i think its funny that everyone is wondering why she is having dinner with an ex... they may not work out as lovers, but i am friends with some of my ex's and i would never want a "new guy" in my life that couldnt respect that... dont trust me???? leave.... i aint cryin about it....

i think its funny that everyone is wondering why she is having dinner with an ex... they may not work out as lovers, but i am friends with some of my ex's and i would never want a "new guy" in my life that couldnt respect that... dont trust me???? leave.... i aint cryin about it....

really?

never ever would have guessed that...

I think being a friend with an EX is fine, but when it comes to putting an EX before your lover's feelings...something is not right with that situation.

What I know about myself...there is NO EX that I would want to be with, friend wise or otherwise that would make my man feel second best,nor would I want to breed any type of insecurity with my feelings for him. NEVER! It is mostly about respect and "true" love. You spend a lifetime seeking a mate..when you find him or her...you treat them with love and respect. There is a BIG REASON why my EX'S are EX'S. (I never forget that!) As for EX's that are friends..I would RATHER be with my man!

well, if the guy was truly the love of my life, he would know my friends anyway... whether they are an ex or not... but i wouldnt want to be with anyone that didnt trust me...

before i give advice, i would have to know how long ago you're girfriend and her ex broke up. yes, it's true that remaining friends with an ex is healthy. i'm still friends with two of my ex-girlfriends. but if she only got out of that relationship recently, say, a few months ago, then she may still have interest. and what's more important, if she only got out with her previous relationship recently and is already in one with you, she may be a relationship frog, that is, jumping from one to another. and that's unhealthy for all three people involved.

but you see, this is all speculation. the solution is to ask her straight up of what are her intentions. in the meantime, try to understand your insecurities. i've been there before, you know, feeling intense anger which spawns from jealousy and which ultimately originates from plain hurt. either way, for a person to lash out at his/her significant other only three weeks into a relationship is a sign of a person who may not be ready for a relationship. you said this has happened before. so be honest with yourself and access the reasons for your lack of self worth. depending on your girlfriend's level of healthiness (yes, there are degrees of healthiness) she may have already deemed you unfit to handle her life of boy-friend to friend lifestyle. if she is really healthy in these regards, possibly the only way to patch it up is for you to come forward in sharing your explanation of why you became so angry with her in the first place. such a self emotional analysis may very well impress her, not to mention show her you're actively taking measures to ensure the prevention of a second steamy ranting.

i hope this helps.

I sense the same thing.

He is a young man, just beginning to learn the "ways" of women. hehehe.

Sounds as if he needs to build his foundation a bit stronger....in time he will...we all do. (well most of us do and those that don't become tainted and bitter) Hopefully he does not think that this is the "BEST" he can get. Even at 21, you should know never to settle. Lots of fishies out in the sea!

One day, he will find someone who will be perfect, interested in him and his feelings and he will remember this as a learning tool. Until then...he will learn that we all have loved someone who doesn't love us back. It's life! and then you have a drink and forget about it..

i totally agree with you. maintaining a friendship with an ex shows a firm sense of security from both sides. two of my ex's are now much better friends than we ever were lovers.

not many agree with this. but i've never been a staunch grudge-holder.

you really should not have:
1) gotten jealous
2) apologized so damn much

by the way, youre probably a little confused as to why she's acting the way she is. to put it bluntly, she's pissed because she realizes that the man she is currently with (you) does not meet up to her expectations due to the things you did listed above. when men display unattractive characteristics such as emotional instability and low self-value, women get turned off and regret ever having attraction to them in the first place.

you can control jealousy by adopting the mindset of "there are several good reasons as to why she is with ME now and not anyone else. I KNOW that I can please her better than any man out there and I ain't insecure about it. If she interacts with other men, I am completely confident that he won't be able to measure up to me." acting on this mindset shows that you are well-grounded and will amp up attraction within her up the wazoo.

in conclusion, tameka is right and mbcasey is wrong lol

but sometimes a girl likes to know that her man cares enough about her to get at least a little jealous, you know?

Juz give her some space bro. If you really really like a woman you've got to give her time to miss you, and have you running through her mind. Once you do that, she's hooked!

Bullcrap! People do have the ability to separate romantic relationships from friendships. Having an ex as a friend---and spending time with him as such---does not mean one is still carrying the ol' torch for him.

Lovers come and go but true friendship lasts a lifetime. My last "ex" is my best friend and I would put him before any man I date.

Perhaps a "girl" but most grown WOMEN don't want or need the jealousy crap.

well it looks like she's cheering up a bit...she's talking to me again. Thank you all for your input by the way. She IM'ed me this morning and said that I'm not at the top of her ****list lol so we'll see what happens

remember its only been three weeks SLOW DOWN A BIT try not to bring past fears from other relationships into this one take time to breathe and get to know each other first