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Topic: Relationships that start online
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Mon 06/13/22 03:30 AM



What is your opinion? :wave:

"A new paper suggests partners who meet online are more likely to be compatible than those who meet in person. The paper adds to a growing body of research suggesting marriages that start online are stronger and last longer than relationships that start offline"


I would have offered the source of the paper, it would be interesting how the data was collected - so I can put that institute or author in my list of junk scientists.


Here is the source link, make your own judgment:
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/scientists-think-relationships-start-online-211456037.html
thanks for posting the link . Within the article is a link to the research paper . It was actually based on a prediction of interracial marriages . The authors concluded that online was only partially responsible for the increase in interracial marriages and acknowledged the limitations of their prediction tool /complexity of online romance .

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 06/13/22 08:22 AM
Relationships which start online.

I've had 3 relationships which started with online interaction.
The first failed almost immediately because she lied. It was the longest online interaction before we met.
The second lasted about a year and a half at which time she lied (and was secretely doing crack). It was online interaction for about 4 months and phone interaction for about 1 month before we actually met.
The current one has lasted about 4 years and is strong, loving and equal. We only exchanged a few messages (under 1 month) before we actually met.

I have never dated anyone online.
I used the online tools, located someone of interest and actually dated in the real world.

A 'relationship' is interaction between two or more parties.
You can have a relationship with a toaster.
You have a relationship with anyone you interact with.
However, the intent of relationship in this case is the romantically inclined relationship.

Online, you can have a romantically inclined relationship with the representation of the person you meet.
However, you at the mercy of their honesty.
If you never meet, you can't know if they are who and what they say they are.
You may be falling in love with a kid, an old perve or a serial killer.
So, online relationship is more like a fantasy than a documentary.

The ONLY WAY you can actually build a relationship with someone is to actually go out and meet them, face 2 face.
Even after meeting with them face 2 face, to build the relationship you need to spend unscripted time with them, naturally & honestly. This allows you to build trust in each other.

Trust leads to love.
Break that trust bond and love falls away.
Lies break the bonds of trust.

In my current relationship she is who and what she said she was online. She keeps her word, makes no promises she doesn't intend to keep and...she trusts me.
This allows me to trust her.
Our relationship is built on trust and honestly.

There's not many these days who can say the same.

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Mon 06/13/22 08:43 AM
Edited by SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž on Mon 06/13/22 08:44 AM

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There's not many these days who can say the same.

Agree with what you say but then a bit bemused by the above comment.
Maybe it's a difference in culture, but I don't know any couple where it is any different.
Of course there will always be people that have difficulty showing their true colours, but (over here) it's not the general thing.
But I guess the difference in culture. Like crack you mention. Few over here use that (around 11.000 of 17+ mill people).

In any case, I'd personally say most couples' relationship is built on trust & honesty.
Not saying that to be difficult, just because it's peculiar and then wondering what the cause of that is (cultural?).

Dramatic Muffin's photo
Wed 06/15/22 11:48 PM


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There's not many these days who can say the same.

Agree with what you say but then a bit bemused by the above comment.
Maybe it's a difference in culture, but I don't know any couple where it is any different.
Of course there will always be people that have difficulty showing their true colours, but (over here) it's not the general thing.
But I guess the difference in culture. Like crack you mention. Few over here use that (around 11.000 of 17+ mill people).

In any case, I'd personally say most couples' relationship is built on trust & honesty.
Not saying that to be difficult, just because it's peculiar and then wondering what the cause of that is (cultural?).


I don't think it's a cultural thing. I think that might be just his personal experience. In my experience the people I know do base their relationships on trust and honesty. And I've never in my life met a single person who does crack (that I know of).

SparklingCrystal πŸ’–πŸ’Ž's photo
Thu 06/16/22 02:39 AM



....
There's not many these days who can say the same.

Agree with what you say but then a bit bemused by the above comment.
Maybe it's a difference in culture, but I don't know any couple where it is any different.
Of course there will always be people that have difficulty showing their true colours, but (over here) it's not the general thing.
But I guess the difference in culture. Like crack you mention. Few over here use that (around 11.000 of 17+ mill people).

In any case, I'd personally say most couples' relationship is built on trust & honesty.
Not saying that to be difficult, just because it's peculiar and then wondering what the cause of that is (cultural?).


I don't think it's a cultural thing. I think that might be just his personal experience. In my experience the people I know do base their relationships on trust and honesty. And I've never in my life met a single person who does crack (that I know of).

