What I am noticing is.. that in getting to know someone, their mannerisms and habits are either attractive and/or endearing to you, or they aren't ..it could be in the intonation of how they speak; a flip of the hand; a giggle; the way in which something is done..;
I'm just commenting ..as it is just a step on the way to knowing someone and being comfortable with their ways.. and vice/versa of course.

When I am in love, pretty much everything about them
is attractive to me.

Rose-colored glasses here :-)

I take the package, as is. No returns.

once we know why we know (epiphany) what we know sets us free.....yet most just

except it as fact.....the fact is we make up our own reality about the world

and

others and even ourselves.....most have so much noise running around in there


heads they never get a chance to really hear themselves....we are all looking

for a image in our heads to connect to (another) who will give us what no one


has before (the magic person)....and that person will not be a emotional

stranger...

Yeah, this has been my experience and my observation with other people. When you are really hot to trot for someone, you might find yourself claiming that the way they pick their nose and smear it on your couch is graceful and artistic.

On the other hand, when you take a strong dislike for someone, you might equally find yourself suspecting them of duplicity, because they say please and thank you, help little old ladies across the street, pay their debts on time, and smile politely when you speak to them.

I've been wondering about this one myself. Cos to be honest, I don't think I've come across anything as of yet that I don't like or that makes me think 'Oh well, I'll get used to it' or "it's not so bad".
And then weeks/months down the line end up getting annoyed over these very same things.

I remember with my ex such things were there from the word go, but I ignored them. And yes, later on they annoyed the cr@p out of me.

But so far I haven't come across anything like that at all.

Be careful to not observe too closely...you may discover they chew too loud...or their knee clicks when they walk. Then before you know it, you can't stand how annoying they are.

Isn't there another option of not noticing a mannerism and habits if they don't elicit an attraction and/or endearing response, or repulsion?

Do you believe people notice every single mannerism and habit someone else has?

Or are you saying it's part of the natural judging process?
To constantly look for and label every pattern that presents itself into something like "good" or "bad," or, "attractive" or "not attractive/annoying" as a means of trying to label and define the other person?

This is me... Hands down.

I admit I am intolerant of certain habits. Like chewing food with mouth open, slurping their drink, chewing gum. It seems to be all food and drink related

But surely that is about manners? It's perfectly acceptable to want to meet someone with good manners IMO

Little eccentricities are fine - in fact I tend to be drawn to people like that. I like someone who is a bit quirky and different

Eccentricities, sure ... I can appreciate those too. But that's more about personality.
But annoying habits ... things like brushing teeth in the shower, peeing all over the bog...
And also the default example: not putting the top back on the toothpaste. In the past I laughed about that, cos I thought it silly. Yet I found it does annoy me.

I am going to answer from the 'getting to know' stage, which is well before the being in love stage,,,,for me


someone who smacks while eating or eats like its gonna run off the plate, is a turn off,,,,


someone who is constantly bullying, complaining about, or insulting others is a turn off as well

someone who constantly self aggrandizes,, BIG TURNOFF

someone with little sense of humor or someone who is NEVER serious,,,turnofffs


someone who seems to argue for arguments sake,, turnoff

someone who is never wrong,, turnoff


someone who sweats the little stuff,, turnoff

someone hung up on 'class' type customs (what fork people use, or what wine they choose,,etc,,),,,,turnoff


someone who burps or farts for laughs,, turnoff


someone who is suspicious of everyone,,,turnoff


someone who always tries to 'win'.....turnoff


...at almost 50, there is a list of others that I have learned really turn me off,, but I will stop there,,,

Being raised with good manners goes a long way.I have my own set of deal breakers but trying to look deeper.If I still feel bad vibes,the best of luck talk.I have an issue with energy vampires.

Oh please don't get me started on mannerism. I waited for 15 minutes in line today only to have the guy behind me order coffee for he and his wife. I said I was next what did you think I was in this line for. He said oh.