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Topic: living up to your responsibility
msharmony's photo
Thu 04/02/20 12:44 AM
Edited by msharmony on Thu 04/02/20 12:44 AM
Also, from a young age, my mindset or perception has been that with 'responsibility' also come 'authority' and 'privilege' and purpose. I see the responsibility as what I will pay to have certain privilege and authority and purpose, like any other transaction in which we give to get.



oldkid46's photo
Thu 04/02/20 07:05 AM
A lot of responsibility that others put on us are caused by their failure to take the responsibility that should be theirs. It is up to each of us if we want to carry their responsibility. Your failures are NOT my responsibility!! When you are strong enough to allow others to suffer through their responsibility failures, you will no longer be emotionally stressed by the responsibility you have left. Those that remain are controlled by you and you can resolve those problems.

alexis morales's photo
Thu 04/02/20 08:52 AM

Why_in_the_holy_Hell
would I wanna "grow up"?




laugh :thumbsup:


SpaceCodet's photo
Thu 04/02/20 09:20 AM
Don't think on it to much. Just do what needs to be done. You get stuck in a quagmire and never have anything in the end otherwise.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 04/02/20 09:56 AM
For most of my life I allowed others to dictate to me what my responsibilities are. That was a very hard row to hoe.
Then I started a family of my own and what I thought was hard before was actually easy.
I had four little lives who depended on me to keep them alive, healthy, fed, housed, clothed and educated. They needed me to teach them wisdom for life.
My responsibility load shot to the sky.

The weird thing about that responsibility was the fact as time went by, the load didn't decrease, it changed. My responsibilitys shifted from basic to specialized and I had no experience handling it at first but, I learned.

My load did not diminish until my children were all moved out on their own starting their own families. I said diminish because I still have responibilities to their best welfare. As they grow their own families my responibility wanes for the life & death things. Most of the time my responsibility to them means giving the right advice when asked or needed.

Living alone, I still have responsibilities to society and myself.
It feels easier than when I was young and just starting out.
I have nothing to prove now.
I've already proven it.
I merely need to maintain my residence and my own health and welfare.
With my experience of life, its pretty simple.
There are far fewer challenges now so my contentment is easy.

The key to handling responibilities is to know your limitations and realize worry and stress makes a hard thing harder.
You make headway when you can.

It does no good to worry about an electric bill on Saturday and Sunday. The electric company is not open on weekends. It also closes every day for the night. So worrying, does nothing but stress you out. You do something when you can. It also does no good to worry about paying the electric bill on Tuesday if you're broke and are not paid till Friday. On Friday you go pay the bill. Worry does nothing but stress you out.

The electric bill example applies to most things we worry about.
Why stress out about things you can't do anything about.
You do something when you are able and you prioritize that.
Another example;
If your electric bill AND your cable bill is due and you can only pay one, you pay the more important one first. Cable does no good if you have no electricty to run the TV.
Responsibilities must be prioritized and handled as soon as you are able.
If there is nothing you can do right now, why stress out about it.
Why not just enjoy life and the people who give you a reason to be responsible.
If not, what is the point of it all - to live a life all stressed out?
No thanx!

Uhuntah's photo
Wed 04/08/20 03:36 PM
it is not your duty to be this or that, only to be

no photo
Wed 04/08/20 04:27 PM

it is not your duty to be this or that, only to be

This statement doesn't stand up to scrutiny or reality. None of us are allowed to simply "be". We all have our responsibilities and duties, regardless of whether we chose them or not. if you are a parent, then your duty lies with your children, you can't just "be", you have to take care of and feed your children. This necessarily involves many difficult decisions and voluntary hardships. This is one very simple and obvious example.

msharmony's photo
Wed 04/08/20 06:53 PM
IF we use this definition of DUTY: a moral or legal obligation; a responsibility.
"it's my duty to uphold the law"

than

just 'being' is not fulfilling any duty as it is something that is not really a choice (except in cases of suicide)



Toodygirl5's photo
Wed 05/06/20 01:30 PM
I handle my responsibilities well! I grew up years ago.

Older and wiser, that's the way it's supposed to go. Thank God!

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