Well hello there, and thanks for checking out my post. I need some advice/input on this. I am a good looking, tall, well built, forty-two year old, married white male. I am six foot four, two hundred twenty-five pounds, with brown hair and green/blue eyes.

For the record, my marriage is solid and sound, AND I have never stepped out on my wife.

However, I've been given a "pass". My wife is six months pregnant with our second child and for those six months "physical relations" have been a no-go. The same thing occurred a couple years ago during the first pregnancy and my wife gave me a "pass" then too, but I never used it.

Now that I've been given a "pass" for a second time I'm seriously considering it-- if I can find the right person. But is that even possible?

Is there really anyone HONEST and COOL out there who might be interested in my situation? A one time thing which doesn't necessarily have to be "full on all the way".
(I'm a very voyeuristic and verbal person with a SERIOUS fetish for pleasing lol) Does a woman open to something like this really exist?

Now please don't "judge" me based on this alone. I really am a good, fun and genuinely kind guy. I'm just in an interesting spot-- and would love an adventure (those are rare for me nowadays) using this "pass", but I'm not sure how to go about it or if I'll even have any success.
Any thoughts, advice, etc, would be appreciated!
Thanks!

Welcome to Mingle
Now as to the "pass" honestly if it was me I would pass on the pass
If you want to keep your marriage to stay strong and stable.
Good luck

Thank you. I appreciate that. Odds are I will. I didn't do it the first time I probably won't the second time either.

Sorry but I believe a commitment is a commitment. No passes.

Some preganant women might say this (face it: hormones, being big and not feeling secure, etc)...try it sometime. A "pass" won't work and is selfish IMO

At the present time, the OP has deactivated.

I agree with Sitka and Yellowrose. I'd pass on the pass. Doesn't matter that the OP deactivated.

Good golly, just when you think you've seen it all.

Seems the wife may be testing you a wee..
she wants you to pass on the Pass test.

So far you have done it.

Sounds like you are 'lusting in your heart'
(Jimmy Carter when asked as President if he
thought of other women) and might jump at
the chance your wife offered you..even then
it would still be cheating, you just will
have gotten away with it.

Who will explain it to the kids?
Tacky, tacky, tacky.

Indeed deactivated. Seems the latest fad?
Maybe not nice, but usually I don't even bother replying when someone is new. They've buggered off before you've finished your message.

That was a classic BS story

Humm yea it's a free pass straight to a Lawyer....

Which is different than a troll story!


I agree!
Or that it's BS billboarding.
Never waste an opportunity to ramble.


Is the pass transferable?
Can you sell it on ebay?
Invest in the new kids college future.


Not really.
There's not enough information.
For all I know the wife is a tormenting and controlling shrew.
Maybe she's asserting her control over the husband and the relationship.
"You can only do something, because I allow it. You have no free will or choice in the matter. The relationship is all about me, this relationship is mine, and if you're a good pet I will reward you."

For all I know the husband is whiny and annoying, saying things like "we're pregnant" and "omg, I'm gaining so much pregnancy weight too honey!" and she just wants a night of peace and quiet, a bed to herself, just one night to herself before she climbs a bell tower.

For all I know the wife was pressured and cajoled into saying the words. Like she's all mad about it. But the husband keeps bringing it up and pleading or threatening. And she's all "Fine. Whatever. You need me to say it? Okay, you can have a pass."

For all I know the wife is calculating and shrewd, or she's promiscuous and the kid isn't really the husbands.
So she's all "How do I allay this guilt I'm feeling? Or how can I not feel guilty for banging the new guy at work, rumored to have a 12 inch penis? Hmmm...I know. Honey? Yeah, I'm just thinking about you and your needs. You should go out and have fun. Yeah, that's it, you have a pass to do someone else this one time. (sotto voce...one for you, 10 for me)."

well some like to over analyze stuff.. dissect it.

Some just call it the way they see it.

And that had BS written all over it.

I can't imagine a wife ever offering something like that. My guess this is all made up

I offered it before

people in desperate times try desperate measures

but I would not recommend taking her up on it,, because although she may THINK its the answer when it is just a hypothetical

the REALITY may cause her to be affected differently than she thought she might

kind of like 'for better or worse',, usually is a well intentioned promise,, but its before the 'worse' becomes a reality ,,,



just a thought

In my opinion anyone who offers it up as a option or anyone who would take the offer has no respect for each other or for the vows they took.

You get your wife pregnant.. and she tells you can out and get laid that's its o.k...and you take her up on it.. then go on as nothing happened.. it doesn't affect the marriage at all?? Lol

Unbelievable... weird

Hmmm.. how come women never offer a free pass when there menstrating.. are going through the "change "now that's a free pass I would take her up on.lol..

honestly no1, I think one could go without for one short week,,,more easily than for nine long months


a pass for menstruating,,,,

I guess it just come down to personal choice, some feel it o.k. for their spouse to go out and have sex, although that smacks the whole marriage and respect thing right in the face.

What do you say to them as they are walking out the door?....happy humping, sweetheart.. dinner will be waiting for you when you get home?