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Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9012	Tue 10/12/21 12:53 AM
When a Woman says "WHAT", itzzzzz Not becoz she didn't hear You . She is giving you a Chance to Change what You Said . you are very wise Paul .. hope the mingle men are taking notes lol

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9012	Tue 10/12/21 01:00 AM
Hi Robin I like my eggs sunny side up Humour can be great at resolving conflict , however that depends on the seriousness /context of what the conflict is . Deflection and silence is not always helpful . Firstly Hello Blondey Good Day & Always Keep Charming Topic: Insensitive Communitions I took as Forums as fun an humour, not related to any sentiments to be hearted.. as for unknown I'm not supposed to be advisable an known knows me well... Egg = Zero Sensitive = Insensitive Value Importance Roll Hunger+Knowledge Thanks Tc. I don’t think I have ever told anyone to go to hell in the forums .. laughing .. I tend to be more tactful than that and have great willpower ... of course , I have spent time in mingle jail so I am no angel Soufie , Kristy and Delightful do a great job of making me toe the line . Perhaps I will learn some of your patience and tolerance

Aatheera Joined Wed 08/04/21 Posts: 429	Tue 10/12/21 01:12 AM
Hi aatheera words can be very damaging especially when from someone we have a romantic connection to . Time out from a confrontation and giving each other personal space to reflect in most cases is helpful . .the lead into that , and how a situation is left can be important . The silent treatment is not always effective . Hi Blondey Nice to hear your views acc to me, that moment of being silent n getting recharged is actually giving the other person some space n time to think over n realise the efforts, love expressed n the hurt behind the silence..I feel, arguing that moment or talking about the same things over n over without being understood drains both side's batteries n brings in even more detachment. silence in between helps both to rethink and come back n it works obviously silence won't last more if bonding between two of them is strong 🤝

Unknow Joined Sat 07/10/21 Posts: 54502	Tue 10/12/21 01:23 AM
I don’t think I have ever told anyone to go to hell in the forums .. laughing .. I tend to be more tactful than that and have great willpower ... of course , I have spent time in mingle jail so I am no angel Soufie , Kristy and Delightful do a great job of making me toe the line . Perhaps I will learn some of your patience and tolerance ❤ I'm Still Learning.. Not still so perfect to be a tutor. Best Wishes Tc.

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9012	Tue 10/12/21 01:25 AM
Hi aatheera words can be very damaging especially when from someone we have a romantic connection to . Time out from a confrontation and giving each other personal space to reflect in most cases is helpful . .the lead into that , and how a situation is left can be important . The silent treatment is not always effective . Hi Blondey Nice to hear your views acc to me, that moment of being silent n getting recharged is actually giving the other person some space n time to think over n realise the efforts, love expressed n the hurt behind the silence..I feel, arguing that moment or talking about the same things over n over without being understood drains both side's batteries n brings in even more detachment. silence in between helps both to rethink and come back n it works obviously silence won't last more if bonding between two of them is strong 🤝 hopefully some of the mingle men will share their views on what goes through their mind when a women goes silent . I know many seem to struggle with that . I agree silence can help calm and reset the situation as long as it is not used as a punishment . I adore your last sentence such a beautiful acknowledgment and very true .

Blondey111 Joined Sun 01/27/13 Posts: 9012	Tue 10/12/21 01:29 AM
We all know the human ego can easily be offended especially when a comment is personal and from someone we know or like . Is it in ? Is this Condon too big ? That was quick !!! You could do with losing a few pounds ! Have you considered a boob job ? What would make smoke come out of your ears if a potential date or romantic partner said it to you ? When you are offended .. what is your go to response (we all have them) No man should ever tell me to be silent or question my integrity My go to response is .. the death stare followed by “Go to hell “. Not the biblical hell but the real life equivalent Share yours .. I double dare you Noooo. I'm not feeling any pressure at all now. Thanks, sweetheart. “ all of me loves all of you” ... no pressure big boy I just noticed my typo .. what is a Condon .. lol. .. I am blaming sleep deprivation .

Aatheera Joined Wed 08/04/21 Posts: 429	Tue 10/12/21 01:31 AM
hopefully some of the mingle men will share their views on what goes through their mind when a women goes silent . I know many seem to struggle with that . I agree silence can help calm and reset the situation as long as it is not used as a punishment . I adore your last sentence ❤ such a beautiful acknowledgment and very true . punishment definitely not Thanks Blondey, take care ☺

Coldersky Joined Mon 09/30/19 Posts: 623	Tue 10/12/21 01:52 AM
Blondey gf I appreciate your words of wisdom I'm being more mindful of the situations, I'm a water sign but I don't go with the flow unless MY soulmate Is by my side, thanks gf Coldersky minus the halo,

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2530	Thu 10/14/21 06:34 AM
Hi Jaan ..we all have different triggers and thresholds when it comes to buttons being pushed .... I find sticking long needles into voodoo dolls very therapeutic Hahaha sounds VERY therapeutic and reminds me of a movie about a fallen star Please remind me NEVER to get on your wrong side 🤣

Jaan Doh Joined Mon 06/24/13 Posts: 2530	Thu 10/14/21 06:37 AM
hopefully some of the mingle men will share their views on what goes through their mind when a women goes silent . I know many seem to struggle with that . I agree silence can help calm and reset the situation as long as it is not used as a punishment . I adore your last sentence ❤ such a beautiful acknowledgment and very true . punishment definitely not Thanks Blondey, take care ☺ I think and feel that she is thinking of buying a size 12 frying pan 🤣 and gonna do my murder with it while I'm sleeping 🤣(insert gravestone emoji here)

Apple of Your EYES Joined Mon 03/15/21 Posts: 5477	Thu 10/14/21 07:45 AM
When a Woman says "WHAT", itzzzzz Not becoz she didn't hear You . She is giving you a Chance to Change what You Said . Laska...this is the most smartest,most fitting Reply uve said so far.Uve got it soooo right.

Apple of Your EYES Joined Mon 03/15/21 Posts: 5477	Thu 10/14/21 07:55 AM
I was told by someone im sharp tounged,i was quick to apologize,im learning ,but i admit i usually fail in this,i say my piece ,i dont walk out but i want a response when he becomes Rude,next time choose whom you date or go with,others might just slap u. not too good but ive said that.i believe with the responsible ,sensitive talking...u dont ask what colors are your favorite,then whats the color of your undies now....crap