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Ive been talking to this guy for quite some time. I am very open and honest about me, who I am, what I do, where I come from, etc....I hide nothing. I figure if you are going to date or whatever, it's not like they wont notice these things so be upfront! I dont believe in whipping any suprises on people that may not be pleasant. So after talking about all these things in the beginning, all was fine and acceptable. Now that we are talking about the possibility of taking things a step further I am getting guff. Can I change this, Can I change that, will I stop doing this.....WTH? I made it clear I do not want to be changed nor do I want to change anyone else. Now its like the control thing is kickin in....what is up with that?
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I don't know but take it for the sign that it is and move on because he *IS* who he is...He's not changing.
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Remind him of who you are, and what attracted him to you in the first place, then say why would you change that.
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ohhhhhhhhhhhh the changer!!!
What types of things does he want you to change? 
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Ive been talking to this guy for quite some time. I am very open and honest about me, who I am, what I do, where I come from, etc....I hide nothing. I figure if you are going to date or whatever, it's not like they wont notice these things so be upfront! I dont believe in whipping any suprises on people that may not be pleasant. So after talking about all these things in the beginning, all was fine and acceptable. Now that we are talking about the possibility of taking things a step further I am getting guff. Can I change this, Can I change that, will I stop doing this.....WTH? I made it clear I do not want to be changed nor do I want to change anyone else. Now its like the control thing is kickin in....what is up with that? oh hun, I love you just the way you are. 
I think everyone has an agenda that is hidden even from themselves. They see little things about a person that don't fit; but they want so badly to find someone that they ignore it for a while; but when it starts to become a reality, the little things they ignored become reality too. That being said, I can't imagine what anyone would want to change about you. If I was a guy, I would have moved in with you by now. 
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yeah i made it clear that i was honest from day one and why now is it an issue? like he thinks he got me hooked and he can now move right in and change me to what he wants. nope...you want me for what and who i am as is!
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Some people are like that... They are not so upfront letting things go then asking you to change. I agree darlin' I won't change for someone, if I need to change then I'm not the right person for them and vice versa.. I'm mean little tweaks that don't change who we are aren't a big deal.. It just depends on what they are....
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Welcome to my world..lol. Most women run scared as soon as they hear "mental illness" or "dentures". I always like to say the serenity prayer when these things happen, I figure if one can't accept me for me they're not worth my time anyway;^]
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Just be glad the changer showed his ugly head now and not down the road when things had gotten really serious....or worst yet moved in together or gotten married.....take as a sign and run run run run run and don't look back.....
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here is a small list:
1. quit smoking 2. make my roommate move out so we can be alone 3. no smoking in the house 4. my dog had puppies and they are in the bottom of my closet move them out 5. my dog not allowed to sleep with us those are just a few things. there are more, but you get the idea. yeah some may be small, but still...what the hell! |
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that is one of my big deals in life..and probably why I am still alone - is that I don't want to be with anyone who can't accept me for myself, who I am, the way I am. I don't want someone loving their own idea of who I am instead of the real thing. And the best friends in the world are people who know you well and love you anyway. Thazz what I'm looking for.
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My advice......drop him. Sooner the better. If it goes on, you'll start to resent....then hate and I don't want ANYONE to come to that state.....it's bad news. End it now, while you're still friends and can be on speaking terms.... That's my opinion.
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Welcome to my world..lol. Most women run scared as soon as they hear "mental illness" or "dentures". I always like to say the serenity prayer when these things happen, I figure if one can't accept me for me they're not worth my time anyway;^] Hey - I have mental illness and dentures! 
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Welcome to my world..lol. Most women run scared as soon as they hear "mental illness" or "dentures". I always like to say the serenity prayer when these things happen, I figure if one can't accept me for me they're not worth my time anyway;^] Hey - I have mental illness and dentures!
thats what i fell in love with you for!  
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say bye bye ..cant do with people like that
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here is a small list: 1. quit smoking 2. make my roommate move out so we can be alone 3. no smoking in the house 4. my dog had puppies and they are in the bottom of my closet move them out 5. my dog not allowed to sleep with us those are just a few things. there are more, but you get the idea. yeah some may be small, but still...what the hell! send him to the curb, babe. Sorry. I don't smoke..I don't want to be with a smoker. I don't pursue things with people who smoke because I don't have the idea that I can suck them in and get them to change later. It's just, hey you seem really nice but I want a non-smoker. This guy should have done that. |
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here is a small list: 1. quit smoking 2. make my roommate move out so we can be alone 3. no smoking in the house 4. my dog had puppies and they are in the bottom of my closet move them out 5. my dog not allowed to sleep with us those are just a few things. there are more, but you get the idea. yeah some may be small, but still...what the hell! Well that would do it for me...kick him to the curb |
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Humm all I can say is I'm whom I am either take me for me or hit the door see yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!
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Ive been talking to this guy for quite some time. I am very open and honest about me, who I am, what I do, where I come from, etc....I hide nothing. I figure if you are going to date or whatever, it's not like they wont notice these things so be upfront! I dont believe in whipping any suprises on people that may not be pleasant. So after talking about all these things in the beginning, all was fine and acceptable. Now that we are talking about the possibility of taking things a step further I am getting guff. Can I change this, Can I change that, will I stop doing this.....WTH? I made it clear I do not want to be changed nor do I want to change anyone else. Now its like the control thing is kickin in....what is up with that? RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!
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as for the dentures thing...that is insane! shallow and petty. yeah i have dental issues that ive had to have fixed due to my ex bashing my teeth out! some things are not your fault and if you have taken the steps to take care of it and obviously so if you have dentures, then so what? shame on them!
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