with her for 20 married for 10 on 10 yr wedding anniversary she tells me she has been with him for several months.
I have no idea how to go about even speaking to another woman. I need help

Happened to me after 50 years,not another man though we just grew apart,I am managing a new life and more relaxed with no arguing,not met anyone yet but trying,oh a tip post a pic with a shirt or sweater on,some girls see bare chests as a threat or desire for instant action.
Good luck.
PS pics with other girls also put many off !

Most everyone experiences rejection at some point in their life.
You can do it with class or you can go the other way.

They say the best revenge is living a good life..I like this ;-)
While the urge to kill and maim subsides.

The best way to get over a woman,
is to get on top of another.

Like Soufie said, everyone goes through that, often more than once. It's logical that you need to get into the groove when it comes to dating again.
Problem when you've been involved with someone since you were 15 is that you didn't practice it during your teenage years. Teenage years & relationships are meant to practice those skills and to find out by trial and error what works for you and what doesn't so you're ready & prepped for the real thing.
You likely have to find out now, even though you're now an adult, as you skipped that phase during teenage years.

If you really are interested in how to go about it, search online, it's all on the net.
As a tip: naked chest pictures on a dating site don't work for you...
Looking angry doesn't either... Smile.

But... do yourself a favour, and get over your ex first.

Good luck

We do what must be done. I suggest starting with someone to talk to, either professionally or otherwise. I would not begin another relationship without forgiveness or I think there is danger of repeating the same cycle over and over. Forgiveness is hard, takes time and self reflection as well as honest assessment of our own expectations and behaviors. It is very hard with young love. I married my high school sweetheart and we went through some things. There was violence, which I forgave, and we got counseling for, and it never happened again. But then there was infidelity, which I forgave, but we never talked to anyone about, and never stopped.

We just have to go on and try not to live a life without taking account of the things we can control, like what we are bringing to the table and how we are teaching others to treat us by what we accept or don't accept.

I don't think there is any simple answer and I don't want to ramble further, so I will reluctantly be cliche and say, like with any other heartbreak, disappointment, or tragedy, life must go on.

Put your big boy pants on. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. And get on with life.

just get a prostitute once in awhile to take care of your physical needs, its cheaper in the long run

Thanks for the tip I honestly didn't know that it was my profile pic

You're only 35! You still got a whole lotta living to do... and you're good looking to boot. Just be yourself and don't break too many hearts, ok?

When you are feeling sorry for yourself, just remember Michael Buble "Feeling Good" song...

It's a new dawn
It's a new day
It's a new life
It's a new life
For me
And I'm feeling good

Best wishes

Don't let them know you hardly ever dated. Unfortunately, they may figure it out even if you keep your yapper shut. Then you're dead meat. Keep in mind that women aren't kind to men who haven't dated much.

Then you're rather stuck. Suggestion- try doing without. It may be your only choice.

Maybe she care no about you anymore, I sorry for hear that, and, I think you should start a new life without her, believing that you will have a better life tomorrow.