I have a son already and definitely enjoy sex in a relationship. But if a girl was a virgin and I had to marry her before I would be able to do that, I would DEFINITELY WAIT for her. I respect that, admire that, and it would probably make me hope more that I got to be the one to marry her.

I really respect you decision. I think that if that is your choice then do it. If a man pushes you for sex then that is all he wants. You can have a great relationship without sex. I have had relationship were sex was involved and guess what, I'm single now. So those relationships did not work. Sex will not make a relationship. While I am not a guy and don't date women. I would like to find a man with morals because right now I have also decided not to not have sex again until I am in a loving relationship that is heading toward marriage.

Again I commend you on your choice and love of your self and the person you give your self too. That is a very important decision and shows a lot of self worth!

I believe the big deal to some people is that they have morals and a faith in God. Not everyone does but some do. So that is the big deal to them. It may not be to you or other but to some it is and it is respectable for them. Being a virgin is a gift. Just having sex with every person you think you are in a relationship with weighs heavy on a lot of peoples' heart, souls and bodies. If you don't want to wait, don't. But please dont knock someone who wants too.

I believe the big deal to some people is that they have morals and a faith in God. Not everyone does but some do. So that is the big deal to them. It may not be to you or other but to some it is and it is respectable for them. Being a virgin is a gift. Just having sex with every person you think you are in a relationship with weighs heavy on a lot of peoples' heart, souls and bodies. If you don't want to wait, don't. But please dont knock someone who wants too.

Not "knocking" anyone. However, I must disagree, virginity is NOT a gift. It's a physical fact. Everyone is born a virgin just as everyone is born not being able to talk or walk.

Im not sure if you heard this one yet, but I did not wait until marrage and now I regret it.

I am a guy, and i would get with someone with this value in a heartbeat.

What i have found is a lot of women in my area lost their moral compass regarding sex.

Their relationships suffer, and eventually end. Im my most recent one, she was looking for something new 4 hours after we were just taking a few days off to think.

Like i said, i am a good man who would do just about anything to prove i was worthy, even wait until marrage if asked.

You're so worth waiting for!

dam u r cruel.if she wants to wait good.she wont get stuck pregnant having a kid out of wedlock.save yourself for the right man.i've come to the point where i only want to be w someone i love and getting married means at least the both of yall think u r in love.

I honestly don't give a darn if someone wants to wait. I do believe, however, that losing one's virginity is not a big deal. Do we get emotional and sentimental about learning to drive or having our first glass of wine? How about our first kiss? Sex isn't a grand metaphysical act nor is it always Hallmark card sappy (and in fact, to me, it's so much better when it's not). Sex is a biological function; it's emotionally chemical (those pesky yet oh-so-heady hormones...).

Wait, I don't care, but personally, life's too short not to live.

I respect your views. But I think sex and virginity are personal and mean something different to everyone. To me, virginity is a virtue and sex is a gift. That said, I don't think your view is wrong, I just think it's personal. I dont look down on anyone who is sexually active...the majority of my friends are. I certainly don't think im "better" or "purer" than anyone who has had sex. I just posted this to see what kind of responses and what guys actually think of a girl who feels the way I do about it. So thanks to everyone who responded honestly.

i hope you find dat man Reenie!

Regarding losing your virginity...it depends on how it happens...it can be caring and loving or very traumatic. There is nothing wrong in my opinion waiting for marriage. I've learned over the years it's better to wait and less difficult of a break up if you haven't had sex. My opinion is do what feels right for you. I don't believe in jumping into sex if you're looking for a relationship. Casual sex...well there can be that but it can still be an emotional issue for some people. Go with your heart. A good man will respect a woman that will not jump into bed with them immediately.

Wow I am really shocked you said this after you gave Jaymie such a hard time!! Isn't this a little bit strange because you are always talking about std's and now you are talking about how life is to short? WTH???
I think its great, I have a friend who remained a virgin until HE was married. Him and his wife both were virgins...he was 31 when he got married. I think its great to experience being in love and having sex for the first time when you both are virgins. I think if this is what you want...then if he is the right one...he will wait for you!!!

Unsure I think you and I would be good friends based on what I've seen so far.

I was going to say Lady...we think alike!!

Indeed! It appears we do :)

Well I will probably get some nasty feedback for this, but I'm honest, and it's just my opinion.
I could understand not having sex right away, but I would personally never marry someone I haven’t had sex with. Might end up being a real nightmare IMO

Therefore it is a gift (from God). Heck being born is a fact of nature and is a gift it just depends on what you believe and you believe differently from those who do.

Most of the guys I work with or use to hang out with would always talk about nailing some girl the other day, or sizing up women when they came into work.

I don't know why but it hasn't been a top priority for me.