Granted I have been on this site just a couple days but...where are the real men who honestly want a date or relationship??

I have never seen so many widowed in my entire past and present experiences with these sites!!
Not to dismiss those who truly are widowed but I have noticed that many or most of the men who list 'widowed' pretty much leave every other detail of the profile to the imagination. One can pretty much go down the list and almost the only thing listed is ethnicity and what they are looking for. Everything else is either blank or, "tell you later" .

Guys and gals I know it works both ways, there may be just as many women doing the same thing. Really though, if you are simply seeking a 'booty call' I'm pretty sure there are a lot of sites for that very purpose. Why bother going to a dating site?
It is unfortunate that there is so very much deception, so many fake profiles and scammers. I have blocked dozens of people for one of many reasons; they choose not to fill out a profile or only fill in a couple things, they don't include a photo (fair is fair), they begin a conversation (brand new) with 'baby', 'gorgeous' or some variation of 'you are my queen', they are across the country (long distance just doesn't work for most people),,,these are just a few reasons.

We've all been hurt or used at one time or another. We all have baggage of one kind or another. Why can't people follow the simple golden rule of "do unto others...'

I am so exasperated and honestly tired of all the phoniness. I didnt come to the site because I am in any way desperate for a relationship or afraid of being alone (I've actually had men say that to me, that they are).
I thought it would honestly be nice to find someone to share life experiences with, whether it turns out to be simply a friendship or otherwise. We all fear not being appreciated, that is something we all seek whether actively or not.

It's a shame that men (and women) can't be honest and allow past experiences and baggage to dictate every present action.


They say everything that happens is either a lesson or an opportunity. That seems like a great motto to live by or at least a wonderful affirmation to have.

Best wishes to all in this journey. Nobody said it would be easy. Let's all treat each other with kindness and honesty. Is that too much to hope for?

greetings op ... just stay in the forums till that special person finds you ... gosh ... not sure how long I have been in this site not one date what shall I do ...

keep in mind

booty calls are a form of short term 'dating'

just the FIRST date,,,lol


even though its tagged as a 'dating' site, its also a site for just networking, making friends,, etc,,,,, I think those options are even giving when making profiles


I hope you are able to enjoy the many options on mingle2

The thing about a free public dating site is that you encounter all different types of people from all different walks of life for all different reasons.
That is the first thing you need to understand about M2. We are different people from all over with different reasons for being here.

There are some honest profiles and after you read enough you can tell the fakes from the real ones...give it some time.

It also helps to remember that most everyone here is here because something failed in a previous relationship so there is fear of being hurt again if they show their true selves. Some are unwilling or even unable to be completely honest. If you need honesty you may need to actually contact the person you are interested in to personally ask them for it. Even then it is going to be a hit or miss kinda thing.

There is also a lot of people on these sites that have no idea what they want but they know they want something. They are here hoping that someone will come along that is what they have been looking for. Kinda like "I'll know it when I see it" searching.

I agree with mysticalview21, If you stay in the forums mostly you get to meet some really interesting personalities. There are some that are shallow but you will find some really great advice and support in the forums too. This topic of yours is honest and addresses many things that most of us are concerned with. It tells a lot about who you are and what you desire from M2. A wonderful contribution to the intent of dating communication. I have no doubt you will succeed in your task at hand as long as you stick with it.

Try to understand that not everyone is your match. It really only takes one, the rest are the chaff that reveals the grain. May you find your someone special and make some friends along the way...

It's a free international site. You're going to get a lot of chaff with the wheat. And being about the 10 billionth person to whine about it isn't going to earn you any points.

There's a difference between "whining" and sharing an opinion, which I thought was the point of these forums. Besides I also stated that it works both ways, it's not just men.
I'm also not looking to "earn points" as you refer to it. Just seeking friendly, respectful dialogue. Thank you

Thank you Ms harmony :) for your input. Best wishes to you as well here on mingle!

Thats the power of the internet people can pretend to be the characters they would like to be some good some bad mixed together.

Don't mind mowtown downtown whenever a woman gives their opinion or asks a question he considers it ranting or whining & takes it personally.

Haha. I can appreciate his point of view but also that of the OP. It's hard to know why things are the way they are until we give the situation some good thought. Scammers everywhere. Most "widowed" are probably scammers as well.

I have made a handful of lovely friends here Gypseyatheart. Even when I am not on mingle, I still communicate with them using other media.
I can't guarantee opportunities for romantic connections here but there are some lovely genuine people at the forum . I hope you stick around long enough to meet them. Good luck in your search

I noticed this also. Thought I would try it. I like you, am not desperate, and have been single for 3 yrs. One guy had messaged me briefly. Gave me his ph/email, said goodnight and "kisses". Really? End of that conversation. Then many have horrible pictures, or don't spell well. One does need to present themselves well.

Thank you peggy122 :) Yes I think the forums are the place to be. Whether I have a romantic connection or not I would just hope to find the same thing most everyone else wants, someone who is real, genuine. Given recent experiences I think I will stick with the friends.

Haha true what you said....maybe if he would crack a smile...:):)

Some People DO NOT KNOW me well, and some DON'T LIKE my sense of humor.

But, ..That's fine, since I am very much multicultural

YES, I'm a bit of a joker, a bit of a clown really, but that's the TYPICAL AUSSIE BLOKE in me, ( We Aussie blokes have what it takes ).

I am here also to find and meet some social/internet/cafe friends, and hopefully a nice lady friend my size my age. ( It is a small world these days, so distance is just a travel in time. and time, well, it's time to travel


I would love someone to exploit that side of me and send me a romantic comedy comment.

Really????? I have found Motown to be insightful at times....calling it as he sees it. I for one admire the trait.


OP first of all Welcome to Mingle...
Online is a whole set of different rules it takes time to learn them so if this is your first rodeo hold on...lol

One tool I have used with online dating if it sounds to good to be true it usually is.
I came onto the internet to broaden my dating pool nothing more, along the way I have made some life long friends...and found a wonderful man.

Best wishes in your search.

Yeah I'm just a woman hating knuckle dragging neanderthal, with an evil temperament and no sense of humor what so ever.

Well it's been only a few days. Good luck

Thank you for your post and honesty. I have felt some of your same frustration over the last 3 months. I got so frustrated that I don't even respond to emails anymore, just read them and either block or delete. But I do know that there are actually real people on this site. I have actually met one and even though we only click as friends, it's refreshing to have a new friend.

I recently decided to stick to the forums. I have read through them over the last 3 months and there seem to be interesting and nice people here. A lot of them have been on this site for a few years and you can tell they are real.

Good luck to you and hang in there.