my story is long,i wish i didnt have that one relationship.ever had an affair?
i never thought of my self being involved in some thing like that.i met this girl on facebook. i fell for her in a few weeks.day after day my feeling grew even more.we where speaking for hours ad hours some days up to 6 hours on the phone.how cold i have known?!
after a while she accepts to meet me in a town called Minden.it was a beautiful day.longest train trip in my life,two hours turnd into years.she was the best thing that ever happend to me.we met at the train station,then we walked in the old town,had a Kaffee in one of the old places there. everything was so special and spontaneous.we held hands,kissed,looked into each others soul.then it was time to say goodbye.so soon?
we kept our casual relationship going for over six month,until she said it.she was married.
and then she left me!
right now i dont know whats worse, that she did this to me,or the fact that i still think about her.
i guess thats why im here,
to find out if what im feeling is love to her or just a void that i need to fill.
sorry for the long post.and the bad English.

so how was the Coffee in that little town.. strong?

I think it's both. Also deception is hard to handle. You cared for her and now you lost her and although you are upset she lied to you , you still care. It's a shitty situation and she probably was not getting attention at home that you were giving her , but when it got too serious she had to let you know.... Best thing for you to do is move on, go out on dates and meet friends... good luck

Okay, you never fell in love with HER. You fell in love with her online deception/fantasy.

I suggest that you review your EMOTIONAL decision making, even more carefully than you do your PHYSICAL decision making.

I remember when people were "falling in love" while playing World of Warcraft online. Ummmm. No. Just because you are a Lvl 30 Wizard doesn't mean you can cast a love spell on that Lvl 20 something hot sorceress who in real life is probably a dude.

You first met in the Railway station beneath the clock, but sadly it was all just a "Brief Encounter".

I'm interested

its hard to change your perspective when there are so many glamorous memories

but relationships are ups and downs,

you dodged a bulllet, if she was running around on one, she could easily run around on you,,,,,,she did the best thing breaking it off instead of keeping you 'on the side'


I doubt being a sidepiece would have given you such butterflies for long,,,,

Update, i broke up with her after that, she then got devorced. Tried ro reach out to me, couldn't do it! She got divorced. I have feelings for her, just the cheer amount of deception strangeld me. I had to say no. The hardest decision i ever made.

It was a kaffe that looked as its a medieval castel from the inside. Stone walls, low curved rood, dark and lid with candels.we where practically allone back there. Lets just say we got a littel bit intimate

Tahnk you for the advice. Wich i saw it earlier befor i had to realize it on my own. After all i did move on, i dont think she did.

Shes long gone by now

I did, cant say it didnt hurt. Specially when she always tries to get back together

Your Post is not Long!

Sorry for your disappointing experience with that woman.

Many women online are in relationship already. Ask before you meet in person!
Ask many personal questions and see how they answer Before you meet off Any dating sites.

People are deceiving on the internet.

Leave a married woman alone.

It happens all the time. You fell in love with the wonderful idea, not the liar. Anyone can make that idea seem real for so short a time. And we all crash hard when we realize the idea we fell in love with was nothing but smoke and mirrors.

Sorry for your bad experience.

So proud of you son! God's Word says, everything happens for our best. Thank God for this experience, because it didn't went too far. It shows you that people can have hidden plans. I promise you, now your "inner alarm system" is sharpened. God has provided for you a wonderful girl / lady, a true love.
Alles wird gut! Liebe Grüße von Mom Vera aus Hamburg

I could not have said that better. There is some deep void already there that is being looked to be fulfilled by someone else. Perhaps the OP can find a way to fill the void themself, and then others wont have such power to leave him feeling empty.

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It's a ministry of God, which He started 4 years ago. God knows about the struggling of the young men in this world. The burden on them is too much. He is using me to show them His motherly love. I am there to understand and to strengthen them, no matter the country or religion. I have more than 100 online sons (from Mingle2!!!) from France, Morocco, Tunesia, Lybia, Egypt, Senegal, Gambia, Kenya, Ivory Coast, Ghana, Nigeria, Cameroon, Lebanon, Syria, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Pakistan, India, Nepal Philippines, Malaysia. It is really amazing to learn from them.