Discuss

like is a process

where and how you meet someone is your own business

personally , i think it is better totally on your own

some say you can judge by the people they keep company with or dont

I know many women like to isolate you while forming a relationship

I will find my own husband/partner. I may decide to be alone.

I would prefer arranged Marriage. I personally hate dating but want to get married. I think the ideal relationship should be like a business. Both parties come to the table and put what they have to offer on the table . if both parties like what they see than a relationship is established.
Marriage was originally not for love but to create alliances between families for political, economic, or status reasons. I personally have no problem marrying someone for reasons other than love as long as they are honest about it. You want to marry me so you can get into the USA I am fine with that as long as you compensate me for my time and assist me in getting citizenship to your country

They aren't absolutely mutually exclusive.

Choosing "love" doesn't mean your relationship will last more than a week.

Choosing "arranged marriage" doesn't mean you will never love or feel love from your partner.

Are you trying to ask something more like "personal freedom, or social responsibility and security, which is more important to you?"

On that spectrum, I lean more towards personal freedom, but I'm well aware I am only willing to accept a certain level of risk, cost, expectations, and consequences the further I get away from the converse.

Depending on the consequences, I would absolutely choose an "arranged marriage."

Who are the people you are trusting to arrange your marriage?

Arranged marriages tend to be culturally significant but they are not part of my culture . I do however have a friend whose marriage was arranged . He now has two small children and his marriage is flourishing

It's a common marriage culture in India, some parents are still old fashioned and if both are agree on it, it's really not harmful. But nowadays I think when women have the right to fight for love, the chance of willingness to have arranged marriage will be getting lesser. Unless those are from a family who just focus on obedient and some Asian parents think it's a way to show how you are filial piety. Sometimes it's quite sad to be a woman in that community.

they are not a part of Modern culture, They are part of my heritage though. I am suppose to be descended from Mary Queen of Scotland and she was betrothed when she was 6 months old. I personally hate dating as it is a horribly inefficient way of finding a spouse. I would rather simply find a matchmaker, tell them what age range I want and other details and have them find me a person who best meets my expectations.

Did you find a matchmaker?

In matters of the heart I prefer to make my own decisions, if it turns out to be a wrong decision there is no one else to blame only me.

Forced marriages where there is no consent to marry by both partners are illegal in the UK.

Arranged marriage is not in my culture.

I choose love!

i have not found one yet. I do know that in Cambodia some parents will try to match their children. My ex told me that her parents tried to set her up with someone but she said no to it. If i can find a matchmaker. I date for the purpose of finding a wife. it is one reason i am looking in Asia. I know that Asian cultures are conservative and they date for the purpose of finding husbands.

Arranged marriages aren't forced marriages. Either party can say no. Usually, they don't because parents try to set up their children with who they think would be the best match. Normally this would be based on economics. Let's face it dating a guy who is broke is going to suck. why live in a situation where you have to worry about how you will put food on the table or if you will have a roof over your head. I would have to admit that I have been lucky with the ladies I have dated. The first one worked at a casino in the Philippines. I was not pleased about her occupation of choice but I did like having my GF come home at 2 am interested in having a workout before sleep. we always had a few days a week where we could go to the movies. I also gave her an allowance of 300 a month and always like the feeling that I am taking care of my woman. sadly this ended when she decided to work on a cruise ship.
The next girl I met was Cambodian. When we first met she was working at a club where she would work 8 to 10 hours a day 6 days a week. Then quit her job after I offered her 300 a month. Then we had time to travel together. go to the movies and to the beach. basically, our life was a huge party. Every so often I took her to Thailand and Vietnam. We were even planning to get married and had a small shop. Then she got violent during an argument which caused us to part.

I am looking for a serious relationship

It's been discussed a great many times on here.
But alas... during one of these someone explained that there's 2 types of arranged marriage: one where both can choose to go for it or to decline and one where there's no choice, at least not for the woman.
If memory serves both versions had a name.

I doubt any western person would choose arranged marriage. Not of this time anymore. In many other countries & cultures it is.

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Do I hafta?

lol you can just sit quietly in the corner