in most cases women feel more secure around men who can control there feelings

because they feel they will not lose control in times of stress.....so men

generally do not have permission to stay in touch will all there feelings....

''its not case of should'', its a case of '' go with the flow''.....there are

''safe ways'' to do it though....the problem i see most often is that when one

person is expressing a concern the other person tries to see the sense they

are making to themselves and not the sense other person is making to

themselves.....'' total disconnect''.... there is a way to really listen to

another person and understand the sense they are making to themselves and

really connect with them its called Imago Dialogue....

confessing feelings can be risky, without safety you can not have passion....

A rare occasion where I do not agree with you.
Yes, men may think they cannot express their feelings because it would make them 'inferior', weak and so on, that is only the case in the not yet empowered masculine.
The empowered masculine has balanced his masculine energy and his inner feminine energy and has no problem whatsoever addressing his feelings, receiving someone else's feelings etc. It will not make him feel weak or less or not 'macho'.
Not many have reached that yet, but it is a process that is happening.

Your assumption about how women perceive a man who can convey his feelings is totally off. It is a tremendous relief to a woman to finally be with a man who can do that as it means he can also receive her feminine energy without a problem.
It is like Heaven on Earth to experience that, a deep coming home with the masculine, in the connection, and finally being able to be yourself.
It is the opposite of what you say, it's horrible to be with a mental, logical, rational man. It's like barging into a brick wall over and over. It's incredibly exhausting to be with, and it blocks a real connection between two people which is from heart to heart, not from head to heart.
When you have a man with whom you connect from heart to heart, because he is empowered, you have total trust in him. You are a team, working together hand in hand, side by side. And if you panic you won't feel awkward because you know he can understand. With a mental man you easily get judgement in such cases, meaning you cannot fully open up to him, rely on him, tell him what you need. That last part automatically leads to what men complain about: I don't know what she needs! I'm not a mind reader!
It takes an empowered man so we can relax and trust etc. and also tell him what we need, what is wrong, what we feel or whatever.
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RARE OCCASION,,,,IT GOES WITHOUT SAYING THERE ARE ALWAYS EXCEPTIONS TO ALMOST

EVERYTHING.....i guess the the women i talked to where not the ones you

talked to....

TO SAY I L U !!!

Confessing your feelings is an Important Milestone in a Relationship.
Should a Man be more Courageous than a Woman or Should a Woman Be more Courageous than a Man to Say I L U ..
Who should be the First ??

No courage needed unless one is afraid to be rejected.

I can see that point.
Fear is a great motivator and a great control mechanism.

Love is how you feel.
Demonstrating love is how you share the love you feel with someone else.
If you are afraid to express yourself it can take a lot of courage to say I love you.
However, once your expression of love is accepted the fear of rejection is gone and it takes no courage at all.

Being as this forum is world populated its also likely the fear of saying I love you has to do with social or family pressures and/or social, cultural or family traditions.
Then there's the fear of stereotyping, descrimination and workplace rules.
Also, saying I love you could hurt the other person due to the implications.
Example: you refrain from saying I love you to a happily married woman because you do not wish to hurt her marraige.

Many people, if they're paying attention, can sense when someone loves them by how they act toward them. Actions do speak louder than words. Plus, its not always demonstrated by kindness. People often keep their feelings secret but they will display certain tells.

This is why when someone finally admits their love for someone it comes as no surprise. Everybody knows before that person builds up the courage to say it or even admit it to themselves.

"We know you love her"
"No, I don't"
"Yes, you do...Just tell her!"
"I Love You!"
"I Know!"

Confessing your feelings is an Important Milestone in a Relationship.

Should a Man be more Courageous than a Woman or Should a Woman Be more Courageous than a Man to Say I L U ..

Who should be the First ??

The question is why would you be afraid to say that you love a person?

yoda quite likely uncertainty and expectations may be a factor ... If the other person does not return the feeling of love then the relationship may come into question .

I’ve already tried this experience and I blame myself everyday cause the other person passed away before that I can tell her about my feelings.

that is so sad to hear yoda .. big hug from me . Even though you didn’t get to tell her , on some level she would have known .. actions are often more powerful than words xox

that is so sad to hear yoda .. big hug from me . Even though you didn’t get to tell her , on some level she would have known .. actions are often more powerful than words xox