Okay, so here’s where I’m at. This woman and I have met a few times at the church I attend on Sunday evenings. She IS the head pastor’s daughter and I’ve, quite honestly (and shamefully), wussed out on talking to her the other night. I talked to other people that I know from work instead (not co-workers), which is good but the woman I would like to get around to. Now that I have that out of the way, let me add some context to the situation:

I originally met this woman back in August while I was seeing someone else at the time. Honestly, I didn’t think much about her at all because I was into the woman I was already dating. However, after the woman I was dating and I called it off (long story), I haven’t really been interested in anyone else, until the pastor’s daughter came back into where I worked and we talked. Far more things we have in common than this other lady I was seeing ( and I began to really like and respect her), but, ultimately, I didn’t see her again, until 2 months later, where I decided to meet people at this church.

I was down in the dumps because the woman I dated was someone special to me. Although, no matter how much I care(ed) about her, it wasn’t going to work. So I decided to check out these evening services at this church and, like and behold, the pastor’s daughter (who I had, that first night, found that she was a pastor’s kid) was there. I’m really trying to meet more people, but this one I’m interested in. But, again, I wuss out at times (and I shouldn’t) and not talk to her, even though I have all the confidence in the world to go talk to everyone else there (including the her parents, who are good people). She is the ONLY one I wimp out on. My question is am I being too shy? And what do I do to engage her? I feel like I failure because I don’t have any solutions because, with the other woman I dated, that was far easier (I’ve known her since childhood, but only last year got reconnected with her when we didn’t see each other in nearly 20 years). So I’m at a lost and any piece of advice would help. Thanks!

Bend her over the pulpit.

Take your time....

Do you really want your rebound to be the pastor's daughter?

Ya don't poop where ya pray.

Run it by her mother and father first? She may already be in a relationship with someone in another church?

. That idea ran through my head for awhile, but then I was told she was single, and the last time I had talked to her, she said she had no kids.

Hi Paul, my son met his wife in church. They've been together for seven years, married for five.

Just be yourself and try to relax. Participate in the church events and social time afterward services, if they do that. Don't beat yourself up for wimping out, lol. I'm pretty sure most people get a little nervous when it comes to someone your interested in. I certainly do. I can talk to anyone easily, but I tend to freeze up when I meet someone I'm attracted to.

I found it went a lot better when I would ask them about something they are interested in, rather than trying to think of something to say. That will usually gets the conversation going, and helps in letting the person your attracted to know you're interested in them.

Best of luck to you.

Hi paul ... don’t put so much pressure on yourself . Just enjoy any opportunities you see her to say hello and reconnect . Does she know you are now single ??? Not sure how long your previous relationship lasted but make sure you give yourself time to heal . . establishing a friendship and getting to know her is a great place to start . You have the church in common that should be a good ice breaker . Don’t let shyness hold you back . Wish you the very best of luck

for the love of god man grow a pair and approach the woman...omg the pastor's daughter, she probably has 50 angels instead of the prescribed 2 and what if her dad sees into my soul and the future of what could be and kicks my *** on the spot? what then? snowflake is a recent term....honestly....i couldn't even read the whole thing...buy one of those 8 ball thingys and ask it....

Sure you're not subconsciously looking at her as a rebound relationship?
A lot of times after a breakup, people will immediately look for someone else to fill the void that their ex filled.