Okie, everyone is right just always be there for your kids and make them know none of this was their fault. when at a lose for what to tell them, just be honest with them and say "I don't know why things happen like they do, but God has a reason for everything"

there is one thing I do know for sure...if God brings you to it...He will bring you through it! try to always believe that. and your friends at JSH are here for support. hang in there sweetie!

They need you forever.BE there for them.Your love will show. Its not bought or sold with gifts.They play the weak parent.Be constant,supportive,be positive.

get some anger management classes learn how to communicate...or you'll bring it all to the next one

What you need mate is to control your anxiety and work on your self-esteem. Once you feel more confident you will realise your ex was not worthy of your heart. Yes, you can get back together but that reunion are never happy because you will never forget what she did

anger management? LOL...LOL! I got something better than that...it is called grace and forgiveness mercy and compassion! I found it at the foot of a cross. Yes I have anxieties...and i am working on them quiet well. As far as depression...it is hard to not be depressed over loosing everything to a woman that could not be faithful and was angry all the time herself.

Best way to get over her is get someone else! Or at least a hobby.

You want to get over it brother forgive her. Has hard as it seems, and go on, for yourself and your children. Until you can forgive her you wont find peace trust me been there done that. Once I decided I wanted her to have all the joy and happiness in the world and to be safe, I realized I forgave her and I became at piece with myself.

Respect

Thunder Bear

Forgiveness is something everyone should have always but that don't mean it will make things return to what it was before. Be realistic about the whole thing that brought you to question your situation and your problem.

The minute your ex cheated on you she took away something special that connects you both as a couple. It's broken, nothing you can do but wish you both will reunite naturally. Trying to use the kids to manipulate her to return is not the answer either, though you both owe it to the kids to continue to be responsible parents and always love and protect them.

Broken hearts suck!! Hang in there and good luck...the kids will need you more now than ever, so concentrate on them.

Sin...in what way do you think the kids are being manipulated here...or did you just put that out in general? I do not have any intentions of that, the only thing I have said to my kids about her is that she loves them...and to my son, he asked about praying for her as he is old enough to know for himself what she did because she shared it with him and he knows it wass wrong...so he prays for her. I would not manipulate them that way....I am a child of divrced parents and I know how much that sucks...I dont want them going through what I went through.

I think you need to get to know you and what you want. Its always been what do we want? Now you are a single person again..so learn to be single and learn to know yourself. It takes a lot of time to heal..especially when your partner cheated. It took me a very long time to come to terms with things...I do think you have to go through so many different things, being sad then being mad about it.
I think the hurt turns to anger...I know mine did, but then I realized that he just wasn't worth it. I think you just have to dig down deep and find out who you really are, who are you without her? Live life for you and those children now. You will soon find out how great it is to be without her...because if you can't trust her..you really don't want her.
I hope you find happiness and I know you will...its just going to take time. You know what they say...time heals all wounds. Good luck to you, be happy and healthy