i was engaged but he ended up cheating on me. I was there physically, emotionally, and sexually so there was no reason for it. I broke it off with him.

He wants to get back together. He said that he was sorry and that he said that he has a problem with commitment.

I still hurt but, also i'm over it at the same time. I just don't know.

Am i doing the right thing with not being with him?

So sorry to hear that :(

I think you are doing the right thing.. doesn't sound like he deserves you. You don't need the drama..

Yes. Take it from someone from the opposite sex who has been there. Sadly, I never saw it coming and she hid it from me for a long time.

However, I am happy again, you will move on, and don't let him butter you up. Life is cruel and people must pay for their mistakes. If he is resourceful he'll find someone else to make him happy. You will too.

Ry

HE CHEATED ONCE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN YOUR CALL

YEAH GIRL!!!

Drop that zero!!

By continuing the relationship.. you would be holding yourself back from your new blessings (the one you are supposed to be with)

You are doing good!!

Enjoy the single life for a while

hey !!!! sorry to say this read what you posted and ask yourself that again. wish you the best.

yeah it is the best thang that you dont get back with him cause no guy means it when they are sorry after they have cheated.guys do not have the same heart as a girl does.my opinion is "once a cheater, always a cheater".most people are going to tell you that you should always give a second chance cause yall were engaged and stuff.but i promise you i know how it feels.my ex-boyfriend lied to me for 7 months and i believed everything he told me, even though people told me he was cheating on me and he was lying to me.well, me and him had talked about actually getting married once he was done with high school.cause i graduated this past year and he is graduating this year.well we dated and he cheated on me..and i usually give a second chance so i gave him one and he did the same thing again.and that is when i learned that a second chance aint always a good thing.

but honestly its your choice and its if you believe he is going to actually be different or just do it again.but whatever you decide make sure its what you really want.heres a saying that has always stuck with me - "everyone is going to hurt you, but you have to decide who is actually worth the pain"! so just decide what you thank is the best! but good luck :)

I think you are doing the right thing. You don't deserve to be disrespected like that. I've always felt that if someone loves you "enough"...they would NEVER do anything to intentionally hurt you. You deserve better girl!

People DO change....Follow your own heart

I cheated on my girlfriend a few years ago, but we decided to stay together, and i honestly changed. I am a better person than I was then. Granted, I was a teenager, and am more mature now. Nevertheless, things were fine for awhile, but a few months ago she left me. She couldn't be sure that i was the one she wanted to be with.

I don't advocate cheating. I would regret what i did, but i believe i am better for making my mistakes, and learning from them.

MY advice (coming from someone who was once weaker, and selfish), is to continue on without him. Maybe he did change, but there will ALWAYS be a piece of trust missing in your relationship, and who knows if you'll get it back.

If you two cross paths later in life, and you feel something for eachother, go for it. But for right now, i'd move on...

There is no reason to cheat no matter what. He can come up with a million excuses but that is all they are, excuses. Men that have a problem with commitment that want to get through it will discuss their fears with you, not cheat. (Women too)

Once the trust is gone, what's left? You will wonder where he is every moment he is not with you.

I am sorry that you have to go through this but stay strong! Time will become your best friend. With any luck in the very near future you will be greatful that you got out before you married him.

If you get back with him it will always be in your mind what he did and you will never feel secure with him. Best to leave it alone. JMO

He had a choice to be faithful or cheat. He cheated, I have been there myself they say it will not happen again but it seems to. However, I am not an expert on relationships. What I can tell you is follow your heart.

Hiya Thunder

It's very hard to take off the rose colored glasses when you love someone. It's even harder when the relationship you have is a good one and you are compatible. That's what makes cheating so hard to understand and why it hurts so much. My ex-fiance did the same thing to me. We had been together 4 years,and I made the mistake, against my better judgement of giving him a second chance. I did not trust him, but I was trying to work through it and give him the opportunity to prove he meant what he said to me. Always look at the actions, not the pretty words you hear. Six weeks after this occurred, he was sent out of town for several weeks on business. He met and ran off with a woman he knew for 4 weeks.
The fact he would cheat when you are engaged, shows he did not value what he had. Only you can make the decision of what to do, but go into it with eyes wide open if you do.

You are doing the right thing. What he did is absolutely a huge slap in the face. You can do better. Forgive him? Maybe. Forget? Never. Good luck to you.

It's hard to give advice on topics like this but go with your gut you know him and chances are you know if he's lying even if you don't want to belive it. And based on that also know people never change.

Sorry you got hurt hon

But kick him to the curb

aww babygirl im sorry to hear dat!
dayum it sucks to see you sweet awesome worth girls hurt!
*sighs*

Yea def. doing the right thing.. realize it's your health that is at stake as well.


A friend had once told me, "rekindling a bad relationship is like taking a gallon of milk out of the fridge, opening it to find it spoiled, and putting it back in saying "It'll be ok tomorrow."



History only repeats itself. goood luck.