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I've never been in a friends zone with men. However, I put a couple of men in the "friends zone".  That's because men generally don't play the friend zone game. You either "is" or "isn't". Exactly. You can put it into nice words. But in the end of the day, it is either yay or nay for me. That's because she's a commodity to you not someone you love and adore. I might add that obsession and adoration are very different. |
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I've never been in a friends zone with men. However, I put a couple of men in the "friends zone". That's because men generally don't play the friend zone game. You either "is" or "isn't". Exactly. You can put it into nice words. But in the end of the day, it is either yay or nay for me. That's because she's a commodity to you not someone you love and adore. I might add that obsession and adoration are very different. Not really. I am just not blunt in my choice of words. |
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Wed 02/27/19 10:23 AM
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I've never been in a friends zone with men. However, I put a couple of men in the "friends zone". That's because men generally don't play the friend zone game. You either "is" or "isn't". Exactly. You can put it into nice words. But in the end of the day, it is either yay or nay for me. That's because she's a commodity to you not someone you love and adore. I might add that obsession and adoration are very different. Not really. I am just not blunt in my choice of words. Wrong! When you say she is or isn't you are implying about whether or not you want to be with her sexually. You are making her a commodity seeing if she suits your needs. You are not looking at women as being awesome and worth knowing just as people. |
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I've never been in a friends zone with men. However, I put a couple of men in the "friends zone". That's because men generally don't play the friend zone game. You either "is" or "isn't". Exactly. You can put it into nice words. But in the end of the day, it is either yay or nay for me. That's because she's a commodity to you not someone you love and adore. I might add that obsession and adoration are very different. Not really. I am just not blunt in my choice of words. Wrong! When you say she is or isn't you are implying about whether or not you want to be with her sexually. You are making her a commodity seeing if she suits your needs. You are not looking at women as being awesome and worth knowing just as people. Where do you read into my words, that I have sexual intentions? For me, a gf is not to be reduced to that type of stuff. A partnership consists of much more, than just having sex. |
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Right. It consists of her being suitable for whatever you want her for. Same thing. Can you be friends with a woman and understand how awesome she is without trying to work out whether or not she checks the boxes on your list?
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For me it's all about enjoying the person and the moment. I do not care what happens in the next moment. Life is funny that way.
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Right. It consists of her being suitable for whatever you want her for. Same thing. Can you be friends with a woman and understand how awesome she is without trying to work out whether or not she checks the boxes on your list? It's tricky alright. What if she has feelings, stronger than friendship? That's where you have to set clear limits. Otherwise, she would have false hopes, chasing ghosts, however you call it. |
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Using the Geezer's definition of friend zone, we all have people of both genders in that zone; our friends. For some women, they prefer males as actual friends while some men prefer females as their friends. That doesn't include all of us!! Personally, I probably have 1 female friend to 10 male friends; most females I don't have any interest in being friends with; they are too emotional and unable to apply logic to life. It is a function of who each of us is and the characteristics of the people we enjoy having in our lives. while some view women as being awesome and worth knowing just as people, some of us find many women not fitting that description.
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I think the friend zone is a confused type of zone where one person does not know what he/she really wants. Females mostly I agree with this, except for that it's mostly women. Women usually are pretty clear they want a relationship with the guy they've been seeing, men need more time. And they can easily stay in connection, being more than just friend, also NOT FWB, acting as if they're in a relationship without actually ever committing. Not sure how you call this zone? It's different from the friend-zone and it's not the same as FWB. As for fearing the friend-zone... no. The 'zone' I was talking about above, yes. Because you're made to believe there's a committed relationship by how the man behaves, what he does and so on. |
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Ohhh, I was wondering about that smell...
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Ohhh, I was wondering about that smell...  
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NO! I'm not, this may sound cliche but some of my closest and oldest friends are women. I'm talking in some cases 30 - 40 years or more and get this minglers; some of them I've had sex with and some not. Sex didn't ruin the friendship and I think only will if possessiveness rears it's ugly head.
JMO but I think there are a lot of you that take life/yourselves way to seriously. Time is NOT on our side and we're not getting out alive so relax and enjoy while you can! |
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NO! I'm not, this may sound cliche but some of my closest and oldest friends are women. I'm talking in some cases 30 - 40 years or more and get this minglers; some of them I've had sex with and some not. Sex didn't ruin the friendship and I think only will if possessiveness rears it's ugly head. JMO but I think there are a lot of you that take life/yourselves way to seriously. Time is NOT on our side and we're not getting out alive so relax and enjoy while you can! Someone who has a clue.
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NO! I'm not, this may sound cliche but some of my closest and oldest friends are women. I'm talking in some cases 30 - 40 years or more and get this minglers; some of them I've had sex with and some not. Sex didn't ruin the friendship and I think only will if possessiveness rears it's ugly head. JMO but I think there are a lot of you that take life/yourselves way to seriously. Time is NOT on our side and we're not getting out alive so relax and enjoy while you can! Someone who has a clue. I approve both of these messages
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Right. It consists of her being suitable for whatever you want her for. Same thing. Can you be friends with a woman and understand how awesome she is without trying to work out whether or not she checks the boxes on your list? It's tricky alright. What if she has feelings, stronger than friendship? That's where you have to set clear limits. Otherwise, she would have false hopes, chasing ghosts, however you call it. That's crap. I've never ever known a woman to refuse friendship from a man offering without strings. It's an issue for you not her. |
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This is directed mostly to men, but ladies please feel free to share your thoughts. We are taught to stay out of the friend zone. The term has negative connotations for men. The advice of womanizers, seducers, and pick up artists is to be cool, tough, and detached. While I agree that being too needy is not good I've always connected the best from the friend zone. There is a difference between wanting women and loving women. I try to support, encourage, and make them happy. Isn't that what friends do? In the words of famous turn of the century singer, How can we be lovers if we can't be friends?" What an awesome thread and a great read Geezer  !! Hmm I'll have to think on this before adding anything to it, but I love your view point 
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Thank you...
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Geezer, you forgot to add this emoji after your post.
 Back to OP, Friend Zone is all I want to be at this point in my life. 
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terrified of the friendzone
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terrified of the friendzone John, no big deal. tis like a party with no booze.
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