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Oh, btw, sorry to see you back again. You dissappeared for a bit and I thought you might have found someone. Sorry to see that isn't true. Not that I don't like you, I thought you were just done with the dating site searching. Hope you have better luck now. Well I'm sorry that you're sorry that I'm back LOL.. but I know what you mean but I'm not here looking for a love interest... I have one of those... just visiting old friends... and keeping myself entertained with the boards |
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So.. at a certain point in your life!.. you realize there are more years behind you than there are ahead of you.. now I don't consider myself old by any means.. and I never really thought of my mortality.. and if I did I could easily dismiss it and not give it a second thought....but.. recently.. like in the last 3 months... I find myself waking up in a cold sweat . And slightly panicked . In the early morning hours over the thought of my own demise..lol.. and regrets... and all sorts of thoughts I never gave much married to...now.. am I losing my marbles our at a certain age do we all go through this Phase ?? As for regrets .. I could make a guess at what one regret is .. you mentioned your girlfriend ... so you are not really alone ... unless she is inflatable Cheer up no.1 .....as you age .. quite likely your memory will age ..you will live in the now and forget what lies ahead .... now would you like me to go diaper shopping with you just kidding .. you know i have your back I missed your Carefree attitude and your great sense of humor..alot... No not ready for diapers quite yet..lol.. And I'm looking forward to not remembering yesterday.. but only what's in front of me.... . And no she is not the blow-up type ...lol |
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Did you run out of Kleenex boxes or did you have to go back to the Kleenex boxes... Changes like this in life can lead one to ponder too much and lose their marbles for a while... I moved onto paper towel now LOL... And omg seriously forgot all about the kleenex boxes ..lol..thanks for the reminder.. I hope you upgraded to Bounty paper towels... |
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No1 -- I've read most of your posts and all I see is negative thoughts. In reality when I look in the mirror I see some wrinkles and my hair is no longer dark brown ....too much trouble to dye it. But INSIDE I am only 40. I love going to concerts, driving to migration sites to birdwatch in the spring and fall, watching movies, driving slow on country roads and taking photos...I have chronic pain issues, but that's been for the past 40 years, since i was 35 years old. I still go to our men's university basketball games, spent last summer going to the Rocky Horror Picture Show every Saturday night at midnight in our capitol city..just for the heck of it. The audience was a riot. and yes, I do these things alone. My oldest daughter died 18 years ago at the age of 33, and I have 1 remaining daughter. Please try to see the positive side of life - starting in the morning and throughout the day remind yourself of everything you HAVE -- not what you are missing.
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Start your day by greeting the new day and being thankful you are here to enjoy it. "Good Morning, world!!"
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Sat 02/16/19 03:20 PM
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Life is a gift from God, no matter how old you are. I am happy to enjoy mine.
I have retired after years of working. Now enjoying time, without having to think about working, except my volunteer work! Love it !! |
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It must be LOL.. I find myself watching old people.. and thinking to myself ...how do they find the strength to go on..lol.. they seem to be in chronic pain.. I can't imagine they have much to get up for in the mornings... retired, nothing to do all day except tryng to make there pension stretch.. reminiscing about how it used to be in the good old days.. and seeing all the changes around them now and not any of them for the better.. mumbling under their breath as they walk down the grocery store aisle.. saying to themselves. I remember when that used to be $0.30.. and now it's $5.00..omg... looking in the mirror and seeing there old crinkly face lookingback at them.. well wishing to be young again . . I am not looking forward to retirement I can tell you that.. I find myself thinking is this my fate.. old and alone.. children that don't visit.. nothing to do with my time but go to the mall and hang out with other seniors... I never thought of such things before... and at least not as frequently... Midlife crisis is that what this is? LOL Have had a few of those they are not fun at all ... |
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Salut
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we are yes, me im going 38 i had 1son i'm a single mom, my is 3year old.
For me my is son ia the most important gift i received in my entire life. i do anything for him. bec i love him so much |
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Edited by
Ɔʎɹɐx
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Sun 01/26/20 09:35 AM
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Well, it's the beginning of the end, everyone has this feeling in their midlife. You can eliminate these ideas or at least get less concerned about them remembering how neglected our lives, or the whole human existence on earth is when compared to the age of the Earth, or how tiny our globe is when compared to this universe. The Earth will keep spinning, and the universe will keep expanding with or without us. So enjoy your life until the last minute and "Do not go gentle into that good night"
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At a certain point in life everyone realizes that they are in fact not immortal. How you deal with it says a lot about your character.
