Why do men desire women they cannot have
Is it all in their Head ?

Why do women want Men, who are Not interested in them ? Is it emotional attraction?

Mmmm Good question. Hadn't really thought about it.

If the man / woman has asked and got the answer "Not interested" then any longing for that said person is just either pride or anger at rejection.

In my opinion.
Forgot to add, If it is someone you have never asked, neighbor, some one at the store, church, ect... then fear of consequences, rejection might be the reason.

I personally will ask. Learned from early age, ask get answer move from there.

I must be like a process of selection ... selecting many wrong ones, before we stumble accross the right one. But sometimes, we don't see it, because we built a wall around us, credit to all the wrong choices.

Ooowwwwiiiieeee

Thinking hurts too much to do.

Humm who is it to say who deserves who??

I have seen men with women that I never thought they would match up and it was not for the money but for love..

Same with women I have seen some women and wonder how they ended up with the guy they were with..

It all comes down to attraction/connection and not always due to looks..

Many times a persons personality will shine so bright that everything over rides the reasons some think why they are together...

Just cause one seems to think someone might not deserve someone at times... Maybe they need to look a little deeper attraction/connections are made on many levels..

There is No One that does not Deserve someone unless it is due to abusive behavior..

My opinion only (don’t attack) is that a lot of men desire women way out of their league. It may be a fantasy thing.

I see it less often with women. I don’t think it’s emotional but maybe physical attraction as well. Maybe he fits their idea of the man they want. Some always choose wrong and the man fits that category.

If you have a healthy mind, you just move on. If you don’t, you’re a Stalker! Get over it.

From what I’ve seen in online dating, everyone is unrealistic.

Never gave it a thought. I've got way more important things on my mind; like how come I always end up with an odd sock in my sock drawer.

THIS ^

Just because *you* think someone is unattractive, or you don't like their interests/ profile/ personality/ whatever...that doesn't mean someone ELSE may not think they are the neatest thing on two legs...

It's just that they are not for *you*...

It amazes me the number of guys who, when you *politiely* say not interested/ we're not a match/ have nothing in common, go on a push and then get hateful, rude, and abusive when the woman has to keep repeating that she is not interested..(and these types *always* say what "nice guys" they are....LOL...."Nice guys" don't message women with profanity and nastiness..)
The guy's time would be better spent looking for a more compatible woman...someone who he *actually* has things in common with.

EVERYONE deserves love....just like TxsGal333 said..
Except those who are abusive and/ or violent.

If a person responds to a rejection with nastiness it is because of their own insincerity. Has nothing to do with the person that rejected their advances. And no they are not nice people even in person.


In my opinion.

Actually, there are a lot more ways to interpret what you are asking about here, than you may realize.

For example, one kind of "desire women they cannot have," is where a guy gets a crush on someone who they can't possibly get involved with (due to their being happily married to someone else, for example), but stick with the crush anyway...because it's SAFE. When you KNOW you can't have someone, you can have all the fun of mooning and pining for them, without ever having to risk them being disappointed in you, or risk having the rest of your life disrupted in any way.

The idea that a guy is chasing or waiting for someone who YOU don't think they can possibly "get," is an entirely unrelated situation.

And then there are pure psychology things in this, such as men or women THINKING that they really want someone who they can't be with (again, for logical reasons), who actually are fighting an unrelated personal battle: they go after someone who they SHOULD NOT go after, because they are angry at someone else entirely, and are chasing THAT person, basically to thumb their nose at the perceived "authority" who told them not to.

Could be they don’t realize that it can be toxic if someone pressures someone in an intimate bond; in that case, that is their problem, and it is better if it stays as only their problem until they get that worked out.

Simply put... it's human nature to want what we can't have! If that were not true, half or more of the marketing world would cease to exist.

What are your thoughts Geezer?

So 'You can get it if you really want' is a lie?

There is something to be said for making things work, though, and getting to know people (before committing to them) is hard to do with out spending a substantial amount of time talking. What I don’t get is how some women I meet on here think that agreeing to meet in person is like accepting a Marriage proposal.

Brutal truth?


The eye rolling wasn't meant for you. Your post is spot on. I believe your answer is pretty much a no-brainer. When an answer is so obvious maybe the question is unnecessary.

A couple months ago I may have tried to complicate things by finding reasons, theories, or some hidden meaning to why things are the way they are.

Thanks to you, a few others, and a little more life experience I've learned to simplify things a bit.

It is what it is! If it's broke, fix it. If it's not, leave it be... But mostly, relax and enjoy what's in front of you.




Edited in... Still working on the relax part

there is an endless supply of duct tape to help with the last bit p

as for the topic question you nailed it, gold star for you

Quick, overnight it... it might come in handy over the next week