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Topic: If everything we experience makes us who we are ...
msharmony's photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:29 AM
Edited by msharmony on Wed 08/08/18 10:31 AM
And if we would never want to change who we are

then why do we complain so much about so many things we are experiencing?

why do we not just accept those things will mold us into who we are meant to be?

I always wonder where the virtue or value is in the 'I would never change a thing' philosophy.

nothing at all against it, it's just odd to me when I hear people complain about things they are experiencing, if in the end, no matter what, you will be molded into a person you would never change.




I personally am happy with who I am, but I dont necessarily believe that means I wouldnt be happy being whatever version of me I ended up being. Whichever path we take, a, b, or c, we will still be SOME VERSION of us, so what is the value in being so adamant about never changing the version we became?



MK2's photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:35 AM
I like me
I wouldnn't change anything in my life :smile:

Larsi666 😽's photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:38 AM
I know, there is things, I am not able to change. So overall nothing to complain :smile:

Poetrywriter's photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:45 AM
I like me the way I am. I have to be me and not what others want me to be. I have no control over whether others like me or not but if they do not then that is their choice and it is their loss not mine.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:47 AM
We live in a dynamic Universe.
Everything is constantly changing.
People that 'think' they never change are deluded.

Generalities can remain pretty much the same but its the details of life that shows the change.
Those details build up over time and when the general change does come, its difficult to pinpoint any one instance that caused the change.

Even habitual behavior goes thru constant change.
When younger, I couldn't get enough Pepsi, now, meh, don't really care for it.
You may have the same values and morals as in the past on a general level but the details of them are different as you get older.

In marriage and intimate relationships, many people will say they failed because the other person changed.
What many fail to understand is that they have also changed.

Life is dynamic, Change is constant.
You are different than you were 10 years ago but you are also different than you were a moment ago.
But, just a moment ago, the change is not as pronounced so it gets over-looked.

NotPay4Play's photo
Wed 08/08/18 11:00 AM
Just to try and get sympathy out of those around who is complaining.

Robertcrna777's photo
Wed 08/08/18 11:00 AM
People tend to be Adamant because they tend to like the current version of themselves. They feel they wouldn’t be that version without going through those particular circumstances good or bad. Adamant because they tend to like the current version of themselves. They feel they wouldn’t be that version without going through those particular circumstances good or bad.

As far as people complaining that’s a really good question LOL

Robertcrna777's photo
Wed 08/08/18 11:01 AM
Why that repeated it self three times I have no idea

Toodygirl5's photo
Wed 08/08/18 12:44 PM
Edited by Toodygirl5 on Wed 08/08/18 12:45 PM
I am happy no complaints about my personal life. I am Blessed.

Cannot answer for other people. Just me.

As for as how this Country is Governored, I have commplaints.

whoa


no photo
Wed 08/08/18 03:17 PM
Edited by GalaxyStarz on Wed 08/08/18 03:18 PM
Most people have NO GRASP of an infinite view of life.




The lack of gratefulness is filled with complaining.


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no photo
Wed 08/08/18 07:50 PM
so what is the value in being so adamant about never changing the version we became?

Consistency. Trust is based on it.
Social position is based partly on how trustworthy people are.

why do we complain so much about so many things we are experiencing?

Stress and fear and hope and joy.
An excited mental state, a need for social bonding.

why do we not just accept those things will mold us into who we are meant to be?

Because no one gave us an instruction manual on who we are meant to be, what we'll get if we're that, or what will happen if we don't accept it.

I always wonder where the virtue or value is in the 'I would never change a thing' philosophy.

Is that an actual philosophy?
And is it an absolute philosophy?
They wouldn't change absolutely anything?
Or they just don't want to change what others may want to change about them?
Or they wouldn't change some things, but other things they would? Usually nothing about themselves, but a lot about other people/society/culture?
Or just something you've heard someone/people say?
Talk is cheap.


no photo
Wed 08/08/18 09:11 PM
I would like to be a lot less jaded and more excepting of good things (if they would ever happen in my life). How ever if I was not as callus as I am I would most likely have ended my life a long time ago.

no photo
Wed 08/08/18 10:36 PM
Edited by Blondey111 on Wed 08/08/18 10:37 PM
Experience is just one factor that can shape who we are . Change theory supports that for someone I change there needs to be a threat ., or a shift in our value system . Though we learn through experience that is not the only catalyst for change . Personal growth is not always immediate .. internalization and conceptualisation needed to bring about change can be a gradual process through an accumulation of experiences . waving

shovelheaddave's photo
Thu 08/09/18 07:00 AM
"Life is only 10% what happens to you,and 90% how you handle it."

~ Charles R. Swindoll

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 08/09/18 08:46 AM
Something I found out when I started removing delusions and accepting reality at face value is that I caused most of my own problems by failing to embrace the reality of the situation.

I either made things out to be less significant than they realy were or I over-reacted to things not worth concern.

This happened because my idea of how things should be was built on years of delusion.
Delusions that were propagated by the media, other people in my life and even myself.

Stu's photo
Thu 08/09/18 09:30 AM
They say what doesn't kill ya, makes you stronger..


I should be Hercules...

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 08/09/18 09:35 AM

They say what doesn't kill ya, makes you stronger..
I should be Hercules...

tongue2
Me too

Here's one I like:

"I've been doing so much with so little for so long, I am now qualified to do anything with nothing."
waving

no photo
Thu 08/09/18 09:45 AM

They say what doesn't kill ya, makes you stronger..

I should be Hercules...


I've always felt the saying should have been "What doesn't kill you sometimes leaves you wishing it had."

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 08/09/18 10:27 AM
"What doesn't kill you sometimes leaves you wishing it had."

Contrary to popular belief, dead is dead.
Never wish you were dead, there are no do-overs.

no photo
Thu 08/09/18 10:47 AM
people complain because it is easier to complain about things then it is to do something about it.


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