How does someone know for sure they are "in love"? I mean, there's the infatuation stage... then it starts to grow into "real love" but when do you know for sure that happens? How do you really know when to say "I Love You" and it's completely and undoubtly true??

I wouldn't want to say it and be wrong..

i agree completely! i have no idea...

Hard on to answer Starla. Not really sure but if you feel it in your heart, then it may be love. I'd go on that and not lust.

I'm with you girls-no clue.

Love is knowledge of the person you are with, its never an emotion.

You fall in love with the goodness that person possesses.

Do you feel like you love someone? or do you know you love someone?

It just goes down to the question of which.

Im the wrong one to ask...have not the foggiest...

hey when u r in love.........u just fly in air without wings...its just like thinking to grab millon stars in arms

I think you'll just know when it is. It will hit you, probably when you least expect it. Maybe they'll wake up one morning, their hair a mess, their eyes crusted with sleep, and you'll just look at them and think 'I love you'.

If you have to ask, in my opinion, then it isn't love.

I think love is when you can look at that person, think about all their flaws, everything about them that's not really your "type", and everything they do that gets under your skin from time to time, and still smile and wonder how you ever found anyone so perfect.

Didn't foreigner sing a song about this I wanna know what love is I want you to show me.

I did hear from my speech teacher something very similar to this. He had said also that love was not an emotion so much as it is an action.. where you are willing to struggle with the person you're with. not giving up on each other, and being committed to that one individual..

I agree, its like I said you fall in love with the goodness that person has within them, so all the flaws and such just don't matter.

I think this is infatuation, and lust..

I think so too... but I'm still worried... the girl should NEVER say it 1st, should she?

When you fall in love for the first time....It feels like you air as been taking away from you. It takes you a while to open your eyes lol....And when you do open your eyes your breathless. The first time anyone falls in love you know your in love but, when your on your second guy how do you know your in love. Wel thats a question I try to answer every single day of my life. I've been in love once. This was my first love. When I date other men its hard to know when i fall in love because you know your not going to expect the same feelings like you did with the previous person. I guess now you have to look for love in other places such as the way he looks and you and smiles the way he stares into your eyes, the softness of his kisses, The way he holds your so gentle. Those are the ways I look for any signs of real love. Or you can just flat out say do you love me. So hopefully I helped some.

I cant really give a good answer on that one. What I can tell you though, is if your in a good committed relationship, when she tells you she loves you, its gonna be mutual.

I think it's almost expected that the girl says it first. But before you do, look in his eyes. What do you see? If you just see eyes then maybe he's not ready to hear it. If you see safety, comfort, truth...then maybe he just don't want to say something because he's afraid you don't feel the same...most guys aren't as good as reading emotions as women are.

I WAS IN LOVE ONCE
IT HIT ME LIKE A DOG BITTING MY ASS
YOU WILL KNOW WHEN IT HITS
FOR ME THAT WAS ABOUT 25 YEARS AGO NOW THAT IVE MOVED ON STILL LOOKING FOR IT AGAIN ....CANT FIND IT THOUGH

Ok.. ok..

I'm 35yrs old (female) and I'm seeing a guy who's 39, now he's been hurt pretty bad, and had told me at the beginning of our relationship 5 months ago, that he is now affraid to give his heart to anyone.. He has said that he cares for me, and tells me that he "loves" the fact that I care for him too. but that's as far as it goes! I'm meeting his family over Thanksgiving though.. I have tried to ask him one other time about his feelings, and he said he was unsure.. I know I'm infatuated, and I really really care about him! We are completely committed to each other, and have allready had a few hard times to go thru.. But still not completely sure..

I feel it may be, and I want to tell him.. But does a woman say the "L" word 1st??? or is that not proper? I'm affraid he'll run away..

Try this, before dropping the "L" bomb, tell him that your relationship just feels "right" to you. That you just feel something good there. See how he reacts...