Every experience is bound to prepare you if not change. If it's none then it must be virtual not real!! Meta physical.

I too think that it's in your attitude how well you handle adversity. However, I know several people who have myriad of serious heath problems. Even though they don't complain, I'm sure that given a chance they'd
like to change their health.

I would change who I was if I could, but I'm me and that's that !
Environment, nature, and nurture (or lack of) made me, according to the sequence of events in the world in which I existed, and my interaction with it.

Better the devil you know. Maybe that's why many people wouldn't change a thing.
Your wish for a different life could turn out much worse, not better.

As much as I dislike being unattractive and lonely, at least I don't have some horrible affliction like leprosy, or thalidomide / radiation abnormalities.
Not dissing people so afflicted, but I'm glad it's not me.

Cause and effect / ying and yang - if I were different, many things in the world would be different too. If I were handsome and rich, some other poor fellow would have to take my place, and may not handle it well.

But just like children brought up isolated in bad or weird households, we only know and are used to our own lives, and consider them (generally) 'normal', so accept them as they are. Maybe with a few grumbles.

Your local 'perfect couple in love' could in reality be anything but a perfect couple behind closed doors. Perception and reality can incongruous.

"All you touch and all you see is all that you will ever be" : Pink Floyd

That all works in a static, balanced Universe.
But the Universe is not static and not balanced.

People can and do change.
A depressed person doesn't have to stay depressed.
A person with one arm or leg will always be a person with one arm or leg but they can change their cirumstances to be functional, they don't have to just lie in bed and waste away.

I don't complain about my rough experiences, BECAUSE I know no single event makes me who I am.

I have PEACE because I know God is always taking care of me, no matter the earthly circumstance.

I have PEACE because I have learned to live in each moment. I don't ruminate about the past, because it can't be changed. I don't worry about tomorrow, because I am in control of very little and will never know absolutely what will happen, or if tomorrow will ever be reached.

I have right now, and the next few minutes, in view.

I have goals, with the understanding they may night be feasible, and that my path may change at any time.

I love the people in my life, understanding they may not always be in my life.

I embrace each moment and each person right now.

It's okay to like the gold and not the fires that purified it.