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Saya ingin mendengarkan kata itu Err... what words? |
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It seems obvious that he wants to get to know you better; whether for friendship or more, time will tell. I would take the time he's offering to get to know him better too. In the process, reasons you think you want a relationship with him now will either become more concrete or drift away. If you rush it, you will only learn these things through heartbreak. I met him through online. He is nice. He loves helping and encouraging people. He has genuine concern not only for me but for others too. He's sharing all his secrets. He's giving so much trust. He is not courting but I must admit, I like him. I met him already in real and in some other months, I will meet him again. The sad part is for some reason, I prefer if we'll just be friends. Don't know if he likes me more than a friend or just a friend but if it's more than a friend, I don't like it to be that way. I am contented that we are friends. Oh, I get it. That's a tough one. I've dealt with this myself fairly recently, though not online. Obviously, the earlier you make it clear that a friendship is all you want from him, the better chances you have of him accepting your friendship and letting go of any other expectations he may have. Not knowing what he expects makes it difficult. I think it would be a good idea to bring it up and simply ask him what he thinks his expectations are. I know it's easier said than done. Actually I want more. He has almost everything that every girl wants in a guy but the prolem is he is separated but not divorce. I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is married. I don't wanna be a mistress orbif not a mistress I don't wanna be the reason why he'll divorce his wife. He said he will divorce his wife when he found a gf eh. He doesn't know that I like him. I want to avoid him but he did lots of things. He helped me in many things that is why it's impossible to avoid him.. he's nice, he never took advantage and he's not courting.. he's just giving his time and real concern. I don't wanna lose him that is why I prefer and I am contented that we are friends. That is why I don't want him to love me more than a friend. See, this is why I workout...so I can run the fastest when a man says he's "married, but". |
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He will leave his wife when he finds a gf I am sorry but this is hilarious on so many levels .. Do you actually believe him ??? Would you want to be with a man who is so cowardly ??? Or who treats his wife with such iindifference and disrespect .. You may feel he is treating you well and helping you out .,..but clearly that serves his own agenda Yep.. He already told the whole story.. he's not disrepsecting his wife.. they are friends up to now but they are not lovers.. he still loves his wife but he's not in love with her anymore. Things fall out of love and he's married out of obligation. (Long story). He's never happy with her and he said both of them deserve to be happy and sometimes the only way to do that is to let each other go. he never hide anything and that is why I prefer only friendship sis (if he hid those, maybe it will be more).. we have a different law here in the Philippines.. he is from another country, here he's single. I appreciate his honesty.. I have 4 friends also became his friends (he never tell those, what they know is he's single.. and I never tell those too.. i appreciate his trust).. reason why I know he's real, sincere and honest. We know each other and I like him coz he's nice.. he's the only person who saw me when I felt invisible (long story too).. he did lots of things to bring back what I lost (trust, confidence etc).. things became okay because of his words of encouragement, care and concern. We chat nicely. We never did flirt chatting.. but somehow because he's telling almost everything including his deepest secret, I am thinking that I am special.. anyway, I am the kind of woman who won't be in a relationship with someone who is married.. |
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If someone is giving you time to chat almost everyday despite of his busy schedule, does it mean he's interested to you and he likes you more than a friend or he just wanna have someone to talk to? you need to ask them. Chatting may take alot of time or it may not. I guess its all relative. |
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If someone is giving you time to chat almost everyday despite of his busy schedule, does it mean he's interested to you and he likes you more than a friend or he just wanna have someone to talk to? you need to ask them. Chatting may take alot of time or it may not. I guess its all relative. Thanks Sis.. God bless! |
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He will leave his wife when he finds a gf I am sorry but this is hilarious on so many levels .. Do you actually believe him ??? Would you want to be with a man who is so cowardly ??? Or who treats his wife with such iindifference and disrespect .. You may feel he is treating you well and helping you out .,..but clearly that serves his own agenda Yep.. He already told the whole story.. he's not disrepsecting his wife.. they are friends up to now but they are not lovers.. he still loves his wife but he's not in love with her anymore. Things fall out of love and he's married out of obligation. (Long story). He's never happy with her and he said both of them deserve to be happy and sometimes the only way to do that is to let each other go. he never hide anything and that is why I prefer only friendship sis (if he hid those, maybe it will be more).. we have a different law here in the Philippines.. he is from another country, here he's single. I appreciate his honesty.. I have 4 friends also became his friends (he never tell those, what they know is he's single.. and I never tell those too.. i appreciate his trust).. reason why I know he's real, sincere and honest. We know each other and I like him coz he's nice.. he's the only person who saw me when I felt invisible (long story too).. he did lots of things to bring back what I lost (trust, confidence etc).. things became okay because of his words of encouragement, care and concern. We chat nicely. We never did flirt chatting.. but somehow because he's telling almost everything including his deepest secret, I am thinking that I am special.. anyway, I am the kind of woman who won't be in a relationship with someone who is married.. I am not sure of the marriage laws in your country but i. His country sounds like he legally is stil married .. be careful with your heart Don't know too.. all I know is he said he's looking for a girl who will truly love him.. he said it's hard to be with someone who doesn't support him in his happiness.. he said he's hopeless romantic but he's less trusting now than he used to be. Yes, in his country he's still married.. and I think even if he divorced his wife, I think I will still prefer friendship.. I know it's forever... (he doesn't know that I like him and I prefer to not tell him for some reason).. Just like what others said you can't choose what you will feel for someone.. i like him for his character.. he has genuine concern for many not only for me.. he's the reason why I have so much confidence now.. he knows past (i was bullied because of my appearance.. he gave me tips and advice on how I can improve myself.. none are courting before but just last year, many are courting after a great change (all because of his help.. he's part of who I am now).. but until now I don't have a bf.. i know that they like me because things change eh.. i want someone who will love me and accept me for who I am.. not only when things are okay. I am careful with my decisions and as you said I will also be careful with my heart Thank you Sis I appreciate your comment a lot. God bless! |
