Maybe, guess I could always ask why he's quoting me and not using his words to either add to it or comment on what I said.

he'd just quote you again if he responded at all

Date are not easy lol but I’ll remember to KISS the right person sometimes is not mister forever Eric

Hhhhmmm lol

dating is easy it's getting the dates that is hard

I agree sis but for me the best or my best is yet to come. Maybe it just takes the right person to bring out the best in me yet

From a person who doesn’t go out that much it’s hard. lol

Very true!

I believe that's what happens when we find the right one Sis, the best naturally comes out in both.

I truly believe that sis

And on that note I’ll be dreaming of his cute faceless profile tonight lol...have a great day guys I have a date in my dreams

Blessings to you sis and Eric

ooooh a dreamy date

g'night ss

Goodnight sis, sweet dreams

I think saying that is similar to "if you pray hard enough, God will answer."

People are multi faceted.
They can see themselves in many different ways.
You can get people that see you how you want to be seen, or they can see you and convince you to see yourself a certain way, or they can make it all up and say they see you a certain way and convince you that you should see yourself that way too.


Some people believe in a saying more like "the right person will effectively communicate how they see you and value what they see, it's in a positive way which you also highly value more than others, and you're secure in its truth and honesty."

People have different natural facades and tendencies in their personality.

There's who they think they are, there's who they think other people think they are, there's who they fear they are, there's who they have to be, there's who they think they have to be, there's who they fear other people think they are, there's who they hope or desire to be, there's who they hope or desire other people to think they are.
All of those beliefs, hopes, fears, wants, desires, needs, commingling together to throw out different direct and indirect communication which can be the same but motivated or triggered from different "personality."


No one can read your mind.
They can only interpret the information they get from your communication.
Direct and indirect.

Some women are said to have "RBF." Some people have what looks like a permanent scowl on their face, always mad, unhappy, their natural posture looks tense.
To the people that grew up with them, their family, may not really see it, that aspect may have been consistent their entire lives so they had to place greater importance in other cues. Tone of voice, what someone does with their hands, a raised eyebrow, seemingly completely ignoring the scowl like countenance as an indicator of mood, thought, or feelings.

They may take that to dating you. Maybe you have "RBF" or a permanent scowl, only they're trained not to pay it much importance.
So they look at other cues they know, or try to figure out what you're communicating. You may think they "get you" whereas every other guy you've dated always thinks you're mad.

Maybe you have a normal attractive face and rely on your scowl to tell them something is wrong, but they don't pick up anything is wrong because they've been trained not to place much importance or meaning on a scowling face.
You may think they're insensitive and wrong for you because they don't seem to care when you're mad.


There is no "right" person, really.
There is only attraction, and the personal willingness to learn to communicate.
Some people are going to make it easier to learn to communicate than others. Some people are going to be more willing to learn to communicate than others.
Attraction is a big part of what motivates someone to stick around long enough to attempt it.
Personality is a big part of what perpetuates the attempt past sexual attraction.

That is my initial thought when reading "The right person will see you in the right way."


It's a two way street.
The right person will see you in the right way, but you also have to see that they see you in the right way and know that it is the right way. And if you want them to stick around, you have to see them in the right way, and effectively communicate that you see them in the right way.

Most of communication isn't what comes out of the mouth.
Just as big a component of communication, expression, is understanding, figuring out what is motivating or influencing what you think they are expressing, and what they are actually expressing rather than what you think they might be expressing.

Historically, you had more simplistic gender and age and social and income roles that defined behavior. e.g. gentleman, women, kids, lawyer.
You didn't have much social drift. You grew up in a town, you knew everyone, you got used to how people communicated, you were trained by the same people, ideas, beliefs that trained your parents.
That made indirect communication easier to understand as people conformed to their socially taught programming.
The more diversity and multiculturalism and migration (migration meaning large towns, suburbs, moving from country to city for jobs, or state to state for school) the less clear communication.

People being raised by television? Scripted roles that are unrealistic? Relying on printed communication like text messages and emails where most of what makes up communication is actually lost?
That just means finding the "right" person is just going to keep getting even more difficult.

That's my second thought after reading "The right person will see you in the right way."

well said tom

Very well said tom, and makes total sense.



I believe this is the actual key to determining the success of the relationship. Communication and the willingness to learn to communicate effectively with each other.

"It's true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder." -Margaret Wolfe Hungerford

Thanks Tom that was like a hit to the head but if you cannot call the right person a right one with all things considered and everything going on is the ideal thing that’s been happening, then how should we call the person then but the right person. No such thing as a right person just someone who can get along with us in a deeper level...what would be the name or label for that person then?

What would the right label be then? Partner? Friend? You got me thinking Tom. Thanks