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I would have to agree with Freebird, for a change, although hook up's don't disgust me as they can also lead to better things, and find that most women on dating sites are looking for that Knight in shining armour and all they seem to come across are men in tinfoil hats.. 
That's kind of a sexist comment " men in tinfoil hats". I wear a tinfoil hat, that's how I receive messages from outer space |
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thanks for the responses guys
gives me food for thought |
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I would have to agree with Freebird, for a change, although hook up's don't disgust me as they can also lead to better things, and find that most women on dating sites are looking for that Knight in shining armour and all they seem to come across are men in tinfoil hats..
That's kind of a sexist comment " men in tinfoil hats". I wear a tinfoil hat, that's how I receive messages from outer space  
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Cuz new is always better
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If two consenting adults want to hook up for casual or any other kind of s e x, then that is up to them, and shouldn't be judged by anyone.. simples
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Edited by
MAW
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Wed 10/02/19 09:57 PM
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See the thread: "What do women want". Or something like that. They want so much. So starting off with a casual relationship gives a sort of 'cooling off period', where you both can say no, or spend more time having a test drive of the relationship, before the dramas and expense of moving in, or de-facto, or marriage. A hookup or a fling can lead to more ongoing / permanent arrangements, or just therapeutic relief. You'd have to be a rich fool to jump into the next relationship too quickly. Eg. like they do in Hollywood. Serial monogamy. After seeing my father left with nothing out of decades of labour, after marriage end, I'm never jumping into any legal bondage until I am absolutely certain she is the one. I don't want to be fleeced. I'm very old now and time for families has passed me by, and women just don't like me, but I'll still never jump into anything until I am very very sure. Or close to death and don't care anymore. Thanks mum. ya...I like that whole reasoning. |
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See the thread: "What do women want". Or something like that. They want so much. So starting off with a casual relationship gives a sort of 'cooling off period', where you both can say no, or spend more time having a test drive of the relationship, before the dramas and expense of moving in, or de-facto, or marriage. A hookup or a fling can lead to more ongoing / permanent arrangements, or just therapeutic relief. You'd have to be a rich fool to jump into the next relationship too quickly. Eg. like they do in Hollywood. Serial monogamy. After seeing my father left with nothing out of decades of labour, after marriage end, I'm never jumping into any legal bondage until I am absolutely certain she is the one. I don't want to be fleeced. I'm very old now and time for families has passed me by, and women just don't like me, but I'll still never jump into anything until I am very very sure. Or close to death and don't care anymore. Thanks mum. ya...I like that whole reasoning. feelin alone, cold and need some love. anyone in tha alameda area want to drop by and we can warm each other up. snuggle with a good movie on the couch. 420 O.K. |
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maybe women do it in an attempt to screen us bad guys out.
men maybe to screen the good girls out. either way both must meet and at that moment choices get made. imo friends first no expectations simple. |
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There are several experiences most divorced men have gone through:
1. Long time lack of sex 2. Many years without freedom 3. Significant loss of financial resources. Ladies, you have to be something really special for a man to be interested in you for the long term in a serious relationship! |
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Edited by
Unknow
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Fri 11/01/19 09:02 AM
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There are several experiences most divorced men have gone through: 1. Long time lack of sex 2. Many years without freedom 3. Significant loss of financial resources. Ladies, you have to be something really special for a man to be interested in you for the long term in a serious relationship! Whaaaaa? That's not what you said last night 
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I suppose I am something like most men,I just don't want to go through it all again ,I enjoy being alone most of the time ,doing what I want when I want,I am looking for a lady for a bit of company / support and offer the same ,as for quick hookups the idea disgusts me, But does that answer the OP's question? Women also go through all that, they also suffer, they also lose out incl financially and materially, they're often the ones left with the kids, having to carry both their own pain as well as the kids' and having to keep a normal life together for the kids' sake. Their dreams and hope for the future are also in ruins, and they possibly had to endure a crap sexlife (I think more often than not). Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love. Why can't men do that? I know some do, but what you see and come across is that most don't. All they do is what you see here: biotch at women and blame women. |
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I suppose I am something like most men,I just don't want to go through it all again ,I enjoy being alone most of the time ,doing what I want when I want,I am looking for a lady for a bit of company / support and offer the same ,as for quick hookups the idea disgusts me, But does that answer the OP's question? Women also go through all that, they also suffer, they also lose out incl financially and materially, they're often the ones left with the kids, having to carry both their own pain as well as the kids' and having to keep a normal life together for the kids' sake. Their dreams and hope for the future are also in ruins, and they possibly had to endure a crap sexlife (I think more often than not). Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love. Why can't men do that? I know some do, but what you see and come across is that most don't. All they do is what you see here: biotch at women and blame women. Yes! We are all gold diggers, lie about our age and weight, we are all crazy, just looking to take advantage of men. Yeppers, 90 percent of the men on here do nothing but whine and complain about how they can't get a date or how wonen have ruined their life, just bitter, jaded men, no wonder no one wants them |
