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Topic: A little irritated....
Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 01/26/08 11:03 AM
most of you know me...im pretty head strong and forward. i held nothing back from him. it was all good in the beginning...im really out of sorts on this one...took me by suprise! he chews tobacco! i never said give it up...its part of what he does, who he is...he loves tennis...should i say omg i hate tennis so you cant do that anymore? thats rediculous. i dont smoke in my bedroom, i am respectful of those who do not smoke. we smoke mostly on the lanai outside anyways...ughhhh and the whole dog thing....you guys know I LOVE MY DOG! she just had puppies one week ago today and they are in the bottom of my closet because its the warmest and safest for them right now. ughhhhhh grrrrrrrrrrrrr I'd tell him to either accept you for what and who you are and if he cant accept it.......then he has to leave. Never give up your entire life for someone who wants you to change everything....

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:04 AM
My ex husband flipped out on me for smoking too much.....he smoked but maybe only 3 a day........and smoked dope from the minute he woke up to the time he went to bed!!! But I was yelled at to the point of crying because I smoked too much!! sounds like double standards. at least you wont go to jail for a pack of what you smoke haha...yeah i had a best friend who quit smoking cigs and started the other like it was going out of style, she rode my ass about stopping smoking but everytime i lit a cig she lit a blunt lmao...doh DANG SHE must have been stone like all the time.... she was!

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:04 AM
most of you know me...im pretty head strong and forward. i held nothing back from him. it was all good in the beginning...im really out of sorts on this one...took me by suprise! he chews tobacco! i never said give it up...its part of what he does, who he is...he loves tennis...should i say omg i hate tennis so you cant do that anymore? thats rediculous. i dont smoke in my bedroom, i am respectful of those who do not smoke. we smoke mostly on the lanai outside anyways...ughhhh and the whole dog thing....you guys know I LOVE MY DOG! she just had puppies one week ago today and they are in the bottom of my closet because its the warmest and safest for them right now. ughhhhhh grrrrrrrrrrrrr I'd tell him to either accept you for what and who you are and if he cant accept it.......then he has to leave. Never give up your entire life for someone who wants you to change everything.... thats pretty much what i said...thanks gyp!

BEACHBABE23 Joined Thu 01/17/08 Posts: 656	Sat 01/26/08 11:05 AM
THERE IS ALWAYS CHANGE IN A RELATIONSHIP-BUT THATS GOING WAY TO FAR-ARE YOU SURE YOUR AS IN TO HIM AS YOU THINK YOU ARE?WHEN ALLS SAID AND DONE AND THE NEWNESS WEARS OFF, WHAT WOULD YOU BE LEFT WITH?

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:05 AM
tony i agree!

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:05 AM
THERE IS ALWAYS CHANGE IN A RELATIONSHIP-BUT THATS GOING WAY TO FAR-ARE YOU SURE YOUR AS IN TO HIM AS YOU THINK YOU ARE?WHEN ALLS SAID AND DONE AND THE NEWNESS WEARS OFF, WHAT WOULD YOU BE LEFT WITH? i was way into him ... then this ... this is only the beginning what next?

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Sat 01/26/08 11:05 AM
most of you know me...im pretty head strong and forward. i held nothing back from him. it was all good in the beginning...im really out of sorts on this one...took me by suprise! he chews tobacco! i never said give it up...its part of what he does, who he is...he loves tennis...should i say omg i hate tennis so you cant do that anymore? thats rediculous. i dont smoke in my bedroom, i am respectful of those who do not smoke. we smoke mostly on the lanai outside anyways...ughhhh and the whole dog thing....you guys know I LOVE MY DOG! she just had puppies one week ago today and they are in the bottom of my closet because its the warmest and safest for them right now. ughhhhhh grrrrrrrrrrrrr The issue seems to be about power and control...stay clear of this one, its only going to get worse. If you decide to consent to even one change its just going to be the tip of the iceburg and you'll be miserable, he on the other hand will have everything he wants and be estatically happy. Doesn't sound like the basis of a fair relationship.

lemondropkid2008 Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 282	Sat 01/26/08 11:05 AM
most of you know me...im pretty head strong and forward. i held nothing back from him. it was all good in the beginning...im really out of sorts on this one...took me by suprise! he chews tobacco! i never said give it up...its part of what he does, who he is...he loves tennis...should i say omg i hate tennis so you cant do that anymore? thats rediculous. i dont smoke in my bedroom, i am respectful of those who do not smoke. we smoke mostly on the lanai outside anyways...ughhhh and the whole dog thing....you guys know I LOVE MY DOG! she just had puppies one week ago today and they are in the bottom of my closet because its the warmest and safest for them right now. ughhhhhh grrrrrrrrrrrrr Also Take note....people will show how they will treat other people by the way they treat animals...... Also maybe you should make up a list of things like you mentioned and shove it under his nose and see how he likes it. Whats good for the goose is good for the gander....

