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Topic: friends on a date
Prateek's photo
Sun 05/23/21 10:02 PM
can good friends go on a date to understand more about each other.

Bakary Sanneh's photo
Thu 05/27/21 06:05 AM
can good friends go on a date to understand more about each other.

hello

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 05/27/21 07:12 AM

can good friends go on a date to understand more about each other.

This is precisely why people do date.
Aside from animalistic sexual fulfilment.

SparklingCrystal đź’–đź’Ž's photo
Thu 05/27/21 07:24 AM
Typically when someone is a good friend I do not need to understand them more. If it was a new friend, okay, but then it wouldn't be a good friend yet.

It wouldn't be a date either.
A date is to meet someone to find out if there's romantic potential, or if you already have a click & chemistry to see if it's enough to build a relationship on.

For me a good friend would not become a romantic interest, not easily anyways. First because I don't have male friends. Second, my romantic & sexual sensor is quite strong. If I don't feel 'it' real soon I won't ever feel it.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 05/27/21 07:52 AM
A date is to meet someone to find out if there's romantic potential, or if you already have a click & chemistry to see if it's enough to build a relationship on.

Funny how everyone has their own definition of what a date is.

If I'm romantically interested in a woman the last thing I want to do is go on a date. A scripted set of behaviors resulting in predictable outcomes.
I want to get to know the real her, not some impression of who she wants me to think she is.

You can go on a date with your work buddies.
You don't call it a date, you call it making plans.
Not only does it allow you to get to know each other better it can build stronger friendships unless something is found out which ruins the friendships.

I enter into relationships only with women I consider to be my very best friends. You can't figure that out if you don't spend unscripted time with them...a date.

Rock's photo
Thu 05/27/21 08:18 PM
If I'm with a woman, and she brings friends on a date,
it kills the romance.


no photo
Thu 05/27/21 10:23 PM
It depends what your expectations are and the expectations of your friend waving

Mani's photo
Fri 05/28/21 05:03 AM
yes

nice words

Sapphist 's photo
Fri 05/28/21 03:02 PM
Preach!

Prateek's photo
Sun 05/30/21 01:48 AM
It depends what your expectations are and the expectations of your friend :wave:

expection are very simple that to understand physical love because mentally we now each other very well.

Prateek's photo
Sun 05/30/21 01:50 AM
Typically when someone is a good friend I do not need to understand them more. If it was a new friend, okay, but then it wouldn't be a good friend yet.

It wouldn't be a date either.
A date is to meet someone to find out if there's romantic potential, or if you already have a click & chemistry to see if it's enough to build a relationship on.

For me a good friend would not become a romantic interest, not easily anyways. First because I don't have male friends. Second, my romantic & sexual sensor is quite strong. If I don't feel 'it' real soon I won't ever feel it.

thanks for sharing your thoughts . we are looking for romance and physical action on date so friends and date will be right ?

bella jackson's photo
Sun 05/30/21 10:19 AM
I love being a friend

bella jackson's photo
Sun 05/30/21 10:20 AM
I don’t like rushing into a relationship because at the end it falls

Prateek's photo
Sun 05/30/21 10:39 AM
I don’t like rushing into a relationship because at the end it falls

that is my confusion. thanks for sharing your thoughts

Slim gym 's photo
Sun 05/30/21 01:17 PM
I like to date bad friends.
And I don't really understand having good friends, because that implies there are bad friends to.... but all in all a date does imply wat Tom said... the nail was hit pretty square there !!

Duttoneer's photo
Mon 05/31/21 01:21 AM

can good friends go on a date to understand more about each other.


Maybe, but beware, entering the the Friend Zone is like entering The Twilight Zone?

"The Twilight Zone is a place that exists at any moment of time, of space or of mind....but always when you least expect it. When you find yourself in this realm of unlimited possibility, be careful what you say or do. The right decisions may help you find your way back out....sometimes with greater happiness and wealth. The wrong decisions often lead to madness and death, or an eternity trapped in this dimension. Tread warily past the sign post ahead that says you've entered, The Twilight Zone—Bryan Ells"

laugh

You pays your money and you takes your chance. Good luck in your decision.

Mags's photo
Mon 05/31/21 08:21 AM
Your topic makes me think of the movie When Harry Met Sally. They were friends for years before they realized they had a physical attraction brewing under their friendship. I like the idea of a relationship forming from a friendship happening organically like in the movie. I would worry that making a “date” with a friend could come off as trying to coax it out and could make things uncomfortable for you both.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Mon 05/31/21 08:49 AM
The way I see it all...
Most friendships that turn into a romatically intimate relationship began with some interest to that effect.

Something cause you to choose one stranger over another to become friends.
All friendships began when you chose to become familiar with a stranger.

You may not intend to be interested in them for a romantic relationship.
You may not even realize you are attracted to them in that way.
Something about them told you, "hey, I want to be friends with this person".

Over time, without realizing it, those feelings you had which attracted you grow weaker or stronger. When they grow stronger, you can ignore or deny how you feel or you can embrace it and hope for the best.

If the friend you choose agrees to the romantic date, something in them is also driving their agreement, someting is there. It might only be curiosity but something tells they "yeah, lets see how this goes".

You don't become friends, good friends, with people you are not interested in being near. They remain strangers or are kept at arms length.

If you are dating a friend, not only are you interested in becoming more intimate with them, they by their agreement, are also interestedf in exploring a deeper relationship with you.

Personally, I see absolutely nothing wrong with this. Why would you become intimate with someone who is not already your friend?
How can you love and trust a stranger?

Toodygirl5's photo
Mon 05/31/21 03:02 PM


can good friends go on a date to understand more about each other.


Maybe, but beware, entering the the Friend Zone is like entering The Twilight Zone?

"The Twilight Zone is a place that exists at any moment of time, of space or of mind....but always when you least expect it. When you find yourself in this realm of unlimited possibility, be careful what you say or do. The right decisions may help you find your way back out....sometimes with greater happiness and wealth. The wrong decisions often lead to madness and death, or an eternity trapped in this dimension. Tread warily past the sign post ahead that says you've entered, The Twilight Zone—Bryan Ells"

laugh

You pays your money and you takes your chance. Good luck in your decision.








:thumbsup: laugh

Melissa Morgan's photo
Sat 07/03/21 01:19 AM
If your friends at the beginning you can go on a date with that person to see what they’re like and then understand if something comes out of it and that’s good

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