I'm usually pretty good at this sort of stuff on my own, but I'm kinda stuck and could really use some advice and moral support. I've been working at this job for a little over a month. There's definitely alot of cute girls there, but one has caught my eye and mind at the moment. I've seen her around, but the first time I talked to her, me and a friend were on break and went outside to smoke. This other girl was out there, and we chit-chatted for a minute. I was polite, even gave her some gum when I got a piece out for myself. Then a week or so later I was on break and she showed up to smoke before she started work. We chatted for a few, asked eachother if we went to school or anything, just pretty basic chat. She said she doesn't do much between work and home.

I want to ask her if she'd be interested in going out some time, but I don't know how to go about doing it. First off I'm kinda shy, and have been hoping maybe something will just fall into place where we get a chance to sit and chat again and I can mention something about going out, but at the same time I don't wanna wait for a chance that may or may not happen anytime soon. Yet I would feel kinda weird approaching her while she's working and just randomly be like "hey do you wanna go out sometime?"

So basically I just need some advice on how to approach this situation, and walk away with some dignity regardless of the outcome.

It is usually not a good idea to date your co-workers. It can end pretty badly.

well, try to find and interesting topic, go along with it for a while, then ask her right before....
oh hell dude just ask.

hmmmmmm try a group setting like a bunch of you ppl from work are going for a drink afterwards etc and ask her if she would like to join you.......

Write a note asking if she wants to go out and have her circle yes or no. Have a friend give it to her.


only kidding...


Don't date co-workers!!! TRUST ME.

I would watch who she hangs out with/talks to.
Then one day casually mention to them, that you think she's interesting, cute, attractive, what have you. Believe me, it will get back to her, then you wait for suttle clues from her, and approach her.

DON'T DATE CO-WORKERS Believe ME... Really it's true we're not lying it can get very messy... There's a saying that isn't tasteful so I won't repeat it but really it's not a good idea..

Listen just listen.


I was in this same situation at the beginning of this past summer.

And I Slowly but Surely Reeled her In...

All you have to do is well be yourself, but dont open up to her.

Like if she's talking about herself and asks you a personal question, play dumb or just smile and walk away...They Love That ****! Cuz then they want to try to open you up and thats how you do it man.

But on the real, drop the most lamest pick up lines on her daily but do it with wit. Also when talking to her say her name a few times in the conversation. Trust Me.

If that made any sense, then I hope you got some pointers.

Also Stay the **** Out of the Friend Zone!


Cuz once you're in that...You aint getting out.

It's rather hard for me to meet people any other way, besides the occasional person online, which isn't to often. I'm not into going to bars, and the club scene is rather old. As well, I really don't see a girl I meet at a bar/club being the type of girl I would want to form a relationship with. As well I don't really have any friends in the area to go out with or anything.

I still use that tactic...

I would try meeting people at cafes or concerts or art shows or even video game conventions... but then I'm a big nerd so idk ROFLsauce

pffttt...Describing what Im trying to say sucks...I need to make a video or something.


And dating Co-workers is Straight. I mean if it doesn't work out it may be akward as hell but everything balances out. And plus if the chemistry is there, you'll enjoy going into work

Haha I actually thought about doing one of those "Do you like me? YES/NO" notes, cause it's SOOOOOO cheesy maybe she's laugh and like my sense of humor,

but anyway... This girl is really very quiet, and I never see her talk to anyone except this one older lady that I rarely ever see around. So I can't play the getting to her through her friends route. I also can't take the witty banter route because we arn't around eachother enough to actually have a conversation or even a few lines here and there while we work. The only times we have spoken to eachother at all was during breaks.

The bottom line is it depends on the two people.. If their personalities can't handle it if things don't work out then it would be disasterous...

I totally get what you're trying to say, as I've used that tactic before to much success, but I can't use it in this situation.

Well than I suggest you just pack up your balls man and ask the girl out.


Tell her you want to take her out. If she says where? Give her a visual man. Tell her.

If she turns you down, say the offer is still on the table.


I mean christ this girl this past summer shot me down like a million times..haha. But we went out. chemistry wasn't there now we're good friends...

I get where everyone is coming from with the whole "Don't date co-workers", but it's different for me really. I've NEVER had an issue from it, usually if things don't work out, we still stay really good friends. I've never had a bad breakup before where we hated eachother by the time it was over.

Oh oh.. just don't have a couple dates and have sex. If you do end up dating her, get to know her!! LOL just because I just was in this boat like less then a week ago. Maybe make it clear you just want to hang out to get to know her and take it from there. It would probably be a smooth move.