Hi, I am married male. Ever since I heard and watched the stories of other swingers. i am curious to experience this lifestyle. Even though pakistan is a conservative society but i am surprised to see that many couples from here are already enjoying it. So, I am curious to know your experiences in Swinging. I shared the idea to my wife. She is reluctant to give it a try. In heated moments she says Yes but then retracted from the idea later on. So, my question to all other married people who are already into this lifestyle that how is it going for you.

"swinging", an outdated term for "getting some on the side", is not going to cure your obviously dysfunctional relationship with your wife. Get that straightened out first. Or get a divorce. Then fulfill your fantasys with a hooker.

Does your wife know you're a "swinger"?

I think you dont know the real meaning of swinging. Obviously, I shared the idea of swinging with other couples. Right now, she is reluctant and shy. But sooner, she will be up to it. Swinging happens when both husband wife is ready to meet another swinger couple.

I've been "around the world" a few times. I know exactly what "swinging" means.

Your wife is not just "reluctant and shy". She is not "into" it.
And if you had any kind of insight into your wife, you would know why, and not think she is willingly going to be, "up to it", if you just nag her long enough about it.

What motowndowntown said

Sounds like your wife is not into it and you should respect her decision and not keep going on at her about it to her in the hope she will change her mind and be comfortable with it .
You should never ever force her into doing this , or make her feel bad about her decision not to .
No amount of nagging from you is suddenly going to make her feel comfortable about it .

Hey, wot are you lookin' for on this thread, precisely?

Hello Adil curiosity is normal ,however as you are married such curiosity can be detrimental to your marriage . Her reluctance may quickly turn to resentment and withdrawal if you try to pressure or coerce her . Instead work on enhancing intimacy in other ways .. Have you asked what excites her ? Best of luck ?

When you are in an arranged marriage, sometimes you will get the feeling that the grass is greener on the other side , and the swinger life style becomes very attractive... but that's all .. In your case , I would , secretly get some action on the side or have a second wife , if you can afford it !!!
Best of luck

I think, you secretly want to be a cuckold,
while your wife enjoys the pleasures of
other men.

So you want it, your wife doesn't. That should be the end of it IF you love your wife.
Trying to coerce her, hassle her, and try to force her to agree is the fast track to either divorce -and if that is not allowed in Pakistan- the route to an extremely unhappy marriage.

Are your sexual fantasies worth sacrificing your marriage over? Are they worth hurting your wife over it?

Instead of focusing on wanting sex with others you might want to make your own wife feel special so the love life you have with her is fulfilling.

Indeed. And your wife is not ready for it, doesn't want it. You being able to force her is not 'ready for it', it is 'being forced by husband'.

Yes, plenty of married men want to experience adultery.

To all who are saying that I am forcing her for coming into swinging. Hey, it is not true. I already wrote in my previous message that she is shy. She didn't reject the idea all along. She wants to move slowly into it. For now, she loves to wear sexy and revealing dresses and show off her beauty. She is even ready for same room same partner encounter with another couple. We have previously been to nude beaches in Italy. So, it is going nicely and slowly for us.

Sounds very much like coercion to me. Just because swinging appeals to you that does not automatically mean it would also appeal to your wife. It also sounds like you have brought the subject up on different occasions so perhaps “she says Yes” just to stop you from repeatedly asking her about it.

Question…..does your wife know you are on this site??

I was friends with a swinging couple and they were very into the lifestyle, they both even had “lovers” they would see from time to time. Eventually though it led to hurt feelings, jealousy and insecurities in their marriage.

I'm not married Now but when I was married, that thought didn't cross my mind.

I think less people here will understand u..people r more judgemental
But u should first ask urself that is is just a fantasy or u feel urge to act upon it

I too have been around the world a few times and agree with Motown, maybe not the hooker part but otherwise I think he hit the nail on the head here ^^^^