, incase i cant get pregnant. women were put on this earth to conceive and i might not be able to, i feel totally worthless and just a waste of space, and i feel i dont have a purpose to be alive sometimes.i cant even have a job because i cant work because im always in so much pain with the endometriosis. my dream in life is to settle down and have a baby, thats why i get so upset when i see someone pregnant, and if i see a newborn baby i just want to hold him/her, as i may never get the chance. how can i stop feeling like this?? Ok, sweety, here goes my 2 cents worth...As a working nurse, I can tell you first hand that some doctors are peckerheads and will give you the answer that will make them have to put out the least amount of effort to explain....the problems you have are not the end of the world...if your tubes and ovaries are clear you have a decent chance at a normal conception and pregnancy...you will never know what you can do until you try....don't let one ass of a man put you in the dumps like this...God handles all things to the best possible outcome...and I have yet to see one of these doctors walk on water...some just think they do.... 
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The doctor told one of my sisters that she couldnt have kids. She wishes she could have kids too.
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first off, i sympathize with you. i have 2 friends...one has endometriosis and cant concieve....the other one can conceive, but cant carry it past 2 months.....they both long for babies.. i also had an aunt who tried for 20 years to conceive...never could. but she was not worthless. she was a beautiful person and a gift to all who knew her. but i think for you to think that you are worthless and a waste of space -as you put it- is just wrong. you have to be happy with who you are. you are a gift from god to your parents. that makes you worth something in its own right....you have wonderful qualities and need to focus on those instead of focusing on the bad. childbearing does not make a person "valued". i do feel worthless, my dream is to have a baby. if i cant i dont want to be here anymore. im in constant severe pain, every day, the pain reminds you, you may not be able to get pregnant. also when the pain is so bad i think is it spreading to my bowell again, also i had a big growth in my womb, they thought i had cancer, it took them 3 hours to remove it, and it was a massive growth of blood,not cancer, it was a choclate cyst. so when the pain gets bad i get scared its that again, and if that happened again, im less likely to conceive because its more surgery. 
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DEBBIE
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as some of you might know i have endometriosis, doctors have said it will take me longer to get pregnant, and plenty practising lol and i should be fine, they said on a fertiltly point of view things look good, because my tubes were free of the endometriosis. however i asked one doctor if i could get pregnant, and he said to me, WELL I WOULDNT PUT MONEY ON IT. ive saw about 6 different doctors and he was the only thats said that. the problem is, everytime i see a pregnant women, my heart bleeds and i feel so depressed and upset and theres been times ive felt suicidal, incase i cant get pregnant. women were put on this earth to conceive and i might not be able to, i feel totally worthless and just a waste of space, and i feel i dont have a purpose to be alive sometimes.i cant even have a job because i cant work because im always in so much pain with the endometriosis. my dream in life is to settle down and have a baby, thats why i get so upset when i see someone pregnant, and if i see a newborn baby i just want to hold him/her, as i may never get the chance. how can i stop feeling like this?? Ok, sweety, here goes my 2 cents worth...As a working nurse, I can tell you first hand that some doctors are peckerheads and will give you the answer that will make them have to put out the least amount of effort to explain....the problems you have are not the end of the world...if your tubes and ovaries are clear you have a decent chance at a normal conception and pregnancy...you will never know what you can do until you try....don't let one ass of a man put you in the dumps like this...God handles all things to the best possible outcome...and I have yet to see one of these doctors walk on water...some just think they do.... [/quote they said my tubes were perfect, and the endometriosis is on the back of my ovaries, but it has spread to my bowells, and as time goes by it spreads even more, so it could be in more places now. |
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while this is a very painful conditiom, you cannot afford to give up. i used to know one lady with that condition. she decided to remove affected tissues, etc after several years of failed attempts to have a baby.she is now living a happy life.
another lady became pregnant after several years with the same condition. doctors cannot say with 100 percent certainty that you will or will not become pregnant. your chances to become pregnant is greatly reduced. maybe God has a plan for your life. one that does not include having children of your own. you can have a very happy and productive life even without children. please do not ever consider negative self destructive thoughts. if you need to talk email me through this site. good luck. |
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