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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ??
I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. |
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! 
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Edited by
TheShadow
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! When you been through enough in life to realize that most are not real with themselves and being on the net. it is really not that had to hold back. To many people have know idea on who they really are inside and know how to express that. I for one do and never had any problem with it. it's just knowing if i'm going to let myself go and open up to that person. I want to know if they can actually handle what i have to offer. I'm more then most women can handle and thats not like you think it is. It's that I give of myself in a way that scares women that don't know how to except the realness in me. |
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. interesting ... I like your points |
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! When you been through enough in life to realize that most are not real with themselves and being on the net. it is really not that had to hold back. To many people have know idea on who they really are inside and know how to express that. I for one do and never had any problem with it. it's just knowing if i'm going to let myself go and open up to that person. I want to know if they can actually handle what i have to offer. I'm more then most women can handle and thats not like you think it is. It's that I give of myself in a way that scares women that don't know how to except the realness in me. good food for thought! |
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! When you been through enough in life to realize that most are not real with themselves and being on the net. it is really not that had to hold back. To many people have know idea on who they really are inside and know how to express that. I for one do and never had any problem with it. it's just knowing if i'm going to let myself go and open up to that person. I want to know if they can actually handle what i have to offer. I'm more then most women can handle and thats not like you think it is. It's that I give of myself in a way that scares women that don't know how to except the realness in me. I can't say that I disagree,,but will say, what has helped me with the walls, is finding me. That's what I "put out" there. and a funny things happens. I don't need the wall anymore, because once I come from my core, its a hell of a lot easier to see others who don't. From my expereince, holding back, only lets the ones who "can't handle me" think they can  Peace 
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! When you been through enough in life to realize that most are not real with themselves and being on the net. it is really not that had to hold back. To many people have know idea on who they really are inside and know how to express that. I for one do and never had any problem with it. it's just knowing if i'm going to let myself go and open up to that person. I want to know if they can actually handle what i have to offer. I'm more then most women can handle and thats not like you think it is. It's that I give of myself in a way that scares women that don't know how to except the realness in me. I can't say that I disagree,,but will say, what has helped me with the walls, is finding me. That's what I "put out" there. and a funny things happens. I don't need the wall anymore, because once I come from my core, its a hell of a lot easier to see others who don't. From my expereince, holding back, only lets the ones who "can't handle me" think they can Peace I think I was useing the wall expression because of the topic. I agree with knowing yourself and it's is and has been a better way. If I really think about it. If I had the wall up, i wouldnt be able to be who I am today. Thanks 
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<----puts up the shower curtain and peeks out every once in awhile....
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So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? I really never do that and this time around I have put up a wall, not that it will stay up. It's just what I need to do for me right now, it's to easy to fall for the wrong person and putting yourself through the headaches. The funny thing about that is most of us see it happening and do it anyway.... So at this point I wouldn't want anyone to get that close to me and I will put that out to whom I ever my talk to. I think a lot of this is and this is just my opinion. Some women try to make you fall for them as fast as you can and will push for it and i'm the type that will put you in your spot if your to pushy, but in a gental way. It takes time to really get to know me and when I find that one. She will know all of me and I will not hold back what so ever. It's scary to think that I might never again get that point where I would not hold back! When you been through enough in life to realize that most are not real with themselves and being on the net. it is really not that had to hold back. To many people have know idea on who they really are inside and know how to express that. I for one do and never had any problem with it. it's just knowing if i'm going to let myself go and open up to that person. I want to know if they can actually handle what i have to offer. I'm more then most women can handle and thats not like you think it is. It's that I give of myself in a way that scares women that don't know how to except the realness in me. I can't say that I disagree,,but will say, what has helped me with the walls, is finding me. That's what I "put out" there. and a funny things happens. I don't need the wall anymore, because once I come from my core, its a hell of a lot easier to see others who don't. From my expereince, holding back, only lets the ones who "can't handle me" think they can Peace I think I was useing the wall expression because of the topic. I agree with knowing yourself and it's is and has been a better way. If I really think about it. If I had the wall up, i wouldnt be able to be who I am today. Thanks For sure Shadow,,,each and everytime you post,,you let us all in,,,, And Thank you
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Very true Island. Very true.
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Here's the thing Angel. Time waits for no one. I say jump in but protect your heart from drowning by a life jacket eh? What am I gonna use for a life jacket?! I tend to give my all. ....Have to learn to reserve a bit without compromising what I have to offer - the best of what makes me, me.  When I get the life jacket thing worked out I'll buzz ya  and ya, I tend to give my all too ... *sigh* |
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"You have to feel the pain to get to the joy" And as another old saying goes: "Non ci sono rose senza spine" ....there are no roses without thorns. |
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"You have to feel the pain to get to the joy" And as another old saying goes: "Non ci sono rose senza spine" ....there are no roses without thorns. thanks for the interpretation little missy .. I would have been lost LOL |
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damn ...thats a tough task ...
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i was told that I push those that care about me away. I don't think its so much a wall i have built as it is the thought of, omg I have to stop this now before I get hurt. i was hurt pretty bad by two people i trusted more than anything or anyone else. so now I second guess my ability to trust my instincts. its sad but true
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I know that they say, "It is better to have love and lost, then to never have loved at all." For the people that believe that they have never really lost the "one". Recently I was involved with someone very special to me. It ended up that we are no longer together.
 We are still friends and see eachother often. He tells me that he loves me and is in love with me he just can't be with me. I have done somethings in the past and it affected our relationship. I sabotaged it because I was not used to good. What can I say? Hinesight is 50/50. If I could go back I would fix it. I have told him I never met to hurt him. If I could I would put him in a bubble. Life without him is hard. I want to move on, but find no one there. It is lonely and hard. So to say that it is better to have love and lost then to have never done it is wrong.....try loosing and tell me I am wrong!
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Edited by
Jess642
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Thu 02/21/08 11:08 PM
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I was watching "Something's Gotta Give" the other day .. Diane Keaton falls in love with Jack Nicholson. But he won't commit. They split. She cries & cries & cries  At her computer, on her bed, in the shower. Well you get the idea.... Then her daughter comes over, sees the mom crying and asks her what's wrong. Diane says "I'm in love" and the daughter says "I told you to self-protect" Diane comes back with "You don't really buy the stuff you say do you? You can't outsmart being hurt" Daughter says "I think it's worth trying" "You can't hide from love for the rest of your life because maybe it won't work out ... because maybe you'll become unglued. It's just not a way to live." ie .. falling in love may hurt but it's a fantastic feeling to BE in love .. Then she asks her daughter "I just have to ask you .. what in the WORLD are you waiting for?" So do you self-protect? Are you afraid of falling in love, of being hurt, so you keep yourself in 'walls up mode' ?? Hahaha, I swing between let it all hang out, bring it on... to slam up the three feet thick armour plate shields.. Either or, works for me...
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"You have to feel the pain to get to the joy" And as another old saying goes: "Non ci sono rose senza spine" ....there are no roses without thorns. So true " No hay rosas sin espinas" |
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yep, pretty much, pass me another brick please
 so for now it's FUNNN time 
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Yes, I'm still at the self protecting phase. It takes time to get over a long relationship, but at least I'm looking forward. Better than I was even 6 months ago, so 6 mos. from now shabam..should be much less scittish.-- I'm tired but that may be spelled incorrectly.
Nite 
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