I have been married to my wife for almost 10 yrs now. We have been seperated for almost a year. We have 2 kids together. We had a rocky marriage....as in we argued alot. I worked my tail off to try to make a life that was good enough fro her...not that she demanded it, but I felt she deserved it.
Anyways, she cheated on me...I was asked to move out. We have filled for divorce...and from all appearances, she hates me. Yeah, we argued tons...I believe in my heart that we could have learned to communicate...it was not that we could not agree..but that we had communication beariers...biggest is that I suffer from an anxiety disorder that took a long time to properly diagnose. I was a consistant worrier.
Well, I have tried dating and all sorts of things to get over her. I still love her despite what we are going through...funny, that I pray for her and in that I found forgivness for her...and love her more now than I ever have. However, she is spinning out like she is on a path of discovery...but caught in a black hole that she doesnt even see. She really seems like she hates me. She refuses to even speak with me...and makes me out to be dangerous.
Will I ever get over her? Will I be doomed to be lonesome forever? What do I do with the love that I have for her? I miss her so much...I dont even sleep anymore. What can I do? Please...somebody help! If you pray..please keep us in your prayers....

You will get over her. ITs up to you. I have been there was married longer.Do the right things stop think.We can never yell or insult or be mean. Just be the bigger person.Do your best to be a good parent, by example.Never let your children hear a word of insult about your ex.They will notice everthing you do.
Take time find out who you are again. Then you will find the right one.

ya know hun, I truly believe everything happens for a reason. even when we don't fully understand the reason. things can be even tougher when there are mental issues like anxiety disorder involved. people don't understand the things you do until after they have already chosen to leave you behind, then they are afraid to try and go back to fix things. I know that this has to hurt you a lot. maybe part of the things that make it look to you like she hates you, is that she still really doesn't fully understand things and most people, unfortunately are afraid of what they don't understand. this is sad, but true. the only thing i can tell you is that time does make the hurt easier to deal with and the fact that you have her in your prayers just shows that you have what it takes to deal with this and get through it a stronger person. I wish you all the best, Hun.

Thanks yall. I go through periods...where it seems like I will be okay...and then out of nowhere comes something to remind me of her. Cars that look like hers...tv shows we used to watch together...a perfume...funny little things. I am sometimes affraid to enjoy life, because something might remind me of her.

Time it takes time.I hope you have a few good friends, family support helps too. IT will not be easy . Hang in there.

i'm so sorry for your broken heart...

I will pray for you both ...

God bless you dear man

Love and hugs

Vanessa

This year started with heartbreak for me my brother.Im so over it.a wounded heart will make your entire body and soul sick.Everybody here is so supportive bro and so am i.Just remember chicks are nuts,who knows what to do.You could be perfect everyday and they can still change their mind about ya.Just keep chuggin along and you'll make it up that hill.

I agree with what was said above. The biggest thing is time...time...and more time. My ex bad mouthed me all the time...I bit my tongue about her. The kids came to live with me, I'm sure it wasn't the only reason but they said they couldn't live with the constant bitterness and complaining

yeah...thanks for yalls support and prayers. I really appreciate it. I never thought I would ever be reaching out to anyone for advice...crazy aye? When I signed up for here...she showed up as the first person in my matches. It flipped me out for a while...

Okie, how old are your kids?

10 and 3...they are awsome. My son seems depressed though, and I have had to to endure every weekend them telling me how much they hate their mommy. I keep telling them not to...and that she loves them. My son says if she loved him she would listen to his feelings and not be so selfish...i dont know how to answer that for him. I just know that I cant say bad things about her in front of them. The best thing I have been able to tell my son is to pray...but I am affraid he is loosinf faith.

oh...and i type in the dark...so i mis-spell lots...sorry. LOL

Mine were 2 and 4, I'm not good at advise. I can only tell you that I always said that mom must have her reasons for what she does. The most important thing I did was to prove to them that I was always there for them...whether it was a hug, a kiss or financially. (which can be tough)
One thing I did was to make sure I lived close enough that they could come over anytime. They stayed over on Tue. & Thur. and every other weekend but it didn't take long they were with me everyday...kids are smart, they figure things out on they're own.

I believe you will get over her...the thing to concentrate on is the kids.

time, time, time. it's what you'll need. it sucks cause you didnt ask for this. you didnt ask to be kicked out of the house. you didnt ask to be a part time dad. but fight the good fight. dont be a wimp and give her what she wants. you already did that. be strong and stand up for yourself cause if you dont, no one else will. be the best dad you can be (you already are ) and yeah its going to hurt for a long while, but time will help you then you'll say to yourself "why did i waste so much time wondering and thinking about her"? well all i can say is we're here for you and dont you forget it!!

My kids figured out. We are good now. Been devorsed 5 years.It took time for my children to decifer everything.MY house is always home to my children
I wish you the best

See...the kids figure out what is good and what is right...just be you...if you try to change the kids will know...I'm sure you already do ...but I learned from my late dad 'cause he never did this,you tell your kids that you love them everytime you say 'bye

Oakie I gotta go...I've added you as a friend...we'll talk.
Keep your head up, things will get better.

hey...that is awesome advice yall. I do tell them I lve them everytime I say bye. I did not hear this from my dad much. I want my little ones to know..if i get hit by a bus tomorrow, they will never have to doubt if they were loved by dad.

YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE HER AS SHE IS THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN

ONLY TIME WILL HEAL YOUR WOUNDS..... GO OUT AND ENJOY LIVE AS IT IS....BE HAPPY AND SMILE