Ok so I'm 67 and maybe a little behind the curve, but I am gettng the impresion that many women today want, and even expect, physical contact in public life. I get holding hands, a smooch waiting in a line, arm in arm walking down the street. What am I missing? is something more expected, or desired may be a better word. I'm ok with whatever the lady wants within the limits of good taste but I guess I'm not understanding what I might do better..

Thoughts?

Where did you get that impression from?

I think all you had listed are ok for couples who really like/love each other and not shy in showing affection in public. so you are not missing anything.

And if you do more than that in public, people around you might go "ewwww! Get a room, grandpa!" and people with children with them will call the police on you.

Whilst women have many similarities
to each other, they didn't all come off
the same assembly line.

One woman may expect/want you to
nail her on the church lawn, in front of
the congregation.

Another woman may feel that's inappropriate,
and expect/want you to behave modestly
in the public eye, and save even discussions of
more intimate behaviour for "behind closed doors".

You'll have to ask each one, individually, what their
preference is on the subject.

Any woman who would agree to be nailed in public is not right in the head.

... or she is being raped. At any rate, call the police!

What's PDA?

I'd want a man to be able to express his feelings for me by holding hands, a smooch waiting in line etc. etc. when we're out and about. If this is an act that is done because he thinks I expect it, never mind. I'll find another man who can spontaneously do that because he feels that way.

I do not want that with a man I've only just met. It's an expression of feelings and closeness which doesn't exist yet when you just met.

PDA: Public Display of Affection.

Thanks!

Seems OK with me but I do agree that it's not cool when you've just started dating.

What's causing you to have that impression?
Something they say to you?
Something they do to you?
Something you are noticing in others?

For all I know when you go on a date whenever you see another person coming down the street you run to the other side of the street and actively seek to avoid being seen with your date.
So for all I know your dates or whomever aren't really seeking a PDA, it's simply your behavior is triggering an insecurity in WTH you want and they need an immediate (over)compensating sign to show that you actually do desire them or to be around them.


In terms of PDA actions?
Kinda depends on setting.
Walking down the beach? Trying to cross traffic while you rush to get to the movie theater? Sitting together at a park having a picnic?


Why don't you ask them?
That's part of how you build relationships.
You say you get an impression.
What are they doing to give you that impression? Are you communicating that to them and the impression you're getting?


If you want to be in a relationship, communicate with whom you want there to be a relationship.
If you don't really want to be in a relationship, internalize everything, go to the internet and ask strangers for pointers on how to act a part for long enough to get what you want.

Well it could be your age, many women find the older man irresistible, just too tempting, you have to go with the flow.

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PDA for the win!

Most do enjoy a little hand holding, opening doors ect.. Kind words will get one farther then they even realize at times..

I would be upset if he didn't hold my hand. As far as groping... that's for behind doors.

I believe whatever affection you display towards your someone special in public should be natural and within the laws of your society.

There's a difference between kissing someone and snogging them.
Touching has different limits between a walk in a park or in the crowd at a metal concert.
It should be natural not only for both of you but to the place you are as well.

Her sitting on your lap (or vice-versa) by a firepit is certainly different than her sitting on your lap (or vice-versa) in court.

In some countries a woman without a top on the beach is normal but in a restaurant is lewd.

You can usually take a cue from the behavior of others where you are at.
If you go outside that common behavior, you are certainly going to attract unwanted attention, unless your reason is to get attention, then you might want to look at the personality motive behind that need.