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I suppose I am something like most men,I just don't want to go through it all again ,I enjoy being alone most of the time ,doing what I want when I want,I am looking for a lady for a bit of company / support and offer the same ,as for quick hookups the idea disgusts me, But does that answer the OP's question? Women also go through all that, they also suffer, they also lose out incl financially and materially, they're often the ones left with the kids, having to carry both their own pain as well as the kids' and having to keep a normal life together for the kids' sake. Their dreams and hope for the future are also in ruins, and they possibly had to endure a crap sexlife (I think more often than not). Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love. Why can't men do that? I know some do, but what you see and come across is that most don't. All they do is what you see here: biotch at women and blame women. Yes! We are all gold diggers, lie about our age and weight, we are all crazy, just looking to take advantage of men. Yeppers, 90 percent of the men on here do nothing but whine and complain about how they can't get a date or how wonen have ruined their life, just bitter, jaded men, no wonder no one wants them I've been divorced...he was a serial cheater..and *I* didn't "fleece" him.. I took my half.....to do anything else is wrong, and I wouldn't do it... I *still* think that most of the time when men get taken to the cleaners/ fleeced/ wtf-ever that they didn't give consideration/ acknowledge red flags/ issues..for whatever reason..she was hot...the sex was good...it's npt that bad...I can change her...whatever... JMO...yours may vary, and that's OK.. |
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"Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love.
Why can't men do that?" Maybe the answer lies in this question: Why do women want that new relationship? What do they expect to get out of it that men don't? What price are they willing to pay for that relationship? What is the true definition that most women use for a relationship? |
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I suppose I am something like most men,I just don't want to go through it all again ,I enjoy being alone most of the time ,doing what I want when I want,I am looking for a lady for a bit of company / support and offer the same ,as for quick hookups the idea disgusts me, But does that answer the OP's question? Women also go through all that, they also suffer, they also lose out incl financially and materially, they're often the ones left with the kids, having to carry both their own pain as well as the kids' and having to keep a normal life together for the kids' sake. Their dreams and hope for the future are also in ruins, and they possibly had to endure a crap sexlife (I think more often than not). Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love. Why can't men do that? I know some do, but what you see and come across is that most don't. All they do is what you see here: biotch at women and blame women. Yes! We are all gold diggers, lie about our age and weight, we are all crazy, just looking to take advantage of men. Yeppers, 90 percent of the men on here do nothing but whine and complain about how they can't get a date or how wonen have ruined their life, just bitter, jaded men, no wonder no one wants them I've been divorced...he was a serial cheater..and *I* didn't "fleece" him.. I took my half.....to do anything else is wrong, and I wouldn't do it... I *still* think that most of the time when men get taken to the cleaners/ fleeced/ wtf-ever that they didn't give consideration/ acknowledge red flags/ issues..for whatever reason..she was hot...the sex was good...it's npt that bad...I can change her...whatever... JMO...yours may vary, and that's OK.. To be honest, I doubt most actually got fleeced. Maybe in the US it's different, I don't know. But I never really seen that happen, although I hear men whinging about it having happened to them. I think it's simply to do with not being able to cope and then seeking an outlet, which is very unfair and disrespectful. |
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hey the thinking of man is if a woman's is single for a long time she would be filled alot so she would be needing a man for her satisfaction so they ask you and when you say know they think we shold go littile naughty to heat you up so they go downnasty
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"Yet... women recover, find their feet and want a new relationship, are able and willing to take the risk of getting hurt again as that's the only way to love. Why can't men do that?" Maybe the answer lies in this question: Why do women want that new relationship? What do they expect to get out of it that men don't? What price are they willing to pay for that relationship? What is the true definition that most women use for a relationship? I don't see the relevance to the OP's question, nor to mine. What women hope to find in a new relationship has no relevance whatsoever to why men can't seem to heal from one. All you're doing is avoid the question and try to get back to the tit-for-tat game to do some women-bashing. I'm not interested in that game. |
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i'll say this crystal since most of the germane answers for both genders have been offered already.
trish's op lacks one key piece and the site doesn't have a space for it either. how long have they been divorced? it really does affect the honest answers |
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hey the thinking of man is if a woman's is single for a long time she would be filled alot so she would be needing a man for her satisfaction so they ask you and when you say know they think we shold go littile naughty to heat you up so they go downnasty Thank you, next..... |
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Tsk tsk, why look at me complaining about men who complain. Someone ought complain about my complaint about complaining
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