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I think most people go to a bar to socialize. Being single and living alone, that is one situation where there is socializing with others and a chance to meet new people. It amazes me that most single women avoid any situation where others may attempt to socialize with them. Of course, single men and women are usually on the lookout for some type of social connection weather that be on a dating site, on the street, in the grocery store, or in a bar. Obviously, it is impossible to connect with another human being sitting in your living room watching the TV.
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I remeber the first and only time I walked into a bar alone with no plans to meet up with friends. It was the most awkward feeling on the planet (at my ripe old age of 21) . I sat for a minute, then left without even having a drink. I dont thimk anyone really noticed me, and no one said anything ... I have a stigma in my mind about people who drink alone.
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I have no problem going out and about on my own, or being seen alone at a bar or restaurant. I take a book with me and my phone.. that's entertainment and avoids awkward looking around, looking like I'm 'looking'.. My stops are usually on my way home after work, or on a Saturday afternoon (music jam).. At the bar, (its usually one with a pool table), and I will shoot the balls around a couple times, while enjoying a beer. I guess I look like I'm busy.. so not often approached.
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In March, 1965, two women chained themselves to a public bar in Brisbane, protesting the fact they couldn't be served there. Mildura publican Liam Wood says this weekend, he will celebrate the anniversary by "locking out the blokes" as part of a charity event at his pub. Mildura itself, Mr Wood says, has an interesting history when it comes to women being allowed to drink in bars. Originally designed to be a dry colony, "gentlemen's clubs" were set up around the town in lieu of pubs, with women strictly forbidden. The Mildura Club, and the Settlers Club, which was set up in 1893, were one of a handful of places in the town that served alcohol until the early to mid-1900s. According to its website one of these, the Mildura Club, is still one of the few gentlemen's clubs left in Victoria, "and upholds the guidelines established over a century ago". The Settlers Club, Mr Wood says, changed in the 1980s from being a men's club to allowing women through the doors, but was met with quite a lot of resistance. Across the road from where the pub stands today is a service station, which used to be a stable for horses for the club's members and a shed for their wives to wait in. "They built a stable where the guys could come and park their horse and buggy," Mr Wood says. "Originally it was a stable, and there was a ladies shelter shed in the middle. "So essentially the women had to wait outside with the horses." The Settlers Club charge book, which dates back to 1900, also details the controversy that was caused when one member brought his wife to the club. "[He was] requested to attend a meeting on the 8th August 1964, to give explanation as to conduct concerning an incident, in which his wife appeared in the lounge," it reads. "He was sent a registered letter on 15/8/64. He appeared at the meeting as requested and was warned by the president of the committee of the serious nature of his offence, allowing his wife to come into the lounge. [He] apologised to the meeting and assured them there would never be a repetition of such an incident again. The apology and explanation was accepted and no formal charge was laid." While women are now allowed through the doors of many more Mildura establishments, Mr Wood says that this weekend he's turning the tables for an afternoon in honour of those two women in Brisbane. "The blokes can wait in the stables as such, for the afternoon." It is quite shocking to read things about emancipation/feminism and how bad things were not that long ago. Over here up to 1956 women were deemed legally incapacitated when she got married. She couldn't open a bank account, take money out of the bank, unless her husband gave her written consent, and she wasn't allowed to work anymore either. All she could do by herself was pay the baker and butcher. Unbelievable. And we only got the law of equal treatment accepted in 1992. 1992? I never busied myself much with this stuff, too busy with my family, both kids born in the early 90s. I just read online that a couple of women opened a pub for women so we can go out and have a good time without being hassled by men. And your posting got me thinking about this... isn't it ridiculous that we still cannot go out on our own without being harassed by men? There's tons of articles online on what you can do to prevent getting hassled by men when you want to go to a pub on your own. Why should we even have to worry ourselves with this? Where's the f*(king respect? I guess we still have a ways to go. Thank you for starting this thread :) May it bring some awareness! |
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At one time in history bars were only for men but that has changed .... Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar 
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At one time in history bars were only for men but that has changed ....
Just curious .. What modern day men think when they see a woman alone in a bar Not really, my mother was a bar slut. It was a same but different time back then. Women in bars always know how to get free drinks. I dunno but I have heard men that frequent bars referred to as "Furniture". I was using Bar Slut as a description not as a derogatory. She really was. In my young and wild days before I married and had a family I visited a lot of clubs, bars, lounges and pubs. During my Navy early days it was our idea of liberty destinations while in port. I basically, bar-hopped the Mediterranean and NW Europe. This is because we knew we could find loose women there. During homeport, I knew to go to the bars around 9:30pm (21:30) and start mingling if I was going to find a woman to come home with me, and there were a lot of women to choose from. This is all during the early 80s. Where I live now, there are 3 types of bars; bar, lounge and pub. The pubs are very busy (lots of women) from 7pm till about 10pm. The lounges are busy from 9pm till around midnight. The bars are busy from around 6pm till 2am. The lounges have the highest class followed by the pubs then the bars are full of the dregs of society. Bars are by far the most dangerous. I don't go to any of them (not looking for a 'bar' type woman) but I do poke my head in from time to time just to check. I know that if I want to get laid, hit the bars late, just before closing. I have noticed that these venues are packed. There are more people in these types of establishments than there are in Churches on Sunday. Plus, down here, bars are open on Sunday and I've seen the same cars in the parking lots of churches and the bars. Its like they leave church and hit the bar. Just an observation I made. Another observation is that no matter the class of venue, it is the women that get the loudest. In the 80s it was the men that would 'hoop n holler' but that has changed. Its like there has been a bar scene gender role reversal? When I was little (before 8 years old) my mother dragged me to the bars with her because dad was working and sis was doing stuff. I recall it being a male dominated atmosphere. While men outnumbered the women 10 to 1 the women had the power. That dynamic is not as prevalent in today's bar scene. The power is shared fairly equally by numbers but in one group it may be female dominated another group may be male dominated and the power is no longer an establishment wide condition. I see the same hierarchy in non-alcohol related events like parades, car shows and festivals. |
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I think men assume women in bars are easy whether they are alone or not. It's a lot cheaper to enjoy a drink at home in a bubble bath or watching the sun go down. It's clear she is looking for a man. Bars are known for 1 nighters.
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I think men assume women in bars are easy whether they are alone or not. It's a lot cheaper to enjoy a drink at home in a bubble bath or watching the sun go down. It's clear she is looking for a man. Bars are known for 1 nighters. A bar that is known as a meat market is. and some people like go out to enjoy a beverage and the ambience that doesn't mean they are out to pick up people. Try going to an upscale lounge and see for yourself. |
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Try going to an upscale lounge and see for yourself.
For the most part, I agree. But I've been to upscale lounges that turn into after-hours clubs and the doors get locked and the sex and drugs come out. |
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Topic: A woman walks into a bar ......
 Shouldn't she have ducked? You Humans confuse me.
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Topic: A woman walks into a bar ...... Shouldn't she have ducked? You Humans confuse me.
No wonder your confused. |
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well if its a gay bar she'd be safe from men , but i've seen some fairly aggressive ladies.
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Who cares what the other bar patrons think. If you want to go to the bar alone, then go to the bar alone. Any judgment someone else makes about that is their own issue.
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