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Topic: "Calm Down!!!!!" .... And Other Annoying Phrases
peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 06:08 AM
If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?

soufiehere's photo
Thu 02/23/17 06:28 AM
"This is going to hurt me more than it will you."
No, it won't.

sybariticguy's photo
Thu 02/23/17 06:37 AM
The larger issue is not accepting others peoples rights to their feelings without having to have them discounted, ignored, rationalized or any other way of denying them their expression as each persons feelings are genuine and not to be challenged...

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Thu 02/23/17 06:53 AM

If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


For me it's relax or chill. Telling someone to relax in a heated voice never works.

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 06:56 AM

"This is going to hurt me more than it will you."
No, it won't.



And do you slap them after they say it to make their premonition come true ???happy

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:04 AM

The larger issue is not accepting others peoples rights to their feelings without having to have them discounted, ignored, rationalized or any other way of denying them their expression as each persons feelings are genuine and not to be challenged...


I do agree that people have their rights to their feelings , and I definitely try to honor that, but if those feelings are expressed in an insulting way, it may very well trigger an undesirable visceral verbàl reaction and people have to be prepared for that side of the coin as well :)

soufiehere's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:07 AM

And do you slap them after they say it to make their premonition come true ???happy

hahahahahahaha
I should :-)
Do you?

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:09 AM
Whatever

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:11 AM
Edited by Tom4Uhere on Thu 02/23/17 07:15 AM

If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


No, it doesn't annoy me. I usually stop and reassess myself to see if I am letting my emotions control me.

The larger issue is not accepting others peoples rights to their feelings without having to have them discounted, ignored, rationalized or any other way of denying them their expression as each persons feelings are genuine and not to be challenged...


Agree for the most part. If people express genuine feelings and emotions but most do not. Many use emotional outbursts to manipulate. Example...a Temper Tantrum. I have known many adults that still have temper tantrums to get their way. Another is the sob story. Oh, pity me so I can get my way.

We all use 'phrases' to express ourselves. The ones that irritate me are the ones that don't fit the situation or the discussion. Those emotionally charged 'left field' phrases that are spouted to try to put you off guard or out of balance.

One of the things I hate during an argument is when someone says "You Always". (edited to include "You Never")
Especially when it implies something that has no bearing on the argument at all. It is used to redirect focus away from the issue at hand.

Recently (in the last few years) I have learned to stay focused on the subject. Those redirecting phrases and ones that are used to manipulate are being used because the person is realizing their error and are not able to admit it. Thus they throw phrases at you to break your chain of thought till they can think up something that in their mind, reinforces their conviction.

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:26 AM


And do you slap them after they say it to make their premonition come true ???happy

hahahahahahaha
I should :-)
Do you?


I plan to do that and much more after my wedding.

(To a sleezy Lawyer )

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:44 AM


If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


For me it's relax or chill. Telling someone to relax in a heated voice never works.


I. couldnt agree with you more chris. Its like idly flicking a lit match into a leaking gas tank.

KABOOM

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:51 AM
Edited by peggy122 on Thu 02/23/17 08:12 AM

Whatever


Its the eye-rolling gesture accompanying the "whatever" Beach . :smile: Thats what pushes you over the edge...

panchovanilla's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:53 AM
Oooooh puuuuuuuuleeeeez.

Makes me wanna shoot em.

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 07:57 AM
Edited by peggy122 on Thu 02/23/17 08:40 AM


If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


No, it doesn't annoy me. I usually stop and reassess myself to see if I am letting my emotions control me.

The larger issue is not accepting others peoples rights to their feelings without having to have them discounted, ignored, rationalized or any other way of denying them their expression as each persons feelings are genuine and not to be challenged...


Agree for the most part. If people express genuine feelings and emotions but most do not. Many use emotional outbursts to manipulate. Example...a Temper Tantrum. I have known many adults that still have temper tantrums to get their way. Another is the sob story. Oh, pity me so I can get my way.

We all use 'phrases' to express ourselves. The ones that irritate me are the ones that don't fit the situation or the discussion. Those emotionally charged 'left field' phrases that are spouted to try to put you off guard or out of balance.

One of the things I hate during an argument is when someone says "You Always". (edited to include "You Never")
Especially when it implies something that has no bearing on the argument at all. It is used to redirect focus away from the issue at hand.

Recently (in the last few years) I have learned to stay focused on the subject. Those redirecting phrases and ones that are used to manipulate are being used because the person is realizing their error and are not able to admit it. Thus they throw phrases at you to break your chain of thought till they can think up something that in their mind, reinforces their conviction.


The world needs more level-headed people like you Tom :)

And the phrases " you always /never" as you implied, are often inaccurate and infuriating

mightymoe's photo
Thu 02/23/17 08:20 AM
i always disliked it when people ask "how are you?", knowing they could really care less about the answer...

just a simple hi is good enough, no need to dramatize the small talk...

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 08:35 AM

i always disliked it when people ask "how are you?", knowing they could really care less about the answer...

just a simple hi is good enough, no need to dramatize the small talk...


Thats a tough one Moe. Its almost a reflex action for most people followed by a just as reflex action.

Although I remember doing an experiment once. After a guy asked me how I was doing, i audibly replied "Im terrible thank you , to which the guy replied "GREAT! Keep it up!"indifferent

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Thu 02/23/17 08:38 AM

If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


probably bring out this one in me

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Thu 02/23/17 08:42 AM
Edited by lu_rosemary on Thu 02/23/17 08:43 AM
Good monrning, Peggy.

Usually it's Pow Pow Pow when someone is being rude to people in general and of course the so used : Whatever.

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Thu 02/23/17 08:44 AM


If someone says that to you during a heated discussion, would it annoy you?

What are some phrases people commonly say that make your blood boil?


probably bring out this one in me



Oh, just calm down. indifferent

[Runs for cover]

peggy122's photo
Thu 02/23/17 08:51 AM

Oooooh puuuuuuuuleeeeez.

Makes me wanna shoot em.


Oops! I use this one sometimes blushing

Just please dont shoot me in the head.
I want my face to look pweedy in the 6 o clock news happy

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