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Topic: Webcams
franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 02/19/08 08:54 AM
Maybe they have become a necessary evil? just wondering? I think so... I think if you're going to be involved in internet dating, then you should have a current pic, and a webcam. I get irritated when people always want to see mine but they don't have one in return. It shouldn't be a one way thing. To many people try to hide and then it all comes out later. Most times I would have accepted someone anyway, it's the fact that they lied that pisses me off. Me too jill - so what if you have a few extra lbs say so .. or you are losing your hair .. I have stretch marks form having babies .. No one is perfect and I don't expect them to be .. it is the imperfections in most folks that I love.. Jill and shoes, not to be misconstrued, just expressing my opinion and observation: too much emphasis is made on pictures and webcams;they should be used by the individuals discretion. I wont post millions of pics to suit anyones quota, webcam is out of the question for me, most conversations start innocent until someone takes it to another level - so I avoid both (I dont care what my friends look like, their character matters more to me) jmo as for being overweight (whose standards should we follow) to you I may seem overweight, to me I feel just fine and dandy so who is right and who is wrong? I think to each their own - get to know each other, when both ready meet and start a friendship. If it develops into romance/love etc, great!!! again jmo

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 08:55 AM
so now armed with information, can you tell me what is a decent one, I would imagine there are many brands and types to choose from?

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 02/19/08 08:56 AM
I say a webcam is a must have item. There is nothing better than to see the laugh, the smile, the look of confusion, horror, whatever it might be, during a chat or even phone conversation. It is the next best thing to being in person, and it truly gives you a sense of them, as much as a computer image can. You are more relaxed, and in an LDR it can help you feel like you're closer than you are. I know in my current situation, I always put lipstick on and checked my hair before I turned it on... and sometimes put perfume on, just as I would if we were meeting IRL. Might sound stupid, but for me it's how it was. I was head over heels infatuated, like a schoolgirl. I've also used my cam for family to see my son, and he to see them. When you live far away from family it's truly interactive for kids, even if only for a few minutes. All in all, it's just a way to further a connection. A good way. And it assures us the person we are talking to is at least the same gender and age they say they are...

showme12345 Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 134	Tue 02/19/08 08:59 AM
But the camera adds ten pounds.

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 08:59 AM
I say a webcam is a must have item. There is nothing better than to see the laugh, the smile, the look of confusion, horror, whatever it might be, during a chat or even phone conversation. It is the next best thing to being in person, and it truly gives you a sense of them, as much as a computer image can. You are more relaxed, and in an LDR it can help you feel like you're closer than you are. I know in my current situation, I always put lipstick on and checked my hair before I turned it on... and sometimes put perfume on, just as I would if we were meeting IRL. Might sound stupid, but for me it's how it was. I was head over heels infatuated, like a schoolgirl. I've also used my cam for family to see my son, and he to see them. When you live far away from family it's truly interactive for kids, even if only for a few minutes. All in all, it's just a way to further a connection. A good way. And it assures us the person we are talking to is at least the same gender and age they say they are... I would totally do the same, do a little primping. If you feel like you look good, you are going to project that in every other sense. yes, I can see how this would be nice for family and grandkids as well. My mom and husband winter in Arizona, so they would love to see and talk to my boys.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 02/19/08 08:59 AM
All in all, it's just a way to further a connection. A good way. And it assures us the person we are talking to is at least the same gender and age they say they are... I'll second that motion! Although you can never be certain!! tricksy tricksy hobbitses

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:00 AM
But the camera adds ten pounds. that is a horrifiying thought!!

showme12345 Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 134	Tue 02/19/08 09:01 AM
so now armed with information, can you tell me what is a decent one, I would imagine there are many brands and types to choose from? Lots of different kinds out there, go for higher mega pixel ones, the cheaper ones are so bad, all you see is grainy pictures.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 02/19/08 09:01 AM
But the camera adds ten pounds. that is a horrifiying thought!! you have to know when to zoom out and zoom in!!!!!!

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:04 AM
But the camera adds ten pounds. that is a horrifiying thought!! you have to know when to zoom out and zoom in!!!!!! lol, I was also thinking of stratic positioning!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 02/19/08 09:04 AM Edited by MirrorMirror on Tue 02/19/08 09:08 AM


sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:04 AM
so now armed with information, can you tell me what is a decent one, I would imagine there are many brands and types to choose from? Lots of different kinds out there, go for higher mega pixel ones, the cheaper ones are so bad, all you see is grainy pictures. thanks for the tip!

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:05 AM
I wish people would quit bothering me about it I'm confussed....help me...

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 02/19/08 09:05 AM
I look at it like this- if I want to meet the person, I want to see them on cam. And I would take it as a HUGE HUGE TREMENDOUS red flag if they refused to do so.. I'd expect them to appear as they would when we met, and I'd expect nothing less. I do not use them for anything other than G or PG activities, although to each his own. My webcam was not expensive, I think about $20, and the picture is just fine to suit my purposes.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 02/19/08 09:06 AM
I wish people would quit bothering me about it I'm confussed....help me... not you

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:08 AM
I wish people would quit bothering me about it I'm confussed....help me... not you I know, hard to believe huh! But it's true!

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:09 AM
ok guys, nice chatting with all of ya, thanks for the advice and tips, but I have to go and get some work done. Have a great day if I don't talk to ya later.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 02/19/08 09:09 AM
I wish people would quit bothering me about it I'm confussed....help me... not you I know, hard to believe huh! But it's true! I know your confusing the hell outta me

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 02/19/08 09:10 AM
jeep - i think the technology is moving very rapidly. i haven't used one in forever...actually. but if you ask around you might be able to get some demonstrations so you can see for yourself. i'd think that there should be some pretty decent inexpensive ones out there these days which would do nicely for the purpose of having a conversation...

sweetjeep Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 1165	Tue 02/19/08 09:11 AM
I wish people would quit bothering me about it I'm confussed....help me... not you I know, hard to believe huh! But it's true! I know your confusing the hell outta me It's how I roll!!! ok, got to go!!