Thank you for the feedback :) Nice to have another layer/view to it so I don't inadvertently build a wrong picture.

Letsgiveitatry's photo
Thu 06/16/22 08:00 AM
People online too scared to give it a try.

Duttoneer's photo
Sat 06/18/22 02:18 AM
Edited by Duttoneer on Sat 06/18/22 02:26 AM

What is your opinion? :wave:

"A new paper suggests partners who meet online are more likely to be compatible than those who meet in person. The paper adds to a growing body of research suggesting marriages that start online are stronger and last longer than relationships that start offline"


Online dating sites do not all take the same approach. Many are now more like "Personal Introduction Agencies" requiring you to complete a detailed questionnaire about yourself in order for them to suggest to you other members they have determined are very compatible with you, based on their questionnaire. Since compatibility plays a very large part in forming a good relationship, I can see why they arrive at their conclusions, that meeting someone online results in a stronger, long lasting relationship, than meeting someone offline.

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Sat 06/18/22 02:40 AM
What is your opinion? :wave:

"A new paper suggests partners who meet online are more likely to be compatible than those who meet in person. The paper adds to a growing body of research suggesting marriages that start online are stronger and last longer than relationships that start offline"

Any relationships starting newly takes time to go on.. but it's only worth ahead if are seriously involved to getting ahead with responsiblility an understanding each other cares like dislikes..
So relationship be in any source of format it's depends totally on the person itself.
No ratio can prove which relationship last long or which sources of meets where BEST.

Rest Life Is Full Of Test.

Have A Nice Time.
:couple_with_heart:

marsgil's photo
Sun 06/19/22 09:34 AM
Could work if you will put enough effort to make it so.

Mark's photo
Sun 06/19/22 11:51 AM
My wife of 13 years passed in 2020, we were together 17 years and we met online in an AOL chat, we'd gotten to know each other over the course of more than a year before going on an actual date.

Last year I put myself back out there, sites like POF, OKCupid or Eharmony do personality tests, but I found the matches lacking in chemistry.

This forum is the magic of this site, we're given the chance to observe each other passively, and then react if we think someone is interesting.

I'm currently engaged to an active member here, she's wonderful, intelligent and extremely compatible, though we don't have every interest in common, we do have the right chemistry, we share the same ideologies.

There is no formula or mathematical equation that can match chemistry through interaction, and online increases the speed of interaction dramatically vs one date at a time.

Even while you may not meet the "right" one, you'll still make friends here in the meantime.

So, yes, I agree with the opening post, online is the best way to meet someone, but beware there are a LOT of scammers, take your time, no rush.

Bigwestboy's photo
Sun 06/26/22 04:05 PM
Yeah you right and I'll like to know you more and build a friendship of a life time

Alison Forsyth's photo
Sun 06/26/22 04:42 PM
Yes

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Thu 07/07/22 09:20 AM
true..very well said

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Fri 07/08/22 07:02 PM
love in the air..

Saqib's photo
Fri 07/15/22 10:57 AM
Absolutely right
Well said❀

anie's photo
Mon 07/18/22 03:15 AM
My wife of 13 years passed in 2020, we were together 17 years and we met online in an AOL chat, we'd gotten to know each other over the course of more than a year before going on an actual date.

Last year I put myself back out there, sites like POF, OKCupid or Eharmony do personality tests, but I found the matches lacking in chemistry.

This forum is the magic of this site, we're given the chance to observe each other passively, and then react if we think someone is interesting.

I'm currently engaged to an active member here, she's wonderful, intelligent and extremely compatible, though we don't have every interest in common, we do have the right chemistry, we share the same ideologies.

There is no formula or mathematical equation that can match chemistry through interaction, and online increases the speed of interaction dramatically vs one date at a time.

Even while you may not meet the "right" one, you'll still make friends here in the meantime.

So, yes, I agree with the opening post, online is the best way to meet someone, but beware there are a LOT of scammers, take your time, no rush.

:clap::clap::clap::clap::heart_eyes::heart:

Aimee 's photo
Tue 07/19/22 06:11 AM
anyone online?

Raya's photo
Thu 07/21/22 05:57 AM
Look I think relationship can start from anywhere online or offline.Firstly it is important to build up trust and friendship.You need to pass your time with your partner and know eachother then maybe online relationship also can be successful if you trust someone but I do not support trusting someone blindly.You have to trust your partner which is necessary. Trust doesn’t mean that you won't see his flaws and support everything he says and also we have to respect eachother also

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