^^^^^ Newsflash pal: The friend zone isn't someplace you stick a woman. It's someplace where all friends and lovers reside. The rest will sort itself out. The problem with most people is that they define the friend zone as some place where you toss people that you do not want as lovers.

THIS ^

I agree with that. That's why I use her friend zone bs on her. I would much rather her tell me straight out. " I don't want to date you. " But I can tell weather a woman wants me to ask her out or not very quickly. So I just friend her and move on.

PAL

If a woman you are trying to date wants to/or mentions to, put you in the "friend zone", it's a nice way of telling you she doesn't want you sexually or relationship wise - best to move on. In my opinion and experience.

Yes, for me that is correct Richie. If I tell you I only want to be friends, platonic friends, then I'm saying I'm not interested in a sexual and/or intimate relationship with you.

It's more of a brotherly love that I feel and I'm interested in hanging out and doing things, but not in exploring a romantic kind of relationship.

This might be good for you, but as you mention - The problem with "MOST PEOPLE" is that they define the friend zone as some place where you toss people that you do not want as lovers.
You have to go by how it is perceived by "most people" and most people who don't want a particular lover - get tossed into the "zone". Best to move on and not waste anymore time on that relationship.

Thank you - I'm glad my experiences and feelings were on target. :)

You're welcome! :)

Once again, I have to say that not everybody files people into categories. Every woman I've connected with has started out in the friend zone. I do not define friend zone as some place that needs a label or where the sorted wind up. It's a place where all my relationships begin and stay. Whether or not the friend turns into a lover is a product of sexual attraction.

I simply do not view women as the object of my pursuit. I look at them as amazing creatures that I adore and love for ten minutes or ten years. Wherever a look or a kiss might go is a road that should be traveled.

Bumping per request...


Why is that every woman I've ever been with has started as a friend? I've been with a few... Most of you are missing many of the good things about the opposite gender.

I wonder how many of you can honestly say, without qualifications, that you love the opposite gender and think they are awesome.

I think it depends if Friend Zone is used as a dead end, or a road to travel down.


I prefer it as the road I travel down to get to intimacy and romance.
I don't believe it only serves as a dead end.

You understand.

There are people on here who obviously do not like the opposite gender and yet they want someone in my life. If they could understand the true value of a person and don't just look at what they want from them maybe they would have a happily ever after.

It'll never happen, though. The bitterness, anger and inability to love someone other than to satisfy your personal agenda make it impossible for most.

I completely agree.

^^^^^ this ^^^^^

Not afraid of it though, I just move on.

I've never been in a friends zone with men. However, I put a couple of men in the "friends zone".

That's because men generally don't play the friend zone game. You either "is" or "isn't".

Exactly. You can put it into nice words. But in the end of the day, it is either yay or nay for me.

*Sighs*

I try, but many of you are happy to stay inside your box. Continue to do what you know because it has been so successful for you.