OK, Simple question. You're on a dating site and you see a man/woman that you think you would like to write. So you do. But, you never get a return message. So, you move on. Six months, maybe a year goes by. And you happen to see this person again on line. They disappeared for that length of time. And now are back. Do you take another try at this person? Or, do you remember where this person turned you down 6 months to a year ago? And you just keep moving? Which do you do? Just because you were turned down that time long ago, Does NO always mean, NO?

I often debut that myself when some message me.Hmm? Do I write them and then get one pervert messages.Or do I get weird pictures. Then I old men messages I am just like do they have any idea how old I am. Do they realize how old I am. Hmm? What could we have possible in common with them? I know are music taste might be different for one thing. Other time I am puzzle by it. I get hello this or that. Are they saying hello because of my personally or because of my looks. Then other I am working and well I do not have time to answer every single message I get. Then if I answer it would go down hill if I do.

Filters are a very good way of restricting messages to you...you can specify an age range and those not in compliance cannot send you a message...i hope this helps...

I am very much to the point.

"I mailed you 6 months ago but received no reply.
Thought I would give it another shot. I may even
take a 3rd shot.

Then be on my way :-)"

^^Something I might email to provoke a reply.

On this site we always say that no answer means not interested. If the person was not interested in someone six months ago, what could have possibly changed his/her mind now. Desperation? Six months doesn't seem to be long enough to be in despair.

However, if the person left for six months because he/she found someone and went off site to give it a try and it didn't work out, then the person is back to give cupid another chance. Then, it could be your lucky day. But watch out for rebound relationship.

My two cents

Just write to them. They might have an interest now. The worst that will happen is they don't write back.

I would keep moving, if I am looking to date! Usually I send a short message , when I see a man of interest to me! Dating sites have hundreds of men seeking women, why not keep moving! Unless you not there to date!

I definitely message them back and this is the message I sent them... hi do you remember me roughly a year ago I sent you a message trying to initiate contact I never heard back from you I was a little devastated I must say... but it's all good just wanted to let you know since then I purchased the winning 40 million dollar lottery ticket..yes I know!! How great is that for me right... I've been to a quarter of the world visiting it so far lots of great destinations.. I've met someone else since then and she's enjoying my wealth as well diamonds new wardrobe fancy car.. anyways I just wanted to say..hi.. and maybe if you would have replied to me you would be the one enjoying a life of luxury right now with me..lol..wink.

Hummm for me if I contacted them prior they never responded then I move on.. I don't send a second one, they had to have read the first and was not interested... or they would have responded then or when they came back.


As far what I do, if I said no to someone most likely I will say no the second time it is asked...

I would write.
You might keep wondering what if.
And it could be that whenever you last wrote they weren't ready to try something new.
When i first started here, i had been single for four years. Started on here on mingle.
Startrd hearin from people.
Realized i wasn't quite ready.

everything good comes

Ell, give it a shot. All she can do is ignore you again. It's not like you've got a limit on how many words your typing fingers can produce.

If they weren't interested in responding the first time round, then as far as I am concerned it's their loss, no second chance offer. It maybe interpreted as being a little desperate to send them another message, when there are so many more suitable women you can send a message to. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

It depends! For me, when I first joined I wasn't part of the forums for the first 3 to 4 months. I answered back quite a bit and the majority of them turned out to be fake. I joined the forums and stopped responding to messages....got tired of being fooled.

Now that I have met others through the forums, if someone were to write me and say "Hi, I wrote you when you first joined, thought I'd say hi" or something else to that effect, and I knew them through the forums, I would respond.

So with that in mind, maybe if I had wrote someone initially and they didn't respond, it was for the same reasons. So I might take a chance and write back a second time. But not a third time...I don't like rejection!

I try to keep in mind at all times, that I'm dealing with individuals. That's the main thing, to try to stop myself from over-thinking or under-thinking my decisions.

^This. But if there would still be no reply, I wouldn't try for a third attempt. To be rejected twice is already painful. Keep your pride.

I would try again to message him. I will give myself a second chance rather than not doing anything if I'm really interested to a person.
NO is not always no.
I believe in right timing and everythings happen for a reason.

What do you stand to lose by trying one more time? Only you can really answer that. Good luck :)

Women get flooded with emails daily...I doubt they even read them all before deleting...
you should hit that send button again.