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ivegotthegirth
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Fri 08/23/19 03:57 PM
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Why do ladies don't like to chat first, they prefer men to talk to them first. When it comes to dating and all that goes along with it, many are still stuck in the past with antiquated notions. That is, it's the man's job to make the first move, it's the man's job to plan the date, it's the man's job to pay for everything, etc. I have seen similar discussions numerous times on various online dating site forums. With the same opinions over and over. I'm a man and glad to be, all the things you just mentioned are things that I do automatically. I believe that chivalry is not dead and practice it unless she tells me to do otherwise. Very few women ever tell me that! What they do say is they really miss being treated that way or no one has ever treated them like this, they've only heard about it. There's nothing wrong with being "old fashioned" if you want to call it that. And cat we or speaking for myself, yes we do want to do the pursuit. I think thsat's a primasl thing also. |
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And cat we or speaking for myself, yes we do want to do the pursuit. I think thsat's a primasl thing also. Well then, explain to me why *every* half-a**ed conversation I have had on the dating sites (because for the reason i am about to say I';ve never had a good, quality chat) *I* had to lead the conversation/ keep the chat going.....even if the guy messaged ME first.. If I don't keep prompting them...the conversation just dies.. They claim they don't take the inititative because they: Don't want to bother me I might be busy Figure I'll message them when i want to chat.. Homey...that s**t works BOTH ways.. If BOTH people sit and wait for the other one to message...then *no one* messages... |
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Why do ladies don't like to chat first, they prefer men to talk to them first. When it comes to dating and all that goes along with it, many are still stuck in the past with antiquated notions. That is, it's the man's job to make the first move, it's the man's job to plan the date, it's the man's job to pay for everything, etc. I have seen similar discussions numerous times on various online dating site forums. With the same opinions over and over. I'm a man and glad to be, all the things you just mentioned are things that I do automatically. I believe that chivalry is not dead and practice it unless she tells me to do otherwise. Very few women ever tell me that! What they do say is they really miss being treated that way or no one has ever treated them like this, they've only heard about it. There's nothing wrong with being "old fashioned" if you want to call it that. And cat we or speaking for myself, yes we do want to do the pursuit. I think thsat's a primasl thing also. Well said ivegot... Those are things I look for in a man and has a lot to do with why I wait for the man to make the first move. Part of my problem though is I'm not that good at helping it happen by giving little subtle hints that I'm interested... So it doesn't tend to happen at all, or I end up chasing him away by being straight forward. 
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I think men want to do the chasing. Not in this, or any other lifetime. |
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 I always prefer to chat first,they always want my phone# first thing,I don't give info out til I'm comfortable,so they never reply
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Why do ladies don't like to chat first, they prefer men to talk to them first. When it comes to dating and all that goes along with it, many are still stuck in the past with antiquated notions. That is, it's the man's job to make the first move, it's the man's job to plan the date, it's the man's job to pay for everything, etc. I have seen similar discussions numerous times on various online dating site forums. With the same opinions over and over. I'm a man and glad to be, all the things you just mentioned are things that I do automatically. I believe that chivalry is not dead and practice it unless she tells me to do otherwise. Very few women ever tell me that! What they do say is they really miss being treated that way or no one has ever treated them like this, they've only heard about it. There's nothing wrong with being "old fashioned" if you want to call it that. And cat we or speaking for myself, yes we do want to do the pursuit. I think thsat's a primasl thing also. |
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i consider myself confident and have no problems initiating a chat with a man
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girls had 90% more pations than boys
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thats the cool ayith
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girls got potions
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Well Bluegrass I can't explain these other guys. They sound like dumbasses.
I guess because I was a door to door salesman starting when I was 19 I'm a talker and communicate well. I also learned long ago that if I wasn't talking nothing was going to happen.....duh. There are many people that can not carry on a conversation for longer than a couple of minutes unless you are questioning them and coaxing them along, many. And I don't think I need to tell you what horrible and boring conversations like that are. River,that's just me and I'm glad I have traits you like.Don't think I could change if I wanted to. You could never chase me away by being straight forward that what I prefer anyhow. And I don't mean you specifically that goes for any women I might be talking with. Life's to short to beat around the bush in simple conversations. JUST SPIT IT OUT! lol j/k.... but being real saves a lot of time. When I get into something I really get into it and go all out whatever it may be. |
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Why do ladies don't like to chat first, they prefer men to talk to them first.
People in general don't like to chat first, they prefer someone else to talk to them first. "Break the ice." You know of any guy that has ever said "Gee! I am so glad that attractive women don't approach me at all! I can't even stand it when they look at me, or toss their hair, or part their lips my way, or do any subtle subconscious gesture that is an invitation to approach/chase them. I would absolutely hate that! I loooooove being the first to approach them and couldn't stand it any other way!" Other than that, it's well documented that people take their cues from others. They'd prefer someone else do something first before they commit to the same behavior. Happens all the time at car accidents or breakdowns. Thankfully, men have testosterone. Makes them more aggressive. Keeps the world from becoming a 5th grade dance where everyone just sits on their side waiting for the other side to approach and ask them to dance. |
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Most women fear rejection, because we are too self conscious. No woman wants to find themselves looking in the mirror looking for flaws because they made the first move and got rejected one time, and for us.. One time is too many.
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hell
give me a strong woman any day. if she happens to make the first move than she,s more than worth a 2nd look. times have changed since the olden day,s lol |
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Hmmm
Is the guys duty |
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Maybe they're scared of rejection. That's just one reason out of many.
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Maybe they're scared of rejection. That's just one reason out of many. Aren't you? They're allowed to be. |
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When I do a search, I don't find a man I'd want to contact. There are good guys but we are looking for different things, so I don't reach out to them.
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Most women fear rejection, because we are too self conscious. No woman wants to find themselves looking in the mirror looking for flaws because they made the first move and got rejected one time, and for us.. One time is too many. This is so sad!  Will all you guys out there please just stop rejecting women.
( try and do a bit more chasing, too many complaints, bad Press and all that.) |
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Probably on paid basis
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