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 01/26/08 11:07 AM
So what was answer madam?

BEACHBABE23 Joined Thu 01/17/08 Posts: 656	Sat 01/26/08 11:08 AM
THERE IS ALWAYS CHANGE IN A RELATIONSHIP-BUT THATS GOING WAY TO FAR-ARE YOU SURE YOUR AS IN TO HIM AS YOU THINK YOU ARE?WHEN ALLS SAID AND DONE AND THE NEWNESS WEARS OFF, WHAT WOULD YOU BE LEFT WITH? i was way into him ... then this ... this is only the beginning what next? I DON'T KNOW BUT NO ONE CAN TELL ME MY DOGS CAN'T SLEEP WITH ME.MY DOGS WERE THERE BEFOR THEM AND WILL BE THERE AFTER THEIR GONE.I AM ALSO A SMOKER WHO GETS CONTACTED BY ALOT OF NON-SMOKERS,I WOULDN'T CHANGE THAT EITHER BEEN THERE DONE THAT

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 01/26/08 11:09 AM
Next thing ya know, he will say you cant wear makeup or go out with your friends...

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:10 AM
So what was answer madam? once i pretty much said that to him, he said oh no...wait we can compromise, everything is workable, etc...started to completely back peddle. but still...is this something that i will have to deal with ALL the time and if its something that bothers him, i told him he should not settle, to find what he really wants. he then stated that i was that person...my heart is what he fell for...but then i said that all these things you are bringing up will eventually fester into a problem.

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Sat 01/26/08 11:10 AM
i had a guy ..not on this site who told me my son wasnt important and that i should accomodate his needs first lol ..yeh right bye bye

AllenAqua Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 3895	Sat 01/26/08 11:10 AM
codependent tendencies....hrrrrmmmph...who needs'm

BEACHBABE23 Joined Thu 01/17/08 Posts: 656	Sat 01/26/08 11:12 AM
i had a guy ..not on this site who told me my son wasnt important and that i should accomodate his needs first lol ..yeh right bye bye YOU GO GIRL,WTF WAS HE THINKING?

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 01/26/08 11:12 AM
I wouldnt move in with the guy madam.......date him for awhile to see what happens.......

madamx7316 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 15886	Sat 01/26/08 11:12 AM
i had a guy ..not on this site who told me my son wasnt important and that i should accomodate his needs first lol ..yeh right bye bye oh hell no!!! this guy has no kids. i have a daughter who will be 20 in may and lives away from home and in school. i made it VERY clear that she will ALWAYS have a home...bar none! my child/children will never have to worry abotu that i dont care if they are 50 yrs old...i will never turn my child away and they always are first in my book. men/women come and go, you children are your children for LIFE!

Turtlepoet78 Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 1423	Sat 01/26/08 11:13 AM
i had a guy ..not on this site who told me my son wasnt important and that i should accomodate his needs first lol ..yeh right bye bye OMG, he sounds like a real class act..lol;^]

AllenAqua Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 3895	Sat 01/26/08 11:13 AM
i had a guy ..not on this site who told me my son wasnt important and that i should accomodate his needs first lol ..yeh right bye bye YOU GO GF !

lemondropkid2008 Joined Sat 01/19/08 Posts: 282	Sat 01/26/08 11:13 AM
So what was answer madam? once i pretty much said that to him, he said oh no...wait we can compromise, everything is workable, etc...started to completely back peddle. but still...is this something that i will have to deal with ALL the time and if its something that bothers him, i told him he should not settle, to find what he really wants. he then stated that i was that person...my heart is what he fell for...but then i said that all these things you are bringing up will eventually fester into a problem. There is more to it than falling in love with the heart....you have to fall in love with everything....the good the bad and the ugly...hey wasnt that a movie....