Hey all...this is my first post but I really could use some help here.

Tonight I was chatting with my girl online and she told me she was having dinner with her ex and I sort of got a bit angry about it. All day has been rather lousy for me and this kinda added on to it. I appologized to her countless times but it looks like I pissed her off. I asked her what I could do to make it up to her and she just wants me to leave her alone for now (she says). I told her that I really, really, really don't want to screw this up because I've had in the past girls go out with me once and then find someone else, and I'm sooo tired of the same situation. I've been with her for about 3 weeks now and I just don't want this to happen again. Any help for me at all?? Thanks a lot. I really love (but I haven't broken that too her exactly) her and I want this relationship to last!

Well If i was u id give her a few days. But then tell her how u feel. That u like having her in ur life and that ur afraid of loosing her. Im sure she'll understand why u got mad. I mean. How would she of acted if it was u having dinner with your ex rit?

shes been your girlfriend for three weeks and though you may really like her, i highly doubt its love... that takes time... and you cant love someone you dont trust... which you obviously dont trust her if you were mad about her hanging with the ex...


my opinion is... dont beg her... women dont like that... just keep getting to know her... dont be clingy and needy....



good luck

Leave her alone for a couple of days. Then send her a dozen roses saying you are sorry and you miss her.

Good luck to you!

Calm down...................................Set boundaries, keep them and your "standards" firm. Attraction and infatuation are the main keys in a new relationship. the girl that is true for you will give you an assurance in your' heart.....NOT cause you anxiety. You may need to step back and get your head straight.

Thanks soooo much...i hope this works!

I agree with Tameka's advice, don't be too needy, or at least don't make yourself look that way. Also just wanted to add, wear a groin cup when you see her next. I've had girls tell me, oh I'm not mad anymore....trust me, they're still pretty pissed off, they just don't want to give you warning...they're smart like that.

In this situation, I feel like you should definitely voice your opinion, but not in an angry way. Just tell her that it bothers you and why - be open and honest. And then hopefully she will reasure you that she is with YOU for a reason and that her ex is an ex for a reason. Since the relationship is so fresh, I think starting off with complete honesty is the best way! I can't imagine her getting upset when you are open and honest and not angry - if she does get defensive over that, then maybe you should suspect.

well give it a day or two, and tell her that you are not trying to cause trouble, you understand perfectly, because ta...da....u r having dinner with your x. maybe you should all get together and be one happy family.

i know you like her, but if you rush things, it probably won't work out. if she is going to dinner with her ex, then she still has feelings for him, you do not need that drama in your life. remember, "only count the sunny hours, brighest hours of day, never count the glooming hours, just let them slip away" ---long beach duballstars. keep your head up

I look deeper into this situation. Because you're not telling us the whole situation. So.......its over. Move on.

I say forget it, if she's having dinner with her ex she is obviously still interested in him and or hasnt forgot about him. Bad for your heart!

Maybe you should try emailing Tameka or Kimmy, they're probably cuter than the girl who's hung up about her ex.

From JOYZIE
Just my input...my perspective as a woman...

No one is to say whether they can love another in only 3 weeks...it can happen and I have seen relationships last years, that started off very hot, and very, very quickly! Know yourself well enough...Be honest to yourself about your feelings. Lust VS Love deal. Only you know.

If someone cares for you, wants to be with YOU for a relationship...they will not want to be hanging out with their EX (unless children involved and they have to be) They will be with YOU, think of YOU-desire YOU and want the most time with YOU.They will consider your feelings and respect them. (She is asking to be left alone and is out with her ex. Doesn's sound like you have mutual feelings or respect going on.)

Put it in perspective,regardless of how bad you want a relationship! This is a bad sign! If this is what it is like 3 weeks into a relationship..expect the DRAMA forever! Go out on a few other dates with other women...keep looking...and GOD! Don't send her flowers! No one should get rewarded for that!

too cute geek....

but i already checked his profile and hes like 21.... just a baby...lol

yeah but I'm 29

why is she going to dinner with an ex?...kinda suspect if you ask me...

just keep cool and calm down. dont close her in dude. give her some breathing space. dont apologize too much and wait. just remember you want to fix the situtation but there isnt anything to say that will, you'll only just screw it up for yourself. just give her space. she'll be back yo.

well she's at home right now...when she's home she's not on her mobile AIM. It was while she was on her mobile that she was with her ex...I got a bit cocky when I confronted it so I think I'm gonna try giving it time *FOR NOW* to see what happens because every time we've chatted before was always positive and happy yadda yadda...just this one thing kinda went out of whack