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Edited by
Toodygirl5
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Tue 01/23/18 05:11 PM
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If someone is giving you time to chat almost everyday despite of his busy schedule, does it mean he's interested to you and he likes you more than a friend or he just wanna have someone to talk to? He's curious and communicating gets him information about you. . Don't guess ask him what he wants!! |
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yeah you got it ask him not assuming...how are you dear
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yeah you got it ask him not assuming...how are you dear I am good thanks and you? |
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Not agree
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He probably thinks you are hot and kind, like most of us would think. It is good that you think for yourself. I hope he does the right thing with his wife
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He probably thinks you are hot and kind, like most of us would think. It is good that you think for yourself. I hope he does the right thing with his wife Maybe kind but not hot He saw me on my past.. fatter, older in look with darker skin. I never wear shorts, skirts and dress. I always wear pants and t-shirt.. until I met him, he notice that I don't love myself that much and instead of giving me compliments (like kind or intelligent) just like what others are doing, he gave me words of encouragement. He help me in bringing back what I lost. You see me as hot because I am wearing sexy clothes but that is my now. I became okay because of lifestyle change (healthy foods, water and exercise) and since I am losing fats, he adviced me to throw my ugly clothes. I started buying new (those are what I am wearing now). I am wearing cute, sexy and beautiful clothes to inspire fitness and not to flirt. I want to inspire people. I want them to seen that everything is possible.. that things can change. By the way, I know the answer already. My friend chatted him. I read their conversation. He doesn't know that I am sitting beside my friend (it's online eh.. not face to face). He said he likes me because I keep all my promises and words about lifestyle change to live longer. He also said that I am reliable and trustworthy. (Don't know if that like is only as a friend or more than a friend but I must admit, I felt happy after hearing those). They were already separated long time ago when I met him. By the way I am not expecting for more. I am contented that we are friends and I will never ask him to divorce his wife. Actually I will be happier if they will be back together again. As of now, all I can say is I am happy that he came. A lot has change after meeting him and a lot more will change. |
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He probably thinks you are hot and kind, like most of us would think. It is good that you think for yourself. I hope he does the right thing with his wife Maybe kind but not hot He saw me on my past.. fatter, older in look with darker skin. I never wear shorts, skirts and dress. I always wear pants and t-shirt.. until I met him, he notice that I don't love myself that much and instead of giving me compliments (like kind or intelligent) just like what others are doing, he gave me words of encouragement. He help me in bringing back what I lost. You see me as hot because I am wearing sexy clothes but that is my now. I became okay because of lifestyle change (healthy foods, water and exercise) and since I am losing fats, he adviced me to throw my ugly clothes. I started buying new (those are what I am wearing now). I am wearing cute, sexy and beautiful clothes to inspire fitness and not to flirt. I want to inspire people. I want them to seen that everything is possible.. that things can change. By the way, I know the answer already. My friend chatted him. I read their conversation. He doesn't know that I am sitting beside my friend (it's online eh.. not face to face). He said he likes me because I keep all my promises and words about lifestyle change to live longer. He also said that I am reliable and trustworthy. (Don't know if that like is only as a friend or more than a friend but I must admit, I felt happy after hearing those). They were already separated long time ago when I met him. By the way I am not expecting for more. I am contented that we are friends and I will never ask him to divorce his wife. Actually I will be happier if they will be back together again. As of now, all I can say is I am happy that he came. A lot has change after meeting him and a lot more will change. I see better now. Thanks for the blessing the forums with this story. |
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He probably thinks you are hot and kind, like most of us would think. It is good that you think for yourself. I hope he does the right thing with his wife Maybe kind but not hot He saw me on my past.. fatter, older in look with darker skin. I never wear shorts, skirts and dress. I always wear pants and t-shirt.. until I met him, he notice that I don't love myself that much and instead of giving me compliments (like kind or intelligent) just like what others are doing, he gave me words of encouragement. He help me in bringing back what I lost. You see me as hot because I am wearing sexy clothes but that is my now. I became okay because of lifestyle change (healthy foods, water and exercise) and since I am losing fats, he adviced me to throw my ugly clothes. I started buying new (those are what I am wearing now). I am wearing cute, sexy and beautiful clothes to inspire fitness and not to flirt. I want to inspire people. I want them to seen that everything is possible.. that things can change. By the way, I know the answer already. My friend chatted him. I read their conversation. He doesn't know that I am sitting beside my friend (it's online eh.. not face to face). He said he likes me because I keep all my promises and words about lifestyle change to live longer. He also said that I am reliable and trustworthy. (Don't know if that like is only as a friend or more than a friend but I must admit, I felt happy after hearing those). They were already separated long time ago when I met him. By the way I am not expecting for more. I am contented that we are friends and I will never ask him to divorce his wife. Actually I will be happier if they will be back together again. As of now, all I can say is I am happy that he came. A lot has change after meeting him and a lot more will change. I see better now. Thanks for the blessing the forums with this story. Thanks also for reading and listening .. God bless! |
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