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Don't want to go through another divorce
It was to much the first time Only marry again if he showed me that he loves me |
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Yes, but there are no garantees in life.
So, the real question would be...is the chance that it may all go down in burning flames worth the possibility that next time it will be right? |
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Yes, but there are no garantees in life. So, the real question would be...is the chance that it may all go down in burning flames worth the possibility that next time it will be right? 
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Yes, but there are no garantees in life. So, the real question would be...is the chance that it may all go down in burning flames worth the possibility that next time it will be right? Yes, and if one more person tells me "When it's right you'll know it"...well darl'in violence may ensue. |
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Sounds about right. Good thing is, if there's a next time, you'll be eyes wide open. Not a starry eyed 20-something anymore. Personally, I believe there's something more special with, let's say more mature, love. This ... said that before here to the same question. If I was to marry again, which I would really want IF it really really feels right, it would be so different from when I was 24. What do you know about life, the universe and everything at 24? Nothing! Which is good, you aren't supposed to know what a 49 year old knows at age 24. You gotta live life to get there. But it would be a far more conscious thing, far more aware of the commitment I'd be making. Back then it was more something you just did. And NO, it didn't feel like that back then, but now, being older and wiser, and looking back, it WAS a tad like that. Just because you're not so knowledgeable, yet. Plus back then it was also because I wanted kids, the so called nuclear family, and wanting all the legal bollox taken care off properly. That was part of the reason as well. That's not part of the equation anymore. So yes, I would want to get married again. And I would want a handfasting too, meaning literally jumping over the broom, lol |
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Edited by
NorCalSwe
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Fri 08/07/15 02:00 PM
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Sounds about right. Good thing is, if there's a next time, you'll be eyes wide open. Not a starry eyed 20-something anymore. Personally, I believe there's something more special with, let's say more mature, love. This ... said that before here to the same question. If I was to marry again, which I would really want IF it really really feels right, it would be so different from when I was 24. What do you know about life, the universe and everything at 24? Nothing! Which is good, you aren't supposed to know what a 49 year old knows at age 24. You gotta live life to get there. But it would be a far more conscious thing, far more aware of the commitment I'd be making. Back then it was more something you just did. And NO, it didn't feel like that back then, but now, being older and wiser, and looking back, it WAS a tad like that. Just because you're not so knowledgeable, yet. Plus back then it was also because I wanted kids, the so called nuclear family, and wanting all the legal bollox taken care off properly. That was part of the reason as well. That's not part of the equation anymore. So yes, I would want to get married again. And I would want a handfasting too, meaning literally jumping over the broom, lol You put this much more eloquently than I did. This is exactly what I meant. Looking back I married the first time, near the end of college, because of a fear of being alone. That fear is long gone.I loved my first wife (Yes TMommy, I said it) but really more as a good friend. I know who I am so much better now than back then. |
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Sounds about right. Good thing is, if there's a next time, you'll be eyes wide open. Not a starry eyed 20-something anymore. Personally, I believe there's something more special with, let's say more mature, love. This ... said that before here to the same question. If I was to marry again, which I would really want IF it really really feels right, it would be so different from when I was 24. What do you know about life, the universe and everything at 24? Nothing! Which is good, you aren't supposed to know what a 49 year old knows at age 24. You gotta live life to get there. But it would be a far more conscious thing, far more aware of the commitment I'd be making. Back then it was more something you just did. And NO, it didn't feel like that back then, but now, being older and wiser, and looking back, it WAS a tad like that. Just because you're not so knowledgeable, yet. Plus back then it was also because I wanted kids, the so called nuclear family, and wanting all the legal bollox taken care off properly. That was part of the reason as well. That's not part of the equation anymore. So yes, I would want to get married again. And I would want a handfasting too, meaning literally jumping over the broom, lol You put this much more eloquently than I did. This is exactly what I meant. Looking back I married the first time, near the end of college, because of a fear of being alone. That fear is long gone.I loved my first wife (Yes TMommy, I said it) but really more as a good friend. I know who I am so much better now than back then. Yeah, that's basically it, isn't it? Knowing who you are and what you need, which is not always the same as what you want. Less driven by insecurities or fears or needs (like children) than you were when younger. |
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Yes, but there are no garantees in life. So, the real question would be...is the chance that it may all go down in burning flames worth the possibility that next time it will be right? Yes, and if one more person tells me "When it's right you'll know it"...well darl'in violence may ensue. 
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oh and there's nothin wrong with admitting ya loved your spouse
cripes I sure hope ya did
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I am not looking to run right out and lasso someone (still need to finalize the first divorce). I think that the ending of my marriage shouldn't be a deciding factor on another one. I just think that I will be more cautious about which relationships I choose to enter into and if a relationship is one to solidify with marriage vows.
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Yes, but there are no garantees in life. So, the real question would be...is the chance that it may all go down in burning flames worth the possibility that next time it will be right? 
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maybe asking a woman going thru a divorce if she will ever marry again is kinda like asking a woman who just spent hours in labor giving birth how many more kids she wants to have..
if ya ask her right after? she probably gonna say I ain't ever going thru this again couple years later? might get a different answer
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Well, I've tried it twice now and here I am on a dating site
 . Maybe marriage isn't meant to be for me, but I know it can last, my parents were married for 50 years. I would probably give it some thought, I guess it would depend on the guy and what kind of relationship we have, we might just be happy living together.....who knows, guess time will tell.
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Edited by
no1phD
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Fri 08/07/15 08:04 PM
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Hell no... putting aside the cost the hassle... the months and months of preparations.. not to mention Licking all those invitation envelopes yuck..
 .. what is the point really! outside of the legal aspects division of property Wills children... and the fact that you can say at parties he or she belongs to me... As someone says! oh that's such a bonus...  .. .. what do you have? a piece of paper And a set of rings.... I believe the minute you say to one another those immortal last words... Let's get married.. you have basically signed a contract with each other in blood at that moment..... and really! isn't that enough just the commitment to one another... so no I don't think I would get married again.... but I Would say !..I will see you tomorrow.. sure .. |
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pfffft ..thought it was gonna be that whole 'vanilla ice cream for rest of your life ' thing again for you NO1
want to say thanks peops for all the responses.. think sometimes we come off as flippant, sometimes callous, sarcastic but think it helps sometimes for others to catch but a small glimpse of who is behind the curtain
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Edited by
no1phD
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Fri 08/07/15 08:20 PM
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I've done the whole vanilla ice cream "thing".. now I crave something more exotic like..hmm.. like butterscotch with little bits of Toffee in it...mmm..
. I don't know There's so many flavors of ice cream These days ..is hard to pick just one.  |
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I did not read all of the post due to most that I did seem to have a bad experience. Mine was not roses but that was the past... Those you meet in the future have nothing to do with your past... See them for who they are~~~
It is sad that so many will say never all because of the past............ The next person that comes into your life deserves your all not a never or a maybe.... they deserve at least a chance that you gave the one before them.. I will never say never, but the ones that point blankly will say Never... those I by pass... they have not gotten past the last relationship... They may think they have, but they are only fooling themselves.... Sure as I have gotten older I have gotten picky... but I will never say never... I will give my all, to the one that catches my attention.... Would I marry again? Sure if the right one comes around again... in a heartbeat.... But.... it is not something I expect or need.... |
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Sucks on a lifesaver until the hole is big enough.. gets down on one knee pick me pick me lol never give up on love
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If I do then it's the Wayne Newton Vegas wedding baby!
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with the right gal?,,would love to...just dont see it happening,,,
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