Do you know anyone who has a lot of positive qualities , but you can only take them in doses because their energy/aura is too intense for you?

Its nothing bad about the person , but something about your combined energy doesnt always gel well.

How do you cope with people who pursue your company even as friends , when you think they are too much?

I am the one that's too much, lol

I can vouch for that...she is relentless.

Haha. so far , you dont come across that way to me Seak

But if other people describe you that way, how does it impact your friendships?

Oh Max... you really are too much

I am aware that high energy people tend to suck the life outta the room

especially the ones who like to be on display

like to be in the lime light

highly needy and often insecure

or the ones who just want someone to listen

will talk your ear off

Actually,more people seem to be intimidated by me rather than me being too much. I have lots of friends from a small area. But it seems people are intimidated by my so called powerful aura. It impacts my life positively and negatively at times. People that want to try to use me for whatever purpose eventually give themselves away. Positively, I can get along in a room full of powerful people which is great for networking if necessary.

You hit the nail on the head Tmom. All the people that I perceived as too much had one or more of those qualities , and to be fair , maybe there are people that think the same way about me.

It goes both ways

Ah.. that makes sense, any qualities that work for us negatively in one environtment usually can work positively in other areas. Also, we have no control over synergy. The energy we possess that some reject us for is sometimes the energy that makes us attractive to others. Its just about making compatible connections I guess :}

I tend to be quiet and quite reserved so I don't really have the clash of personalities, if that's what it is.

Even with quiet people I don't mind a bit of silence, comfortable silence.

What I don't like are loud mouths, can't be doing with them, I just stay very quiet in their company, I don't laugh at their jokes and they soon get the message, and if that's not enough I just tell them straight, I don't like you.

I think there's a big difference between positive energy and positivly getting on someones nerves, and more fool them if they can't see that they're not your cup of tea.

But I'm sure, in fact I know that I'm not everyones cup of tea, and therefore I just don't bother with them.

I learn to say "no" and not feel guilty about it?


It sets boundaries?

I am underwhelming, 'laid back', largely because I have been on the receiving end of so many who were just 'too much' and do not wish to become one


extremes arent for me,,, whether its the side of being conpsiracist, martyr, who is always on the negative or suzy sunshine who is always on the positive


balance is more my preference

I typically appear laid back. People have asked me how I can be so calm when meetings getting hostile and go south at work. I am nervous inside but it doesn't show. I prefer to listen and speak when something needs to be said. I wish more did that. I'm so tired of listen to what movies people recently viewed instead of the business plans that need to be discussed. Some have mistakenly taken me for an easy target that will not respond appropriately. Those who are aware of me know that I will dress people down verbally when necessary in a very polite manor that leaves them cowering in their seat. I have to admit it works really well. They shut the hell up.

However, when it is time to joke a round, I can be a bit of a jack azz. Sometimes I push too much or go to far. I regret some one the pranks I have pulled on people over the years. But, for the most part I have really enjoyed them.

One woman in the office decided to continue to come to work when she was sick. She was constantly sneezing. It was quite irritating. So, I went extra early to work on a Monday and completely filled her cubical with Kleenex. I shot out the tissues like making dollars rain in the gentleman's club. I couldn't stop laughing. I ended up wasting about 14 boxes. She finally got the message and we all got a good laugh out of it.

I'm usually quiet but some people say I'm intense. Probably because I look them directly in the eye and pause before I speak.

My natural Melmacian awesomeness is too much for you Humans, which is why I disguise myself as a Human whenever I am among you.

This is brilliant Pegs!


That's not an admission!

I enjoy comfortable silence too Joe. And its hard for me to ignore them, especially because they are usually not bad people per say. They are just so much to take in all at once. Many naps required

I admit. I do feel guilty for saying no if the person is really nice

Balance and consistency have been the most elusive qualities to find in a mate MsH.

Sigh... And still we rise...

I know I am too much at times for myself..
That is when I take a time out and get myself back in sync.

I also believe at times we all can be too much..
Too much energy
Too much personality.
Too much woe is me...

etc...