Good luck with that. However, if I had ever considered saving myself for marriage I'd end up a dead virgin. :)

As others have said stick to your guns hun.
Hind sight is 20/2o & I wish I would have waited.
I greatly respect what you are hoping for.

Waiting or nor waiting is your choice. There are some relationship issues that go along with waiting. You wont know whether you will like sex or not. And you wont know if your husband will either, if he is a virgin. Some people love sex and others can take it or leave it and still others dont like it at all. If you and your spose are in different camps that may be a real challenge to overcome, especially if you dont care for it and he loves it. In my experience I have chatted with alot of men who arent matched up sexually with their wives and it is a real problem because men tend to feel close to their wives in lovemaking. So if they arent getting satisfied sexually that will be a major souce of frustration and probelms in your relationship. And if you want ot more than him you will get very frustrated, probably buy a vibrator and then he will feel inadequate because he cant satsfy you.

SO the bottom line is make sure you have complete open communication with the person you intend to marry and especially about sex in marriage. Remember the Bible says "the marriage bed is undefiled" There is nothing bad about intimacy between 2 married people so having an open mind is important if you want to have your relationship work.

I will respect anyone who "sticks to their guns" and lives how they wanna live, but when it comes to relationships the girl and I must have some moral and reason-based commonalities.

While I can still respect someone for saving themselves until marriage, I challenge the sources of their views and judge how it affects their wisdom and maturity. I have lived in various places with varying cultures within the United States, and when I used to live closer to the heart of the south, I noticed that southern christian religous fervor was rampantly popular. Hell, I even participated in it. All these people were pledging chastity in the name of God without a second a thought to it because they were told it was the right thing to do. They were not making the decision for themselves; they were being good sheep. I believe that being a sheep in society will severly restrict your growth as an intellectual with opinions, and that you should challenge the validity and reasoning of any value system imposed upon you. Practicing this very Buddhist wisdom gives you insight and power over yourself and your own life; the very same power that our great nation's founders were made of.

I think that anyone who pledges to save themselves for marriage is most likely just blindly following what society and religion told them to do. Of course there are exceptions, but not many. I think that anyone who pledges to save themselves for marriage is failing to realize that the only thing they are doing is locking themselves up from the reality of the world. They are overprotecting their own precious hearts and as a result they are taking away their own heart's opportunity to grow stronger. They are choosing to miss out on one of life's many enlightening adventures that can have many benefits because in the back of their minds they fear the struggle that it takes to obtain them. However they do not realize how necessary these benefits are to live life to the fullest.

If you really want to walk the journey of life on the one straight narrow path that OTHER people poke and prod you to take, go right on ahead. Who knows, maybe that will make you happy! But realize that life isn't that straight road constructed upon the landscape; it's the ENTIRE landscape, and you have every option in the world. What if you don't even want to get married? What if you can find spiritual fulfillment in sexual practices with MORE than one person? What if you don't really want to be a sheep? What if you would be happier being more self-aware? What if you wanted to live a life of indulgence with the Satanists? What if you wanted to find yourself and God in a completely ascetic practice? Question the things you are told if you don't understand its reasoning and above all question yourself as to whether or not you are truly living how you want to live.

Rock,
-Chief

I say waiting is a very cool thing... However, why are you gals so down and saying I wish I had waited!

Waited for what? Like it would have been better to wait for marriage first? In those situations generally you are trying to enjoy life and explore. It's okay to have had sex.

People made a big deal about sex for years. There are all kinds of people getting married before sex... Doesn't mean it works.

Stick to your guns if you feel that way. My sister did and she's been married to the same dude for 20 years with no end in sight. They will die together and never cheat on each other as well. We all know this.

Do what feels right in your heart. Stick to your faith and you will be fine.

Stick to your gun Hon. I did. And my daughter is too. She is 21 and is waiting. Good for you! Don't worry, you are doing what is right for you. The right one won't mind waiting.

BTW......I'm single and waiting for the right guy. Even though the first was my true love, it didn't work out, but that doen't mean he was the wrong one. We were married and had two kids.

Now I'm waiting agian. I've chosen to remain celebate until the next "right" one. Seems silly since my first one didn't work out, but the fact remains that I will wait again until my true love comes.

AND, that I "know" this is the one for life. I was only 14 and married, so I think this time at 40 I have more expreience under my belt. Hahahaha, that wasn't a joke but it's funny

yea i would wait if she was the rite one for me i would if he dont want to wait then move on theres more than just one guy out there and some where out there is a guy that will wait

My daughter is waiting and I so much admire her for that

a guy that cares for you is not going to try to force you into anything sexually, but it is a downside of being with a newly married virgin, when the marriage is finally comsumated it will be for the guy rememberance of the first time he accidently got his wee wee caught in his zipper

I completely agree and as I stated a few pages back, I don't understand what the big deal is about virginity. It's not a "gift," it's not a virtue. Being a virgin simply means, for whatever reason, one hasn't had sex.

Sex is sooo spiritual that it literally binds 2 people together. The depth and complexity of that mystery will never be completely understood by man or be explained fully. Waiting till marriage is a heart filled decision and a good one.

You want the best and you deserve to have it and to experience that you have chosen to respect yourself and have a man do the same. You don't have to compromise to be with someone, at least not on a moral boundary.

You are worth waiting for and you should keep confidence in that fact.

i dated a girl for 2 years my last relationship, she was virgin. i totally respcected that. she is such an amazign person and passionate about life.. i never pushed the issue with her. things didnt work out because we both had different goals in life, and didnt want to hold each other back. she is still a best friend to me. but yea def respectable.. and a big turn on that yyou are acutally a virgin.

You are wise in these times.

Of course a great deal of men want virgins. It reflects the idea of women as property.

i see your point.. but its more of personailty for me. she respects her body. and i like someone to respect their body as much as mine.. show she has character. big part of life for me.

there is much more to it than that

I said, "...a great deal of men...," not all.

I think you are wise beyond your years!! So maybe you're looking for the wrong age group?? But NOT all young men are sex starved idiots!! You ARE worth waiting for and only you can make that choice..you will KNOW when its right! You GO Girl!!

I respect you for your decision to wait. I would have no problem with that. Something this personal and important should be given respect by anyone who is lucky enough to date you.

Good luck to you and hold onto your principles!