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Topic: how long should you wait before sleeping with a new love int
no1phD's photo
Thu 03/02/17 11:19 PM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 03/02/17 11:21 PM
Just wondering... I know there's no steadfast rule! Before sleeping with somebody you just met but or developing a relationship with.. ..some people do it the first day they meet that new person some people wait one or two dates...
Some people might even wait a month before being intimate with their new partner... how long do you personally put off or get to asap. unwrapping that intimate present..
Hmmm.

barbadogirl's photo
Thu 03/02/17 11:27 PM
To me times have changed. It's not like your waiting for marriage.
First date NO NO NO.
Second date NO NO NO
WEEK MONTH It's all about Chemistry. Getting to know
each other first, I personally think that step is your personal
judgement call. No set time or RUSH....

Not to be entered into lightly.

Always practice safe sex folks!!!bigsmile

sybariticguy's photo
Fri 03/03/17 12:35 AM
The full amount of time is necessary before having sexual relationsl

rubeedo's photo
Fri 03/03/17 01:00 AM
It depends on the connection and the mood doesn't it?

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 03/03/17 01:31 AM
Well, in your case, probably as soon as possible, No1. laugh

NOrmally there is no time for that. You say "EVEN a month". A month ain't that long. It depends how many dates you have during that month. If you've seen each other twice, bit too soon.
It depends on the connection, for most people anyways. And you mostly don't have a connection within 1 or 2 dates. With some ppl not even within a month.

Best is to wait for enough shared emotional moments. Important for the woman, men like to get at it as soon as possible. But generally speaking for women sex is a bonding act. Cos of Oxytocin and the way we are wired.
When you have enough shared emotional moments depends on what you do on dates...

dreamerana's photo
Fri 03/03/17 01:33 AM
That depends on a lot of things.
Are you looking for a casual fling or a relationship?
What are the values or ideals each one holds to?
Are you both like minded about this?

Duttoneer's photo
Fri 03/03/17 01:35 AM

I guess it all depends upon what time you meet them, in bed by 8.00 and home by midnight. (joke)laugh

If you are looking for something serious, it happens when you both want it to happen in my opinion, there isn't a time scale, because you are interested in and looking far more into learning about the person you are considering spending your life with.

no photo
Fri 03/03/17 05:08 AM
how long should you wait before sleeping with a new love int(erest?)

However long it takes until you're willing and able to accept the potential consequences and responsibilities, as much as you are able to see and understand them.



soufiehere's photo
Fri 03/03/17 07:25 AM
I would say wait until the mood strikes your partner,
first date, last date, any date :-)

no1phD's photo
Fri 03/03/17 07:31 AM

I would say wait until the mood strikes your partner,
first date, last date, any date :-)
..yes.. the mood seems to strike my partner's rather quickly..lol...
I don't know why?. Personally I'd like to make it to at least three dates..
Hmmm.. maybe someday..lol

soufiehere's photo
Fri 03/03/17 07:40 AM

yes.. the mood seems to strike my partner's rather quickly..lol...
I don't know why?. Personally I'd like to make it to at least three dates..
Hmmm.. maybe someday..lol

Sex can be just strongly worded passion.

panchovanilla's photo
Fri 03/03/17 08:09 AM
I strongly suggest ensuring she is satisfied,
before you sleep.
Jest sayin.

SitkaRains's photo
Fri 03/03/17 08:19 AM

I strongly suggest ensuring she is satisfied,
before you sleep.
Jest sayin.

Smart man....:wink: :heart:

panchovanilla's photo
Fri 03/03/17 08:21 AM
^^^^good teacher^^^^

msharmony's photo
Fri 03/03/17 08:22 AM
For me, as a habit

no more than one lover every two months,,(not even close in actuality)., I always thought it was sad that women could get pregnant and not know who the daddy was,,, waiting at least two months can reduce that confusion


as far as how long after you start dating someone,,,for me, its got to be when actual commitments have been made, when we know each others last names, have been through somethings and STUCK,,,,etc,,,,

no1phD's photo
Fri 03/03/17 08:49 AM

For me, as a habit

no more than one lover every two months,,(not even close in actuality)., I always thought it was sad that women could get pregnant and not know who the daddy was,,, waiting at least two months can reduce that confusion


as far as how long after you start dating someone,,,for me, its got to be when actual commitments have been made, when we know each others last names, have been through somethings and STUCK,,,,etc,,,,
.. well if you're not being intimate with somebody before you were through something and stuck together.. I can guarantee you not being intimate will definitely be this something that you have to get through..lol

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 03/03/17 09:08 AM
About as long as it takes to get her bra unhooked.

RustyKitty's photo
Fri 03/03/17 09:47 AM


I would say wait until the mood strikes your partner,
first date, last date, any date :-)
..yes.. the mood seems to strike my partner's rather quickly..lol...
I don't know why?. Personally I'd like to make it to at least three dates..
Hmmm.. maybe someday..lol

Third time lucky...

krissy55101's photo
Fri 03/03/17 09:55 AM
I am going to sound like an old fuddy duddy and a Bible thumper, but that is fine.

I believe that premarital sex is wrong. This is just my opinion but I do respect the opinions of others even when they differ from mine.

Please don't think less of me because of my beliefs. You are all very wonderful and kind people flowerforyou

no1phD's photo
Fri 03/03/17 12:42 PM

I am going to sound like an old fuddy duddy and a Bible thumper, but that is fine.

I believe that premarital sex is wrong. This is just my opinion but I do respect the opinions of others even when they differ from mine.

Please don't think less of me because of my beliefs. You are all very wonderful and kind people flowerforyou
. No I wouldn't imagine no one would think less of you for your beliefs and if they did they would keep it to themselves.. that is a very healthy perspective... personally I could not be with somebody for that long and not want to... well as the old saying goes you want to kick the tires before you buy the vehicle..lol

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