In my 50's I want maturity. I do not want to babysit someone's emotions. As we grow older, I think we lose the passions that once ruled us. We look for peace, no drama and a partner who feels the same way.
As men and women of Mingle, is your opinion the same or different?

Same here, I look always for older ladies, the older the better.

My opinion is exactly the same.

If I was looking I’d look for someone who was at the same life stage as myself. I’ve dated younger before but wouldn’t do it again.

Definitely. I don't watch soaps and I refuse to live in one .

When I was in my teens, I would say my social maturity was a few years behind my age group so I always felt more comfortable with a girl a couple years younger. Advance many years forward, I'm now comfortable in most any situation but still enjoy a younger lifestyle than my age. I now find most people in my age group old and have relegated themselves to just surviving their last few years; they have forgotten how to actually live and enjoy life. Mostly I'm looking for someone younger or who at least lives a younger lifestyle!

I am definitely looking for maturity and someone in the same phase of life as me.
But I also have passions in life, thank goodness! I couldn't be with someone who hadn't (anymore), whether sexual or about having dreams and goals in life.
I actually find these things get more wonderful when you've aged a bit as you know yourself, what you truly like and stand for. When younger you're often still fumbling around with finding out, or too busy raising a family and getting a career of the ground.

I've always dated older, nowadays older, with life in them, is hard to find. That doesn't sound right?

I simply prefer being with someone
who isn't an emotionally disturbed trainwreck.

I always was with women that were older, now I'm ancient, and they are all long dead, so none of it matters... maybe it did at one time, but No interest from now on. Just travel and good conversation with people of all walks of life from now on.

Connor MacLeod, Is that you!?

No, he is a man far better than a fictional hero. Is there a point to your post?

Yes there is

yes

I don't think we 'lose' our passions as much as our priorities change.
The passions are still there but our priorities realign their significance.
I loved muscle cars in my youth. I still love muscle cars but they are not as important as they used to be.

Once contentment is found, it's insane to want to break it so we tend to steer clear of people who are stressed out all the time.

Everybody lives a soap opera.
Doesn't mean you have to be the star.

Maturity is a multi-faceted diamond.
If 'trying' to be mature is the goal, you have already failed.
It always depends on how someone defines maturity.
Some define it as being responsible.
Some define it as making sacrifices.
Some define it as being truthful, punctual or ready.
They are all components of maturity but none actually defines maturity in entirety.

A truly mature person has all the traits associated with maturity but there is no 'try'. Its a natural way of life requiring little or no focus on one aspect or the other.

Emotional maturity is also important yet few even know what it means.
Inner contentment supports emotional maturity.
Emotional maturity doesn't mean you can 'suppress' your emotions. It mean you can 'embrace' those emotions while remaining in 'control' of them.
You still feel anger but you don't hold onto it.
{Being 'mad' is holding onto anger. Mad in this context means 'madness'}
You still feel sadness but you don't hold onto it.
{Holding onto sadness can feed depression. Depression self-propagates}
You still feel joy but you don't hold onto it.
{Being happy all the time prevents the contrast needed to feel real joy}

For one to be mature requires maturity in all aspects of their lives.
How I define maturity may not be how you define it.
The trick is to find another who has similar definitions.
Easier said, than done...

I think pretty much most people would agree with wanting a partner with a similar emotional developement/attitude to themselves.

Because Let's face it, we know how tiresome it can be, having to walk on eggshells. I don't miss that at all.
But at the same time, The emotional state that someone is in at present may or may not be representitive of thier usual emotional state.

I wasn't balanced for a good 6 months after my divorce. I'm pretty sure I would have come across as needy. And hey! First impressions last.

Bad way to start a relationship in my wiew. Unless the other person has a similar excuse for thier emotional fragility. In which case mutual support and understanding can be of great value to both.
Soz. Bit of a rant.

But yea. The passions don't rule us so much. The don't burn, so much as smoulder, untill someone fans them to a flame, and piles on a few logs.

I think your spot on I'm 40 and feel the same just want simplicity without the drama

I totally agree

Yes similar age to myself ,poss minus 10 years +5 ,If I had my own Lear jet I would be flying to America , New Zealand and the Netherlands

Can we get to know each other

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