Let's face it 9 out of 10 relationships are based primarily off convenience, I am not saying love is not involved, but to find somebody who is actually your soulmate is rare. Why do you think most people are here? Most have been in relationships that were based on convenience and when it was no longer convenient for one or both of the people involved it ended. Maybe a few widows here have been with a soulmate, but the rest of us there is a reason why past relationships have not worked.
So what do I mean by convenient? Well we like somebody to talk to, we like to know there is somebody if we have a problem, it's nice to have somebody to have sex with, it's nice to share financial responsibilities. Many think those butterflies when they meet somebody new are from love, but really it's just the excitement and anxiety of meeting somebody new. It's knowing somebody is there for you, that you can get laid whenever you want, that somebody really cares about you. Often times the meeting of somebody is based just on convenience, maybe somebody you know hooks you up? Maybe you meet at a mutual space? They probably live close by? One of them may be looking for a place to live? It's OK that all these things are based on convenience, but it does not always mean you are a perfect match. Sometimes people even go into it knowing it's all about convenience without telling the other person. Long story short it's OK to be with somebody even if it is not forever. And when things don't work out don't get too discouraged, it just wasn't as convenient as it once was. Any thoughts?

There can be aspects of convenience in any relationship without that being the prime motivation for a relationship . Sure for some relationships , convenience is the reason a relationship starts , or morphs into one of convenience , as priorities , circumstances , expectations and intimate connections change .

How we view relationships is based on social /cultural/religious conditioning . There is still an expectation for many that a romantic relationship should be grounded in a deep emotional lasting connection not a superficial relationship of convenience .

Dust .. How long would you last being someone’s convenience

It's just as inconvenient to undo a relationship - in fact, often at a higher cost. So if the intent is not forever, why bother?

Humm myself if there is not something there as far as feelings on my part, I'll walk away..

Convenience is not in my scope for any relationship. I have no issue being alone... Being used just because someone don't want to be alone I do have a problem with that..

So unless there is a connection and it is someone I actually like being around and there are feelings both ways... I'm not settling for just a bed buddy or someone to hang out with...

I want that one that you miss when they are gone and and the relationship is exclusive for I don't share well if not then pass me by...

Sometimes our best thoughts come when we are high!🤣 I see profiles that say do not contact if you are not interested in marriage, do you really think they will find the perfect person? Or settle for whatever comes along? A one night stand is convenient because the people know they are not committed to anything, not that it can't lead to more, but lack of commitment is also a convenience. I feel that too often people get caught up in conventional rules and then pretend to be happy or love somebody as to conform to the social or religious norms. The try to make a relationship last so they are not shamed by others. Abraham Lincoln was married yet he "shared a bed" with men. FDR was married but he had a mistress and Elenore had a couple of live in lesbian lovers. What was exposed to the outside word was not what was going on inside. It was more convenient to to give the public they wanted them to explain their actions. People will say it's all about love, but I believe the convenience of what they are getting plays a much bigger roll.

A marriage of convenience is a marriage contracted for reasons other than that of love and commitment. Instead, such a marriage is entered into for personal gain, or some other sort of strategic purpose, such as a political marriage. This is as described by Wikipedia

There is also what some call as 'settling' for someone, which is more in line with you are referring to I think. I don't agree that 9 out of 10 people 'settle' for someone. Most people marry because they fall in love and have a lot in common, it may well still fail as a marriage for many different reasons, but not because they 'settled' for someone in my opinion.

I used the word relationship and not marriage, however I was referring to the BF/GF relationship which is similar to other relationships in our lives. You do work for your employer in exchange for a paycheck, that is a relationship. It can get deeper if you take pride in your job or what you do. A friendship is also a relationship. You buy them drinks at the bar and in exchange they hang out with you. But the true test is when you need a ride to the airport or help moving, those are the definers of a true friendship.

Love is a cheap word and I wish there was something better to use. I love the smell of coffee, but let's face it, it tastes like burnt water! However our brains like that caffeine and so for some people they can learn to appreciate the taste of coffee. But if you love the taste of coffee, and you love the smell of coffee, does that mean you love coffee? Alcohol has a similar affect, so is love a drug then? Have we been programed by our brains to love somebody or something? Or is it society that has programed us to fall in love? Some cultures still have arranged marriages, but in many ways I feel that any marriage is some what arranged by expectations of society. Women have a biological clock, it's not really practical for them to have kids after 40 because it's less probable and there can be health concerns. So in their late 20's many women start feeling this clock ticking and society says they need to get married and then have kids. Clearly these things don't always work out that way, but for some it's the convenience factor involved in order to fulfill their wants. Love at first sight is usually a physical attraction but sometimes can be an intellectual attraction too. But is it really love? Or is it lust? This topic could have been posted in the philosophy section instead, but I feel that there is a lot of "love" talk being thrown around here and it sounding like such a simple and cheap thing that we take for granted. And it is up to the individual to decide for themselves at what level they are willing to be used, or at what level they are willing to use somebody else. Let's for example say a woman hasn't paid her rent for a couple months so she finds a guy and out of compassion that guy let's her move in with her two kids and a dog. Maybe that really is what he needs in his life? Maybe that is really what she needs in her life? Or maybe it is just something that is convenient at that time for the parties involved? Just seems that often the word "love" is more of what our society makes us think is going on and we can be brainwashed into believing that is truly what it is.

quid pro quo

Love is created by establishing a heart-to-heart network. When two hearts are seamlessly connected, your love will be full and lasting. Love is not done by convenience. Convenience means I will get back what I spent on your work at the end of the day Means adjusting for some time. Love is not for a while. So there will be no love through convenience. Convenience can get something give and take.

If you think like this, when you need you adjust by convinced. Why you connect love. It’s like give and take...

Love is not verified. Before loving you must understand his meaning. Before you love you have to think and respect love properly. Love is not like that, you feel the need, when the need is satisfied, if you don't like it, end everything and leave. It may be an attempt to meet demand. Before love one must know his due respect and his greatness. Love is blind that doesn't verify....