So I met this really sweet guy off line. Lives at a nice house that has many steps, just to get into the house. Unfortunately I have a sprained ankle. This would be the first meeting EVER outside of just some small talk at a bar. Would it be awkward to ask him to carry me about? He wants me over to his place after dinner. It just seems a bit strange to me. Have any guys had to do this or ladies have been helped like this.

It's not wise to have first ever meetings in someone's home. Especially with a sprained ankle!

Have him take you to a public place and just let him know you're ankle is sprained so no place with stairs. If he's truly interested he shouldn't have a problem with that.

Best wishes to you.

It would be weird to ask him that, yes.

But like River said, it is not smart to go to his place when you've only had small talk in a pub. You don't know him well enough to get into his domain. I wouldn't take the risk.
First date outdoors, not in a pub, but a public place. No walking obviously, so somewhere else that's nice. Just coffees is good, as long as it's during the day as then people's mood are different than in a pub, likely with alcohol, and you can get to know him better before you decide to go to his place.

And yes, with a sprained ankle it's even less smart. if something happens and he turns out to not be nice you can't even do a runner.

PS what I usually do/say in such cases is something like "I'm a bit old-fashioned, I don't move that fast!"
Or "I'm not the kind of girl that moves that fast!" After that ask him for an alternative.
If he's just after sex he won't be interested. but then at least you haven't wasted your time, unless that's what you want of course.

hmmm..what River says ...and what Sparkling says...

please explain "carry you about" and

Why going over to his place can't wait until you are healed?

All of you are probably correct. I am rather athletic and fit, but being injured gives me less advantage. He is 260 ibs, 6'3.

So he wants you for dessert at his house huh? LOL Just tell him you have sprained ankle and cannot take the stairs. Don't ask him to carry you upstairs. What about if he turns out to be a bad person? You dead. And what about if he carried you up and he lost his footing and you both fell down the stairs? then you both dead... or injured.

You know very well why he wanted you over to his place after dinner, right? He wanted you to see his pet rock collection. or the obvious, he wanted to have sex. One night stand? Wait until your ankle is fully healed so you have more time to get to know the guy.

thank you for sharing. interesting topic

Meeting at a house...


Well...
Since you've consented to 'give up the cookie'
on the first meet, he may as well tote you up the
steps.


Not my place to judge.

Depends on how much you weigh.


I had a fat woman beg and talk like a child incessantly asking me to give her a piggy back ride (I avoided the obvious comeback) saying it'd be "romantic."
I refused.
We didn't date again.

I dated a woman that was 4'11 and about 90 lbs. I loved carrying her around. Usually when hiking or drunk. Sometimes she'd pass out on my back and I'd get some love drool down my neck.

If it were in a place of work you would be required to provide a risk assessment and provide a method statement

Have you ever been in a relationship where y'all matter to each other?

Makes me wander if he asks all of his dates to his nice house with loads of steps. my feeling is that it gives him an advantage as regards impressing you.

Meet elsewhere..If he's interested He'll take some time. And besides When you meet for the first time, you may or probably will find, that he won't be quite as you thought...
At least with coffee or a light something. You can say well nice to meet you and hobble out of there if you get a sense of something not right.

I wouldn't make yourself vulnerable. Just in case.

Oh offline oops. forget half of what i just said.:)

Having a first meet at someone's house is just well more then a open invitation that you will be the dessert just saying..

But seems you have meet him a couple times if it was offline.. I would make sure he knows that the steps would be a challenge for you.. Maybe suggest a close by restaurant to get to know each other more..

She prolly didn't like our replies as she's deactivated.

Some people don't like to hear the truth..

Did anyone consider maybe she wanted to be in his house? Kind of sounded that way to me...

Sounded like a load of rubbish

If you have to ask if it would be awkward, then I'd say don't go. Also, I think it'd be best if you take it easy and heal before going out.

As nice a guy as he may seem, if he were to carry you out and drop you, you could get injured even more, or if he carries you the wrong way could injure himself.

Sounds like it may be a bit early in the relationship to be going to each others home just yet, but maybe once you heal, you could go to lunch or dinner, and progress from there.

Yes. And in that case she could've been more considerate of the man's back since she seems to be quite the big girl.