I have been in love with a girl for 10 years. On my fourth year of loving her, she reciprocated my feelings but we were not in a relationship. But still, I was so happy and I felt that there was nothing I can't do. We also planned our future and things that we wanted to do. But my most unforgettable moment was when she had written my white shirt in red marker a big "I love you".

On the fifth year, our paths separated due to studies. But we're still fine despite the distance between us. On the sixth year, she became so cold to me but I endured it. On the seventh year, I was already going crazy because she we only had communication at the end of the year and her messages were about pushing me away. On the eighth year, she said "stop" to me personally.

After ending things with me, I entered into a relationship with a girl who liked me so much. But she betrayed me. Another 2 ladies came to my life, but did not end well because there was a lingering feeling for my past love. This was the ninth year.

I have entered post graduate studies to be busy and to distract myself from everything that had happened to me. And I have found out through studies that I started being "not okay" when she started being cold to me. And my mind and emotions gradually got destroyed from the point that she said "stop" with the addition of the betrayal of my first girlfriend.

After that, I had been pulling myself together. And in this tenth year, I realized that I miss her. I don't know how fate will unfold, but I'm hoping that someday my love will still be able to reach out to her. Also, I'm still able to hold myself until that time comes because I'm breaking inside as time passes by.

The topic "Sadness destroys the mind" is what I felt while writing my thoughts. After it was posted, I realized that it was about my uncontrollable feelings to a person.

Think Positive don't Dwell on sadness.

For many people, sadness will come and go.

Quing . That is truly sad to read. It sounds almost like you did not make your relationship a priority and she tired of waiting . Has she moved on and met someone else ?? Either you take a risk and reconnect or you let it all go and move on . Being in a state of limbo will just add to your sadness .

all relationships need work, two people far apart CAN NOT MEET EACH OTHERS

NEEDS.... '' you have to be present to win ''

Some of us can be more tender hearted than others who manage to ride the roller coaster of relationships easily, be kind to yourself and accept you feel deeply and that is who you are.
So you fell for this person when you were 12 years old? You have a whole life ahead of you, each woman you meet will be different, keep your eyes forward and not behind you.
I really do believe the quote... "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were."

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In my opinion you took a long time to get the hint. She had most likely found someone else while you were separated, and was too busy seeing him to write to you, sadly it does happen. You should have ended it, she treated you in such a way that screams out she wanted you to end it, but in the end she had to end it. There is no way back, it's over, accept what happened, believe it, and move on with your life.

Accept what is,
Let go of what was,
And have faith in what will be

- Sonia Ricotti

No idea who Sonia Ricotti is (sounds Italian) but very wise indeed!

It’s certainly helped me get through some extremely bad times