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I'm now 50 -but I am not focused on this life, so I don't freak out about what is ahead -and I would rather move ahead than have to go through all of that again!
Though the past was about as awesome as it was really awkward and messed up, I know the future can be even more awesome -while not being awkward and messed up! Especially AFTER this life. There is a reason we pass on just about when we start really getting good at being who we are! I just spent over a decade caring for three elderly relatives who have all passed on. I see them as being very fortunate. They are done! Their troubles are over -and they will wake with all the others who have become good at being who they are. People worry about things like the last thing they say to a person, but if they were still here, you'd be saying the same sort of things -and they know what you really feel, anyway. You also have forever to get better at communicating. Let regret change what you do NOW. Communicate -tell people the good things you think and feel about them -do good at every opportunity -take reasonable risks -be content -and make time to have fun! Think less about yourself -affect everyone and everything positively! :) |
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Yes I know the feeling I’m 54 ad boy do I feel so old having a hard time excepting that I’m aging I remember when ppl have matter ad respect . Nowadays the younger generation are so rude nasty disrespectful. Miss the GOOD OLD DAYS
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Yes I know the feeling I’m 54 ad boy do I feel so old having a hard time excepting that I’m aging I remember when ppl have matter ad respect . Nowadays the younger generation are so rude nasty disrespectful. Miss the GOOD OLD DAYS 100% agree. The only things, young people seem to care about these days, are themselves and their new smartphones If I acted like this, when I was young, my parents would have given me a good clatter |
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Be 70 next month, no worries the memory fails as you age so you kinda break even.
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phD, if you ever get to the point where you think you are too old for women, remember this - I used to double date with Moses and if you are feeling down I still have a lady's name Moses gave me that he chiseled in stone I can give you. But she may have a slight goat odor about her since she has been around goats all day long. Cheer up guy, we all go through that phase.
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Meh, let it go. Why spend your precious time letting these things get in the way; especially getting closer to your last day. We all know it's real and at times scary. Lord knows my body reminds me daily and often during the night when leg pain wakes me up and/or prevents me from getting a good night's rest. I know it's easier said than done. One thing that has worked for me is spending time with the elderly and you'll see how fortunate you still are. For example, can you still drive? How many meds are you taking? How many ailments do you have? What type of ailments? How is your ability to function impeded with the things that come with age? Another option, is realizing that someone always has it worse than you; age-related or not.
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Life begins at 50 something. I embrace my age and if going back in time means losing all my knowlegde and life experience then I am staying put. I look at a lot of younger people right in the |middle of family life and I think "been there done that" we had to suffer sacrifice sleepless night and clean up after their vomit etc etc. Its amazing how you quickly grow back out of that life. I don't mind having some grand children so long as I can hand them back to their rightful owners just before I am ready to go to bed.....or to go out....
and finally even in the relationship thing although some physical attraction still plays a role when you get older your start focusing more on how you make each other feel rather than superficial looks, cuves ,hips, butt, six packs bla bla bla. And finally you are as young as feel and sometimes I feel more crazier now with me telling my grown up kids not to wait up for me and even one time seriously contemplating ringing up my son to pick me up because my lift and left earlier from a salsa party. And I have seen some guys at the party that were nearly 20 years older than me with youn, girls asking them for a dance so long as I can still stand and keep in time with rhythm and my life spares going to enjoy every moment of it. Oh yeah one more thing thats a bit tragic. The amount of younger people that have died prematurely shows how uncertain this life is of ours so pe grateful for everyday still granted it applies to every age group |
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I'll be 64 in 12 days and I decided a few years ago you just have to own it
I asked my dad when I was about 12, "When you were in Korea were you ever afraid you would die"? (I was clueless) My dad was a Marine in the Korean war for about 18 months; wounded three times and earned a Bronze Star. He saw a lot of death. He told me that yes he was scared a lot but felt like when it was your time, it was your time. Nothing you can do about it so it didn't pay to worry about it. One of my lawyers and FWB (yes a woman) who is a year older than me likes to say "getting old isn't for sissies"! |
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