Rick1980, I'm glad to hear you didn't waste your time with that other woman. You are right, that was a train wreck!

Did you meet this woman online or did you know her from before? Maybe I'm old fashion, but I like to get to know the person before I make any first moves. I don't make moves on the first date and in all honesty, I like to let the woman make the first move most of the time. That doesn't mean you can't flirt with her and use touching as a way to show you are interested.

I like becoming friends before moving to the next level. I've had relationships that started with sex first and they never worked out. I really don't understand this dreaded "friends zone" thing. I have women that are friends and then I have had relationships where we started as friends and moved on from there. If the chemistry is there, you will know it and if it isn't, you will know that as well.

My advice is to ask her out for another date but also spend some time on the phone getting to know her. On the next date, maybe try holding her hand. If that goes well, maybe try a kiss on the cheek at the end of the night. I like a woman who takes her time and if the shoe was on the other foot, I would want the same as well.

Just my two cents for what it is worth.

i was seeing a guy this summer, and he got drunk, and called me a c*nt. I was pissed, so I tired to leave. he said if i left he was going to go jump off the dam into the river. calling his bluff, i offered to drive him down there myself since it was about a half mile walk.

it still worries you that they are for real, but most are not and just looking for attention. if you think she is serious, call the cops and tell them she is suicidal, they can keep her for 24 hours for an evaluation.

yeah my mom said melatonin...


It sux laying thinkin about someone that could care less about you...you know.

I wish I could just stop.

Good luck, amor.

LMAO!

and i can say wateva i want
who tha hell are you to tell me wat i cant say or do?
your tha one who was wrong and thinkin you know someone's life

who am i to question someone's life?
question everything.
there's nothing wrong with reading into a situation, and i dont believe i have offended rick in any way.
but you... need to stay out of the way and keep your closed mind out of the way so that u do not offend others on a different level.

and coquibella - lol yeah. jeez i havent used myspace in forever.

Well this is certainly an interesting topic. I agree with the person that stated being 'bi' is a transition or experimental phase. I can attest to this personally. About this wonderful female being divorced and still talking to her ex and him finding you cute.... here's what's probably going on... she is talking to him about the new 'bi' thing just as he is going through it too. They are probably wanting to do a threesome with you. Now this is a conspiracy theory so just read it all... LOL... She's deflecting sex at the moment with you until her and the ex have a set game plan to lure you into their 'bi' web. Baby, you are going to get raped.

On a serious note. I read you like her but there are a lot of things you are having and going to have more problems with. I suggest cut it off early and look for someone that can offer you a normal relationship. You have to think about your comfort level. After a divorce you are looking to play not stay. I speak from personal experience here. You will only be a victim.

well damn! sounds like shes never had a decent lover...ever. not a surprise, though. many women have never even experienced a real orgasm, even after having been married for decades.
she's probably experimenting with the whole bisexuality indulgence because she's never really found satisfaction in making love with men.

so uhh... what is it that YOU want?

I know some girls who have had several partners and legitimately dislike sex. It's not that uncommon...some women just aren't into it. It could be a result of them not being emotionally ready or a traumatic experience in their past. Sometimes it has nothing to do with their partners.

that is the biggest piece of bullsh!t i have ever heard.

the only reason a woman would say anything like that is if the man she is telling that to isn't satisfying her in bed. sorry, but that's the truth.

women enjoy sex a million times more than men do. can you even wrap your mind around how pleasurable sex can be for a woman? i sure can't: the clitoris has more nerve endings than any section of the male body, with more than double the amount found in the penis. women can have multiple orgasms. they can't even control their own body movements when they actually experiece a mind-blowing orgasm. there are several KINDS of orgasms a woman can experience. they can feel the orgasm in their MINDS. yeah i will NEVER know the feeling of sex for a woman in that great degree of pleasure. this is why it is so much better for them.

if you think you need some brushing up on your skills in bed, check out this thread:

http://www.justsayhi.com/topic/show/55077

No man can rise so high as a good woman can lift him. No man can go so low as a bad woman can take him. It's not worth it. If you stay in it to use her, then you are sinning against yourself. You are better than that, end it quick and look for someone who wants you and nobody else.

yeah...no offense to anyone who is bi, but i've known a lot of "bi" people...male and female. And none of them have stayed bi. It's usually either a transition to being gay or just an experimental phase. I'm sure there could be some people who stay bi forever, but I've never heard of one. If you were to get involved with this girl, I'd hope for your sake that she's just being experimental. Cuz if you fell in love with her and she decided to be a full fledged lesbian, that could be very painful.

ayo dude not to sound wrong and all
but dont you think you should ask advice only about certain topics than just mini problems of your life, cause much as a you want a advice , really its your life, you should know wat to do
or well you can always go to a psychiatrist?