Hi mingle2 mates. I like reading community threads and the main reason I am still here.

Sometimes after reading a thread I get so curious that I read the writer's profile. Surprisingly this occassionally attracts some writers to e-mail me. Some are younger than my youngest child. One wrote ''I am sorry with me you have to prove who you are first...''.

Is looking at a profile suggestive?

Sometimes I accidentally bump into it and sometimes I'm just curious. Every now and then someone reads more into it like what you've experienced. I just politely reply that I was just curious but not dating at the moment, etc.

It doesn't happen often. The profiles are there for us to look at, for whatever reason...it's the whole premise of the site.

I just checked your profile to make a point haha

and Welcome to Mingle

Is looking at a profile suggestive? No for me.

I agree on Miss Tulip's take :)

Good Vibes!

Generally if you have been on line for awhile you know people look but it doesn't mean much.

Maybe if they do it often and are frequently posting responses in your threads or where you post it might be flirting or trying to get to know you a little.

Lot of people just make on line friends who have common interests or situations because it is easy and less of a problem than real world relationships where people use what they know against you in work, family, or other situations.

IMO it's the equivalent of looking at someone that just walked into a room.


Most people go to sites that are meant for social interaction, to socially interact.
So why would attempts at social interaction be surprising?


Existing is suggestive to some people.

No, not at all.

No it's not suggestive or the same as a nudge, just people browsing in my opinion, although it is nice to know you are attracting attention and your profile is being viewed. However, some people clearly do hope it does mean something like a nudge and will contact you. There is a stealth mode you can select which allows you to view other peoples profiles without it registering in their "who viewed me", but you now need to upgrade from standard membership to use it.

NO, not all all

not at all, i often read someone's profile if i have seen them on the forums for example, or if they are new members.doesn't mean i want to rip her knickers off lol

Or that you want a visa to the Himalayan mountains to meet Yetti

probably more chance of getting a conversation out of yeti than alot of women on here

on here? if you are a regular poster and another regular poster visits your profile it's usually referred to as perving ya..really it just means they are curious and want to take a look at something or read it.



nope not same as a nudge

This is the only site, that I know that people refer to it as ' perving '... as if there is something wrong or dirty or sexual about wanting to know something about a stranger before you message, or post to them... & then there are those who say people only look at a pic & don't read profiles.

Not to me. I remember there was a time that I clicked on a name instead of the topic I wanted to read. Point is, never assume.

Now, if the person looks at your profile several times a week, that would be different. :)

There was a time when I liked reading profiles because some of them were hilarious. There was a thread here years ago about funny or unusual profiles. I think that started my curiosity. I wanted to see if what they were saying were true. Some of the pictures I saw then gave me laughing fits. Ah, I miss stealth mode.

Thank you mates. My point exactly. Profiles on social media are to be looked at. And if it is like looking at a person entering a room, why would they react in the mannersome people do here? If I would be first to write I would greet and introduce myself, regardless of whether the person had looked at my profile or not or they looked at me when I entered the room or not.

Looking at a profile means nothing. You could be curious or just wanting to be reminded of something you thought you remembered about a poster.

Some posters show a perspective that might be a common theme for people from Europe, Canada, parts of the US, or whatever. As the world of political correctness grows, it is interesting to see what people think is the "norm" or "obvious" or whatever. Looking at a profile might shed some light on politics, gun ownership, religion, or even food.

But clicking on a profile does NOT mean a show of "interest" in the dating sense.

On a side note, usually the nudges are a "put off" unless you have, in some way, made friends first.

some are needy

I think looking is just looking,

gosh, if everyone I 'looked' at in real life thought I was interested it would be a CATASTROPHE,,,,,

Profiles are meant to be looked at, especially on a dating/social site. I have a tendency to view a person's profile. Means I had some sort of interest about the person. Whether or not I send a message, that's a different story.

Nudges = annoying from those that don't know me, or have made some sort of communication.

wtf are those really for anyhow

so and so has sent you a hug
or a nudge or kicked ya in butt


but yet they don't bother to say hi?